I feel like one of my teachers doesn't like

  1. I am a male, and she's a female. She's old and for some reason, she would pick on me and ignore me when I ask a question. I am scared she would fail me that class. What do you think I should do?
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  3. by   ewattsjt
    I am just going to post what you already know. There isn't an easy solution to this problem.

    She can't fail you because she doesn't like a male becoming involved in a traditional female role. She has to grade your tests equally or your can "prove" your allegations. She can however make it a little harder on you in lecture and labs. You can take it with stride and become more determined to succeed or you can ask your classmates if they see the same thing you are seeing. If they see it too; ask if they will go with you to report her (if inappropriate treatment is occurring). This may make it even harder on you or make it equal. Your final option is to quit the program. You already knew these choices but maybe it helps to see them in someone else's words.

    I can't just "ding" your instructor because it may only be your perception that she is picking on you. That is why getting an outside opinion from a classmate is important.

    Wish you well in you decision!
  4. by   thenurse2b08
    Quote from ewattsjt
    I am just going to post what you already know. There isn't an easy solution to this problem.

    She can't fail you because she doesn't like a male becoming involved in a traditional female role. She has to grade your tests equally or your can "prove" your allegations. She can however make it a little harder on you in lecture and labs. You can take it with stride and become more determined to succeed or you can ask your classmates if they see the same thing you are seeing. If they see it too; ask if they will go with you to report her (if inappropriate treatment is occurring). This may make it even harder on you or make it equal. Your final option is to quit the program. You already knew these choices but maybe it helps to see them in someone else's words.

    I can't just "ding" your instructor because it may only be your perception that she is picking on you. That is why getting an outside opinion from a classmate is important.

    Wish you well in you decision!

    Thank you, but she does writing and you know she can grade me whatever the way she wants. I am scared and
  5. by   Conrad283
    If you think your grades are unfair, then you can grieve it. Every school has a grievance policy. Don't wait though, some require you to act in a timely manner.
  6. by   I love my cat!
    Quote from thenurse2b08
    I am a male, and she's a female. She's old and for some reason, she would pick on me and ignore me when I ask a question. I am scared she would fail me that class. What do you think I should do?
    Like the above posters stated, she cannot fail you because she dislikes you. Thank goodness because throughout my schooling there were always instructors that made it very, very obvious that they didn't care for certain students. All of those students passed, so hang in there.
    Is there a school counselor that you can talk to? It might be helpful to talk to someone. It never hurts to get unbiased advice and to have concerns like this documented.
    I know that it is hard to do, but don't take the immature way that this instructor is acting towards you personally. She is acting very unprofessional in my opinion. Just remember, as soon as you are done with the class or degree you will NEVER have to deal with her again.
  7. by   CRNA2BKY
    Quote from thenurse2b08
    I am a male, and she's a female. She's old and for some reason, she would pick on me and ignore me when I ask a question. I am scared she would fail me that class. What do you think I should do?
    Maybe it's because I'm an older student and now in nursing school for a 2nd career, but if I were in your shoes, I would confront her in a courteous manner, and demand to be treated with the respect you deserve. I would find out what is troubling her, and see if there is some kind of personality conflict or some other reason she is giving you a hard time, and see what can be done to rectify the situation. Document everything, have witnesses, and if there are any problems in you not being graded fairly, go above her head. For me at least, the saying "I'm getting too old for this $&*#" is so true, and I just refuse to take it anymore. I will not let anyone treat me with disrespect, especially a teacher. I would stomp out that problem in a heartbeat.
  8. by   ewattsjt
    If she is grading you in an unfair manner, you must be able to prove it. I agree with document everything. I do so even to this day because it is a traditional female job and some in upper management have the same idea as you explain your instructor to have (thank God it is only a few now!). I make a copy of everything I submit to my employers and one of everything they give me. I have learned that once they know you have the proper backing and knowledge, they tend to leave you alone. I would also speak to someone about it but keep in mind that there is a correct way to follow the "chain of command" and if you do not follow it properly, you are the one causing the problems. Find out the path you are to take before jumping in. And as Conrad said, there is usually a time limit on filing against them.

    I wish you well, and let us know how things work out!

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