Any males out there tired of the drama? - page 5

Anyone out there get real tired about the constant drama, anxiety, and non stop worrying exerted by your female classmates? To me, it seems like the majority of them have nothing to talk about other... Read More

  1. Visit  WYDiceDancer profile page
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    Quote from matchsticktgt
    TRUE - another woman here and I HATE the drama! So I avoid it like the plague I got into nursing school by myself, for myself, so I don't mind going through nursing school that way...I'm friendly and not a snob...but I don't require that my classmates like me...just respect me...and please keep the theatrics and whining to a low roar
    Another female here to agree with the "to much drama" aspects of both nursing school AND nursing. Just be aware, that as long as you continue to be in a human business (vs building computers or snaking drains) you will have LOTS of drama. A suggestion, Humpty, is go for the CRNA. Your lack of understanding of others proves that you will be most successful if those you are "caring" for are asleep.
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  3. Visit  ~Mi Vida Loca~RN profile page
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    Quote from WYDiceDancer
    Another female here to agree with the "to much drama" aspects of both nursing school AND nursing. Just be aware, that as long as you continue to be in a human business (vs building computers or snaking drains) you will have LOTS of drama. A suggestion, Humpty, is go for the CRNA. Your lack of understanding of others proves that you will be most successful if those you are "caring" for are asleep.

    LMAO, I don't care who you are, that was funny. I needed that today, thanks
  4. Visit  Clmbng Solsbury Hill profile page
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    Quote from ~Mi Vida Loca~
    LMAO, I don't care who you are, that was funny. I needed that today, thanks

    Yes, I found that hilarious too! It's good to laugh!
  5. Visit  cjcsoon2brn profile page
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    Quote from WYDiceDancer
    Another female here to agree with the "to much drama" aspects of both nursing school AND nursing. Just be aware, that as long as you continue to be in a human business (vs building computers or snaking drains) you will have LOTS of drama. A suggestion, Humpty, is go for the CRNA. Your lack of understanding of others proves that you will be most successful if those you are "caring" for are asleep.
    Good point! I agree with you on your suggestion to Humpty but I'm not even sure I would want a CRNA who thinks like that. I was thinking something that doesn't have a lot of patient contact, maybe administration would be a good area for Humpty or go to med. school if he hates nursing so much (he mentioned in another post that nursing is only a means to an end for him.)

    !Chris
  6. Visit  kgh31386 profile page
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    I once told someone the hardest part of nursing school was having to listen to all the drama and hearing people brag about how they forget everything because,"they won't have to do that as a nurse." The funny thing is....the girls always bring my name into the drama, they always go tell someone I'm talking bad about them even though they are haha...DRAMA IS A WASTE OF MY TIME. Then they get mad at me because I don't freak out and make a 150 page study guides like some of them, but I still make A's and B's. If they don't succeed....they blame whoever they see first, whether it be a teacher or another classmate.
  7. Visit  AragornSkywalker profile page
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    I cant believe people make those 150 page study guides...
  8. Visit  kgh31386 profile page
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    And a lot of times they don't help people. I don't know about you, but I can't study off of someone else's study guide...I'm not a study guide person at all. I like to just skim over stuff and make sense of it myself while I teach it to someone else. Of the 40 people who had to repeat med/surg this semester...95% of them used an old 150 page study guide people made up, plus they were failing going into the final. They didn't bother to study anything but that..I don't trust someone's info like that, plus it's just not my study method lol. AND....after they failed, the drama started about who didn't help who and how it's not their fault.
  9. Visit  AragornSkywalker profile page
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    Oh, we have them in my school too. When I started patho, the teacher brought in 2 former students who whipped out their 150 page guides. I just cant believe people think it helps. The amount of time they put into typing it and formatting it can be better spent on straight up studying and reviewing.
  10. Visit  AZ_LPN_8_26_13 profile page
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    I've found that study guides prepared by someone else don't really help much - part of the learning and studying value you get is from actually compiling and organizing the study guide yourself in a logical outline fashion. Helps you organize your thoughts and show you how everything fits together. And 150 pages is a bit much. Better to make a brief one (maybe no more than 20 pages) from notes taken in class and complement that with other sources like textbooks, powerpoint slide shows etc. That's what works for me anyway.
  11. Visit  dbscandy profile page
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    I'm not a male, BUT I have been a nurse since 1974...I'm sorry to inform you...the drama does not end! Working with a majority of women breeds drama and uninteresting topics of conversation. I have had my fill, all these years, of the petty gossip, major 'hurt feelings' (boo hoo), whining and simply ridiculous way women treat others and themselves (this includes the eating of new nurses).

    I'm sure this is going to cause a backlash, but it's the truth.

    I have been fortunate to have at least a few male nurses and RT's working in my NICU the past 20 years; before that, I had males on the staff of my two dialysis units. It truly does create a kind of balance that I have found to be very valuable to maintaining my sanity. I could not work twelve hours and only have conversations about the latest celebrity fashions, who has the best bargain on designer purses and the cost of that ugly haircut. It's just not interesting, and I tend to glaze over rather quickly.

    And the b******* and back-biting never ends. Young nurses or old, it goes on and can last for years, hurting relationships and patient care. I've also seen it ruin a couple of careers.

    The men with whom I've worked tended to let stupid pettiness just roll off, or yelled it out and went for a beer (and it didn't come back the next shift). They didn't want to talk 'shop' all the time but could with the best of us. The conversations tended more toward subjects out of medicine, more toward the rest of life that doesn't occur within the four walls from 7 to 7.

    I feel males generally are able to balance their work and home lives a bit better than women I have known and perhaps, that is because we ARE women. Maybe it's in our nature. I'm too old now to care about figuring it out. I just know I won't work in an all female environment.

    Wishing all the men out there a good balance in their work.
  12. Visit  AZ_LPN_8_26_13 profile page
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    dbscandy:

    I am 56 y.o., male, and in school for nursing. In all the years I've worked, I've always made it a conscious deliberate practice to keep my work & professional life totally and completely seperate from my home life. I don't bring work problems home with me, or home problems to work. I think it's a good practice no matter where you work or what you do. I think too that over the years things like gossip at work and backbiting have generally gotten worse everywhere in the workplace..... You have to try not to buy into any of it, and try to just let it go in one ear and out the other. I've always practiced that no matter where I work, and will continue to make that a practice when I'm a nurse as well..... I honestly believe that as more men enter this profession, the nature of a lot of these things may change in nursing. Like the thing about "eating their young" - this has got to be the most illogical, counterproductive thing I've ever heard of.... it's like people actually want to see nursing in general killed as a career. If someone is an experienced nurse, they ought to take a young newbie one "under their wing" so to speak, and quietly and without fanfare be their unofficial mentor. I know it would give me a lot of personal satisfaction to see someone like that succeed, and know that in large part I had a big hand in their success. When I finally get to that point, where I'm a nurse with maybe ten or fifteen years under my belt, maybe I can be that sort of mentor to someone just starting out......
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  13. Visit  HumptyDumpty profile page
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    Quote from AragornSkywalker
    I cant believe people make those 150 page study guides...
    I could not agree more. I receive these 150 page study guides and look through them and find myself saying "75% of this crap is completely irrelevant to the material on the test." Which is why a lot of these people do so bad. They cannot distinguish between whats important and what is not. Seriously, for most tests, a nice consolidated study guide of 15-20 pages will suffice.

    As far as the entire CRNA route many of you have suggested to me because of your assumption that I am not a "people" person is complete BS. You do not know me in the least. Every single patient I have dealed with in clinical loved me, maybe for not being a superb "caring" happy go lucky nurse, but for being REAL. I can assure you, I will be a highly successfuly nurse practitioner.
  14. Visit  MaritesaRN profile page
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    Quote from ~Mi Vida Loca~
    LMAO, I don't care who you are, that was funny. I needed that today, thanks
    There is a lot of truth in all of these, but remember girls and boys, every one have different level of limits, so be kind with your words to our fellow nurses. Those who boast is asking trouble , cause nobody wants to hear this-------this is one of the problems w/ us nurses----we fight each other instead of fighting together. Who knows, if we truly unite, we can lobby in Washington and get higher pay and benefits as nurses instead of scratching and backbiting each other other. So be a true professional and know what is petty and what is important. True, you need to know your tolerance and preference before selecting a specialty.
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