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May 06, 2009, 07:14 PM
 Re: Any males out there tired of the drama?
Okay, at the risk of making my team angry, I'll say this: 
I'm a female, and I absolutely know what you mean about the drama. When I was in nursing school, I mostly kept to myself because I found that the ladies would mostly complain about instructors, or gossip about other classmates. At my first school, it became so bad, that two excellent instructors left the school. Also, if one of them didn't score as high as they would've liked on an exam, the crying and hugs usually followed.  I've been a student at two nursing schools, and it was about the same at both. 
I wonder how I will do once I graduate and start working in this female dominated field. I've worked at jobs with all women and jobs with all men, and I do prefer working with the men. They do have their own type of drama, but seem to have more of a sense of humor, although they can be VERY raunchy. 
Sorry if I offended anyone, but come on ladies! You know what I mean.   | | No. 42 |
May 06, 2009, 08:26 PM
Re: Any males out there tired of the drama? Originally Posted by ericcire  Don't expect it to change it will be there on the job this is still a female domanited feild either just ignore it or find a place there isn't females or other wise you might not fit in
I could care less if I fit in, I don't like most of these people anyways. I will do my job with the utmost excellence and be a good team player, but as far as friendship, I don't want it from most these people.
As far as having to deal with this type of drama for the rest of my career, I totally understand this and it simply solidifies my decision to go to graduate school  , so I don't have to be on the same level as the drama queens.
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May 06, 2009, 08:29 PM
Re: Any males out there tired of the drama? Originally Posted by Solsbury Hill Okay, at the risk of making my team angry, I'll say this:
I'm a female, and I absolutely know what you mean about the drama. When I was in nursing school, I mostly kept to myself because I found that the ladies would mostly complain about instructors, or gossip about other classmates. At my first school, it became so bad, that two excellent instructors left the school. Also, if one of them didn't score as high as they would've liked on an exam, the crying and hugs usually followed. I've been a student at two nursing schools, and it was about the same at both.
I wonder how I will do once I graduate and start working in this female dominated field. I've worked at jobs with all women and jobs with all men, and I do prefer working with the men. They do have their own type of drama, but seem to have more of a sense of humor, although they can be VERY raunchy.
Sorry if I offended anyone, but come on ladies! You know what I mean.
Haha, this is so true. I know speaking for myself, and basically all my friends, we are constantly cracking jokes, BSing with each other, and yes, at times can be extremely raunchy. You ladies like it, don't lie  | | No. 44 |
May 06, 2009, 10:38 PM
Re: Any males out there tired of the drama? Originally Posted by HumptyDumpty Anyone out there get real tired about the constant drama, anxiety, and non stop worrying exerted by your female classmates? To me, it seems like the majority of them have nothing to talk about other than nursing school, tests, and frustrating about clinicals/instructors. This becomes very irritating for me anyways. Just wanted to know if any other guys out there find it highly annoying?
I'm sure this has already been mentioned - haven't read each and every reply yet, but men and women react differently to stress and stressful situations. Neither one is right or wrong, good or bad, just different. In my own personal experience of having worked in other venues with a large number of women, women tend to externalize things a bit more (anxiety, worrying etc.), but that isn't always a bad thing. Society-at-large tells guys basically not to do that, and to keep quiet about it. IMO, just one more thing that has to be taken in stride if one is going to have a career in nursing.....
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May 07, 2009, 12:54 AM
Re: Any males out there tired of the drama?
Yep, I've experienced the drama (Excessive whining and blaming r/t imperfect performance...., MAJOR dilema r/t MINOR infraction..., etc). Nursing school is a microcosm of the nursing work world. It is an opportunity to learn how to deal with it effectively while consequences are minimal.
Old Dog
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May 07, 2009, 11:05 AM
Re: Any males out there tired of the drama? Originally Posted by aloevera you think it is "drama" now ????
just wait till you are working........same thing......instead of about study, instructors.....it is other nurses, DON, staffing, pts, etc. etc. etc......
get used to it or ignore it.....  She is so right ! for some reason some of the nurses indulge in this low, tacky and very unprofessional act.......... stick to your high principles and do not indulge and join them. Seek out the good ones , the professional ones who have more to offer and to teach .
I have a theory as to why we are getting these type of nurses. Nursing is not a glamorous job , but it has it's "satisfaction" in it's own way. Most people who are co dependent goes to nursing. do not get me wrong ...some of them turn out to be good nurses. They are attracted to the profession because they like the idea of people DEPENDING on them...at the same token they depend on their patients or wards to feel good , to feel needed, and this is ongoing and does not stop. One of the reason as to why some of the nurses marry their alcoholic patient, or mentally incapacitated patient is they feel good to be needed, vica versa. This is co-dependency .
| | No. 48 |
May 07, 2009, 02:23 PM
Re: Any males out there tired of the drama?
"isn't the way that they worry and stress and constantly talk about nursing school kind of similar to the way you worry and get frustrated over how much they do it?"
EXACTLY what I was thinking. Everyone gets frustrated just by different triggers and then they express it in different ways.
My feeling is one has a few choices is these matters:
1) Find a way to change what frustrates you, perhaps by positive influence - BE a leader!
2) Fuel it (be a part of the problem) or let it fuel you (which seems to be the case here)
3) Let it go. One must always find ways to do that because there are plenty of things outside of our circles of influence and control.
Either way - this is an opportunity for growth.
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