A "dating female students in your class" post - page 10

by Jedi of Zen 48,016 Views | 146 Comments

Well, having just completed my 1st semester of the nursing program, I have found that as a single guy, you are really in (at times) a very weird catch-22 being in a female-dominated student body. Although I definitely do not... Read More


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    Quote from captkris
    "disregard women. acquire currency."

    that will be the best advice ever given in this thread.

    this guy knows what he's talking about.
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    I'm female I'm reading this and it's interesting . I've seen flirting, but the joking kind
    I would never think there would be dating if you're in the same nursing class! but my class' mostly around 35/45's y/o.
    If you're going for classmates, if something happens, you're going to see them every single week and... sick of seeing the same drama creating classmates in teh first place anyway. All the fish in the sea... is not limited to one classroom

    Watching House MD, every time when they get into relationships with coworkers it caused job loss/quits. lol
    Maybe it applies to work, but in classroom situation it may happen, I can't say it's definitely wrong, but I wouldn't promote dating fellow nursing students. Dating in general yes, but it's up to you, with all the work, it could be hard if she doesn't understand or support you
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    Well, I'm not in Nursing school yet (applying to my first school in May) but I will say that when I am, I am curious to see what all the (alleged) female attention will be like though. Like someone else said in this thread I will not follow Nike's slogan of "Just do it" and instead take an "eyes on the prize" mentality, that of graduating. I want to go Military Nursing when I'm done so I won't have any time for any distractions that could intervene with my academic success.
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    Quote from SteveNNP
    I had a huge crush on a girl in my class for almost 4 years, but was afraid to ask her out, because I thought it would be weird if we ever broke up, seeing as how we spent 5 days a week in class together, and had a lot of the same friends. I finally got up the courage to ask her out, and 3 weeks in, she broke up with me. Needless to say, my fears were confirmed, and it was extremely weird until graduation. However, I believe you CAN have a relationship with a classmate, as long as you can maintain focus, and remain friends if and when you break up.
    I think I just might be setting myself up for the same thing. I just realized that I have a HUGE crush on a girl in my class. We were in the same clinical group in winter term and at first i didn't think much of her. But we did spend a number of weeks together, talking while in our group and on the way back from out clinical place and i felt very comfortable talking to her, confiding about school, etc. But then something happened, I started thinking more about her after our class ended. And now we have summer class together and just as I realized my feelings for her I also find it's very hard for me to approach her in the same easy-going manner. I find myself constantly stealing little glances at her during class while she is not looking and things are really getting out of hand for me, emotionally. Its like some sort of glass wall went up between us. I hate myself because it seems like my secret crush has made it that much harder for me to even bring up any courage to even talk to her, while it seemed so easy earlier. Another thing that broke my heart was that we got split into different clinical groups this time around so likely I won't really see her until September. Being in a small clinical group is so much better than when in a huge lecture class where I usually see her from afar and she is always surrounded by her friends. And I just feel that over the long summer I will psych myself even more, putting her on virtual pedestal in my mind (as I did with all my unrequited loves ) Please, somebody is there any way for me to fix this? Do you have any mental tricks, emotional blocks? If only I could somehow make myself fall out of love so that I could be able to talk to her more easily without my heart feeling like its going 100 mph. And then only fall in love when I feel we are more closely acquainted or even some mutual feelings exist. Oh who am I kidding. Now I'm really depressed and my impending much dreaded hospital rotation isn't making me feel any better. AND I really don't want to carry this crush for the next 3 years, especially seeing her in my classes all the time, that would make Nursing School into HELL
    Last edit by canadiandude on May 3, '12
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    Quote from canadiandude
    I think I just might be setting myself up for the same thing. I just realized that I have a HUGE crush on a girl in my class. We were in the same clinical group in winter term and at first i didn't think much of her. But we did spend a number of weeks together, talking while in our group and on the way back from out clinical place and i felt very comfortable talking to her, confiding about school, etc. But then something happened, I started thinking more about her after our class ended. And now we have summer class together and just as I realized my feelings for her I also find it's very hard for me to approach her in the same easy-going manner. I find myself constantly stealing little glances at her during class while she is not looking and things are really getting out of hand for me, emotionally. Its like some sort of glass wall went up between us. I hate myself because it seems like my secret crush has made it that much harder for me to even bring up any courage to even talk to her, while it seemed so easy earlier. Another thing that broke my heart was that we got split into different clinical groups this time around so likely I won't really see her until September. Being in a small clinical group is so much better than when in a huge lecture class where I usually see her from afar and she is always surrounded by her friends. And I just feel that over the long summer I will psych myself even more, putting her on virtual pedestal in my mind (as I did with all my unrequited loves ) Please, somebody is there any way for me to fix this? Do you have any mental tricks, emotional blocks? If only I could somehow make myself fall out of love so that I could be able to talk to her more easily without my heart feeling like its going 100 mph. And then only fall in love when I feel we are more closely acquainted or even some mutual feelings exist. Oh who am I kidding. Now I'm really depressed and my impending much dreaded hospital rotation isn't making me feel any better. AND I really don't want to carry this crush for the next 3 years, especially seeing her in my classes all the time, that would make Nursing School into HELL
    I think you have to decide which could be more painful: a) avoiding attempting to progress with your crush, or b) Let's say you "get with" (for lack of a better term) your crush, and then you two split 4 months later. You're stuck with her for the next 3 years and you'd probably be ostracized so to speak by the other girls in your class. Someone else on this thread called it "branded" I think; in other words you could probably kiss all attempts at getting with another girl in your class goodbye.
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    Female opinion here... I'm a nursing student, and at my school we have nursing students, med students, pharmacy students, etc. who all share the same building together, so there's a lot of mingling of the groups. I met and dated a medical student for a few semesters, but it didn't work out and we broke up. But, we still share the same building, so whenever we see each other now, needless to say it's incredibly awkward!!!!

    I would recommend staying away from dating your fellow classmates. It's hard to reject your feelings, but what what is really more important? You're there to study and get a degree, leave all the drama out of it. If things turn sour, you also run the risk of turning some of your classmates (her friends) against you. If you want to date that special someone in your class, wait until you graduate or your last semester.
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    I think sex is like playing tennis, now if I find a fellow student who thinks the same, its all good.
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    I will only be starting nursing school this Fall, but take it from someone that has worked in a few different ERs, seen/heard MANY things that go on in hospitals, and has also dated guys that I've worked with in said hospitals...keep it as professional as possible and try to avoid romantic connections / relationships in the workplace! (can't say that enough!)

    NS is for learning, plain and simple. Things may be great with this person for a few wks, months, or even a year, but if you break up or if one is dropped from or leaves the program (heaven forbid), it could have negative effects on the one left. A relationship in this environment may also create an awkward and / or hostile learning opportunity for your classmates, especially if another one of the girls is attracted to you or another guy becomes attracted to her. It could create division when a team effort is imperative. There will always be a sense of awkwardness between you and the other person once you break up and are forced to see this person in such close proximity day in and day out. This is regardless of how amicably things have ended...there is always "weirdness" that may or may not go away with time. This weirdness will almost always be detected by your classmates, whether they know what has taken place or not.

    So....for your sake and everyone around you, I would HIGHLY recommend finding someone outside the nursing dept to get to know for dating purposes. OR, who knows, maybe you can build a great friendship with NS chick and have something later on after making it through this challenge together. If it is meant to be, it will be, but business should trump all else at this point.
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    well. I broke many cardinal rules. I hooked up with a married woman. She was in a failing marriage, but never mentioned divorce. So I didn't think I had anything to worry about. Until she told her husband(who was cheating on her for many years). And he filed for a divorce. Did I mention we both applied to the same nursing program and that I was her tutor for both her a and p classes. My fears were made reality when we both got in, and we were in three out of four classes together. I tried to back of, saying I didn't have time to be FWB. But she wouldn't back off. She would try to cuddle during clinical rotation, while noone was looking, and I felt uncomfortable talking to any girls, thinking she would cause a scene. I basically isolated myself from all my classmates because of her. I was finally put at ease at the end of this semester when I found out she failed clinical. This means she is being held back a semester, so i'm in the clear.
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    btw, whats with all the female opinions, not to sound snotty, but I thought this was a male nurse forum.
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