Male OB Frustration - page 3

by IKnowYouRider

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I'm currently in my OB rotation for clinicals and lecture. The first two days of clinical I was in L&D and I had an awesome experience (witnessed a couple deliveries, worked with the fetal monitor, started foleys/IVs). The... Read More


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    Yo, congratulations! None of the guys in my class even stepped foot on the L&D floor during our OB rotation!
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    Quote from IKnowYouRider
    I'm currently in my OB rotation for clinicals and lecture. The first two days of clinical I was in L&D and I had an awesome experience (witnessed a couple deliveries, worked with the fetal monitor, started foleys/IVs). The apprehension and disinterest that preceded going into the semester started to fade and I was beginning to really enjoy the clincal experience.

    That's why yesterday hit me by surprise. I was in the post-partum unit and the nurse I was assigned to was SO awkward about everything. She didn't want me to check the fundus (with or without her being in the room), she didn't feel I should be in the room while she gave an IM injection of Depo in the upper thigh (which I'm more than capable of doing), and she even excused me from the room when teaching the patient discharge instructions (like lochia color, amount, etc.).

    This frustrates me even more knowing that I've been working as a nurse tech for 6 months now while in school and I give female clients baths, and insert caths almost every shift.

    I understand that this was only one day, and the only thing that's been damaged is my pride and ego, but its hard not to feel embarassed/belittled by the situation.

    If anything, this is just a rant like most posts on here and I'll be appreciative of even one comment! =-)

    Peace,

    Dave
    I feel your pain, but you experienced much more than I did... I spent quite a bit of time during L&D in the nursery, neonatal, library, etc. areas... it didnt bother me too much though because I figured it would happen. Nonetheless, I am now a RN and just starting the application cycle to new grad programs!
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    Im sorry you are having the frustration you are, howeve as a woman (if I was having a baby) I would NOT want you in the room while discussing lochia color. And I certainly would NOT want you checking my fundus!! It would make me feel just icky, self conscious and very uncomfortable when Im already not feeling my "best". The patients in OB may be exhausted, overwhelmed and feeling vulnerable. Its not about you, its about them. Please keep their feelings and needs in mind.
    While you may feel the nurse you were with was "awkward", I'm betting she was just trying to protect her patients well being by providing a safe and supporting environment.

    I really don't feel Im saying anything you shouldn't aready know...
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    A couple years ago, I had to go to the ER for severe cramping and other reasons. I ended up having to get a foley for whatever reason, and the ER nurse asked me if it was okay if a male nursing student observed her instructing 2 female nursing students to put in the foley. I always say yes when they ask to let students watch. I figure I am not the first naked patient they have seen and I won't be the last.

    So, fast forward a few minutes... the student nurses are having a hard time locating my urethra, and the ER nurse is trying to direct them. The male nurse, quiet and just watching up until this point, smiles at me and exclaims "Wow! You have such a strange anatomy!" .........

    That ER nurse was so PO'd! She said, "XXX, will you help me find a tube..." and rushed him out of there and he didn't come back.

    I started to cry until the ER nurse told me about how every lady is different, etc. Or maybe that's what they tell the freaky anatomy girls like me, I haven't started NS yet

    Anyway, so unfortunately I can't let the guys look at my ladyparts anymore. Sorry fellas
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    Quote from samirish
    Im sorry you are having the frustration you are, howeve as a woman (if I was having a baby) I would NOT want you in the room while discussing lochia color. And I certainly would NOT want you checking my fundus!! It would make me feel just icky, self conscious and very uncomfortable when Im already not feeling my "best". The patients in OB may be exhausted, overwhelmed and feeling vulnerable. Its not about you, its about them. Please keep their feelings and needs in mind.
    While you may feel the nurse you were with was "awkward", I'm betting she was just trying to protect her patients well being by providing a safe and supporting environment.

    I really don't feel Im saying anything you shouldn't aready know...
    Oh give me a break. This is the kind of thinking that keeps guys from going in more and more. I had to do all those "icky" things you said on my pts and you know what, it was no big deal. It is a simple question and a simple palpation. The stigma surrounding what you are doing is hyped way too much.
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    Quote from stefanyjoy
    A couple years ago, I had to go to the ER for severe cramping and other reasons. I ended up having to get a foley for whatever reason, and the ER nurse asked me if it was okay if a male nursing student observed her instructing 2 female nursing students to put in the foley. I always say yes when they ask to let students watch. I figure I am not the first naked patient they have seen and I won't be the last.

    So, fast forward a few minutes... the student nurses are having a hard time locating my urethra, and the ER nurse is trying to direct them. The male nurse, quiet and just watching up until this point, smiles at me and exclaims "Wow! You have such a strange anatomy!" .........

    That ER nurse was so PO'd! She said, "XXX, will you help me find a tube..." and rushed him out of there and he didn't come back.

    I started to cry until the ER nurse told me about how every lady is different, etc. Or maybe that's what they tell the freaky anatomy girls like me, I haven't started NS yet

    Anyway, so unfortunately I can't let the guys look at my ladyparts anymore. Sorry fellas
    I can't understand that situation, so I won't pretend like I can. But that just seems like an isolated incident that any naive nursing student could have said, male or female. I don't think it's fair to punish all male NS for one person's mistake. Reversing the roles, I imagine I would have been a little uncomfortable had a female NS said something like that to me. I don't think I'd give up on all female NS though, as if we had a choice lol. I hope not at least.
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    Quote from That Guy
    Oh give me a break. This is the kind of thinking that keeps guys from going in more and more. I had to do all those "icky" things you said on my pts and you know what, it was no big deal. It is a simple question and a simple palpation. The stigma surrounding what you are doing is hyped way too much.


    Im sorry you feel that way but you can not get around the fact that a certain percentage of the women patients in OB are NOT going to feel comfortable with a male nurse. Those are the facts and you should respect the patients preference whether or not they coincide with YOUR preference.
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    Quote from samirish
    Im sorry you feel that way but you can not get around the fact that a certain percentage of the women patients in OB are NOT going to feel comfortable with a male nurse. Those are the facts and you should respect the patients preference whether or not they coincide with YOUR preference.

    Well, a certain percentage of women patients had NO problem with a male getting them to an OB floor in the first place. OMG... You write like YOU have a golden ***** and speak for all women.

    How many babies have you had?
    How embarrassed would you be if a male asked you about your stool?
    How about your menstrual cycle?
    How about if you perform self breast exams?
    How about if you practice safe sex?
    Last edit by traumaRUs on Mar 15, '11
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    Quote from *LIG
    Well, a certain percentage of women patients had NO problem with a male getting them to an OB floor in the first place. OMG... You write like YOU have a golden v@#$%a and speak for all women.

    How many babies have you had?
    How embarrassed would you be if a male asked you about your stool?
    How about your menstrual cycle?
    How about if you perform self breast exams?
    How about if you practice safe sex?

    I am only speaking for myself and for the women who prefer not to have male nurses in the OB. Im sorry this is so upsetting to you but it is my preference and there are other women out there that feel the same way.
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    I am sorry that you think the earth is flat... I am upset, no. I am glad my fellow males will not have to triple glove


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