Re: NEED HELP WITH WIFE
Earlier in this thread, you mentioned that your wife has not really opened up to her therapist. It's wonderful that she is in therapy, but could you explain to her that a therapist working with important gaps in patient history is just as handicapped as an MD who is unaware that his patient had cancer? For her to really make progress and get happier and healthier, she needs to share these things with her therapist. If she doesn't feel safe with that particular counselor, she should ask for a referral to another.
If bringing up the abuse is too traumatic for her, perhaps you could ask her if it would be okay if you went with her to one session with her, and YOU did the initial telling of her story to the therapist. After that, it might not be so daunting, and she and the therapist could work on it themselves. Sometimes it's just almost impossible to get the words out to describe something so horrible.
I'm writing all about the therapy because I believe that's the thing that's going to help this situation. Your wife is fragile and vulnerable, but she's also putting unreasonable pressure on you, albeit probably not deliberately. For your marriage and your education, I strongly suggest that she fully commit to therapy. There will surely be things that you can/should do to help her, but as far as this jealousy and unhappiness goes, it's really up to her. Just love her and be supportive, which you're already doing. Best of luck to both of you.
This is a classic case, the man is busting his behind for his family to provide a better life for his wife and daughter and has to deal with this. If you were lazy bum and did nothing you would still be the bad guy.
...Your wife needs help and she needs to be mature enough to want to change. ....I know I am probably going to get killed by the female nurses but geezz for a guy it can be extremely frustrating understanding (well trying to understand) women.........yes I am finished
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