A "dating female students in your class" post - page 9

by Jedi of Zen | 49,056 Views | 146 Comments

Well, having just completed my 1st semester of the nursing program, I have found that as a single guy, you are really in (at times) a very weird catch-22 being in a female-dominated student body. Although I definitely do not... Read More


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    Quote from Gradius
    Anyone have anything new to add to this thread lately? It was... an interesting read.
    I first responded to this thread before I started an accelerated program. No that I'm about done with my first semester...

    My thoughts really haven't changed. After you take away the married guys and gay guys, I'm one of 2 or 3 single straight guys. I'm not really that much of a big deal, but I have been brushing off advances from the single girls since day one. I tend to bring it onto myself though, because I flirt with just about anyone. Most of them understand it's part of who I am, but I guess you never really know

    So far I've done a good job of being the fun guy in the class that gets A's/B's, but next semester it goes up a notch. We'll have 12 hour clinical shifts and many of our weekends taken up.

    Maybe after the summer I'll look into a relationship (Fall is supposed to be easy), but as of right now, I don't think I can juggle the effort for a serious relationship. These girls aren't down with FTB, so that's not an option either.

    I'm sure most of you guys feel the same way. Just my
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    We have 7 or so guys in our class and we are all either engaged or married. I have found, even though I have been married for coming up on 6 years; and 24 years old, that to some people, it doesn't make a difference. I would say that is the hardest part of Nursing School is disassociating yourself with the "permissiveness" of some people...

    I would say, in general, that any time you date someone in your field of study, or class for that matter, your GPA and grade will suffer. If you are happy with a C = RN and think you can pull it off (BTW, father of 3 and husband as well as working full time I am one of the C = RN people) then I say go for it. Just know that there will be some awkwardness if the relationship is strained at all.
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    Such a bad idea. Even say if the situation did work out, it is still an un necessary distraction.

    Furthermore I think dating in general is a bad idea while in nursing school, at least for me, but I learned really quick I deserved all of my extra time. When your time is limited, any extra time you do luckily get should be focused on YOURSELF and not on someone else. Enkoy your breaks doing things you love, get much needed rest and relaxation. Dating can wait...
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    Quote from jmira
    Such a bad idea. Even say if the situation did work out, it is still an un necessary distraction.

    Furthermore I think dating in general is a bad idea while in nursing school, at least for me, but I learned really quick I deserved all of my extra time. When your time is limited, any extra time you do luckily get should be focused on YOURSELF and not on someone else. Enkoy your breaks doing things you love, get much needed rest and relaxation. Dating can wait...
    I agree wit this as well. Earlier this semester I had a thing for this one girl in my class. This was a terrible idea cuz it went the wrong direction. Since then, I been playing catch up cuz my test grades were terrible earlier this semester.

    There is nothing wrong dating someone in nursing school (cuz i know 2 couples who I'm friends with and they been going strong) but it really sucks when it goes bad like my situation.
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    Quote from Vectrexevo
    Do it...
    Well, I guess you could say I "did it"- started hanging out with her as friends and whatnot, then one of my a**hole friends came along with us one night and started hitting on her. She got wasted and they kissed and apparently did some more after we all went back to one classmate's house (they did it in our classmate's 10 year old son's bed since her kids were gone for the weekend.).

    Now I don't talk to her at all. She tries to be all friendly but as far as I know they're seeing each other now. Whatever. Am I a terrible person if I hope she gets pregnant and can't finish school??? But its okay, because if she's the type of girl to give it up to some dude 8 hours after meeting him then I don't need or want any part of that.

    That being said, I honestly can't find time to add in a relationship without further sacrificing work, school or sleep. What little time I do have goes to myself and hanging out with friends, just as a way to relax and get away for a bit.

    How's everyone else doin?
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    Quote from Kendel.G
    I wouldn't want to be in a relationship just for sex :-( Nope not me! But, again, I'm just stating my opinion :-D
    *** Uh, what other reasons are there to be in a relationship?
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    Quote from PMFB-RN
    *** Uh, what other reasons are there to be in a relationship?
    I'm with Kendel. There is more to a relationship than sex. I don't have sex because it only seems to make relationships worse... It might feel good at the moment, but, as we've all learned in anatomy and pathophysiology, the hormones released with the act results in such a deep bonding that should only be saved for, in my case, marriage. When a woman feels this way and the man is just looking to 'get some' this creates problems.

    Just my
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    Quote from EMTJeremy
    Whatever. Am I a terrible person if I hope she gets pregnant and can't finish school??? But its okay, because if she's the type of girl to give it up to some dude 8 hours after meeting him then I don't need or want any part of that.

    How's everyone else doin?
    I don't think it makes you a bad person at all. You had feelings for her, and you got hurt, bottom line. It's good though, you learned that she in fact didn't have the same feelings towards you.

    In my experience, the whole 'be friends' thing is sometimes necessary, but usually ends in failure. The Friend Zone is a very real thing. Girls usually don't have romantic interests with people they see as brothers.

    It may have been a smarter move to not involve another dude when you went out with her (no offense of course), but you don't need a girl that like her anyways. Imagine what their story would be like when people ask how they met. Classy.
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    "disregard women. acquire currency."

    that will be the best advice ever given in this thread.

    you're there for studies, not random hookups. the instance you take your eye off the prize and start looking at someone else's prize is when you get sunk. do not go into the friend zone. when she starts crying about how her bf cheated on her, don't be all comforting and supportive hoping that will get you rebound love. be like "i'm pretty sure he probably had a good reason for cheating on you". she'll want to kick your ass but only for a day or so. it shows no matter how nice you are to each other, you're not that shoulder to cry on. keeps your area drama free.
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    Common guys, i know that its often a shock to be around so many girls but lets be honest, most [if not all of us] knew we [as guys] were going to be hugely outnumbered when we chose to do nursing. I personally view off of the girls in my class as my sisters, i respect them and they respect me.
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