My girlfriend is afraid that I might meet another girl in the nursing program... - page 3

She has some concern, but honestly I don't blame her. I'll be going to school with lots of beautiful nursing students and we will all be working closely together. Also they say your classmates in nursing school become friends for... Read More

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    Quote from ThePhilster
    She has some concern, but honestly I don't blame her. I'll be going to school with lots of beautiful nursing students and we will all be working closely together. Also they say your classmates in nursing school become friends for life. This closeness with other girls seems to always threaten the current girl in your life in my experience. Also she said that I probably wont have that much time for her. 1 day per week I'm guessing?? I start nursing school in 1 year from now.


    I do not plan on hooking up/dating any of my classmates because 1) I love my girlfriend and she could possibly become my wife 2) I do not want to jeopardize in anyway my schoolwork.


    Input?
    Keep it simple man. Tell her there's not going to be anyone in the program as beautiful as her. As far as the time commitment goes, be honest but show her you're determined to do your best. Let her know while your time together will suffer for a while, you're doing this to build a better life for the both of you.
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    If you want to be a nurse go for it. If you have trouble now with her what will you experience when you are in school. She sounds to be very possessive. If she can't understand your dream and a little thing like going to school with women bothers her this much, what is she going to be like when you get a job and most of your co-workers are women. Sit her down and say this is what I'm going to do for the rest of my life. If you have a problem with that, if you can't trust me, well so long. Don't trade your dreams for hers.
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    Quote from Merlyn
    If you want to be a nurse go for it. If you have trouble now with her what will you experience when you are in school. She sounds to be very possessive. If she can't understand your dream and a little thing like going to school with women bothers her this much, what is she going to be like when you get a job and most of your co-workers are women. Sit her down and say this is what I'm going to do for the rest of my life. If you have a problem with that, if you can't trust me, well so long. Don't trade your dreams for hers.
    Bravo, this is a flawless response to this original issue. Well done sir!
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    Quote from Gradius
    Bravo, this is a flawless response to this original issue. Well done sir!
    Thank you. I've been were the OP is and I'm no Cary Grant.
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    Honestly, you will probably still have a wife during and after nursing school, but you will probably end up with a new girlfriend too. The tension is a little hard to miss during nursing school, so just enjoy it while it is there.
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    Quote from Merlyn
    If you want to be a nurse go for it. If you have trouble now with her what will you experience when you are in school. She sounds to be very possessive. If she can't understand your dream and a little thing like going to school with women bothers her this much, what is she going to be like when you get a job and most of your co-workers are women. Sit her down and say this is what I'm going to do for the rest of my life. If you have a problem with that, if you can't trust me, well so long. Don't trade your dreams for hers.
    This deserves re-quoting ... excellent response and sums it up nicely.

    Don't be afraid to speak up and let her know that this is a REAL issue. You REALLY do NOT want to deal with this headache while in nursing school! She needs to accept your decisions and your new life and she's either in or she's out. Her paranoia about this all a year from your being in school is a HUGE red flag, you need to avoid ignoring that. Not telling you to break up with her now (I mean, I would ... but that's just ME), but if you can't come to terms with her about this and it will be an ongoing problem while you're in school, you need to say goodbye. You can only get through nursing school with people that won't give you grief along the way.
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    I have been in your same spot but if you are upfront and honest with you lady she will not have nothing to worry about. When it comes to studying always in a public place no ones house. Introduce your classmates to your woman. The main things is honesty and communication.
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    Quote from ebenton07
    I have been in your same spot but if you are upfront and honest with you lady she will not have nothing to worry about. When it comes to studying always in a public place no ones house. Introduce your classmates to your woman. The main things is honesty and communication.
    I completed my degree in 1986. The first day of school we were told "you will have no family or life from this day forward.". Says it all.
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    When my fiance and I were just dating, she was a pharmacy student. I didn't get the need to have all the study time she required and I didn't understand the close relationship she had with guys from the class... But as a little time went by and our relationship grew (meaning love, trust, understanding, etc. grew), I learned how much work and time were required to be devoted to studying and how important the support from her peers was to her. It wasn't important to her because she wanted the attention from male classmates or anything like that, it was important because she was working very hard for her doctorate and once we were engaged, very hard for OUR future!

    Now I'm on the study group side of the equation, changing careers to nursing, and she has graduated. I'm going into a field of predominantly women and she knows how much time and support I'll need from my peers. While she may have a complete understanding of what it takes, it's ultimately up to me to MAN UP and not give her any reason to be jealous or do anything that would harm her or our relationship.

    If anyone is dealing with this issue, the best defense is an early attack. Love, trust, understanding. You have to get these issues on the table and work them out or they'll crush you in the end.
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    If she is that insecure might wanna reexamin the relationship
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