Any males out there tired of the drama?

[HumptyDumpty]

Anyone out there get real tired about the constant drama, anxiety, and non stop worrying exerted by your female classmates? To me, it seems like the majority of them have nothing to talk about other than nursing school, tests, and frustrating about clinicals/instructors. This becomes very irritating for me anyways. Just wanted to know if any other guys out there find it highly annoying?

[groovy jeff, RN]

To take the last poster's comment one step further:

the reason that they are different is they're just a bunch of icky girls and they all have cooties!

[~Mi Vida Loca~RN, ASN, RN]

YES I am tired of the drama and cattiness and whatever else. I haven't even started NS yet, not until August. But I am taking a few of the Co Reqs now so I don't have to do them during the nursing program. There is usually 1 female in class that I can connect with well (I am a female) but I can usually find one that is a lot like me. Then I usually tend to get along with the guys in class better. I am praying that there is at least a handful of guys in my Nursing classes because I have already seen a group of woman that are starting same time as me and I am not looking forward to it.

I have a plan for my studying and stuff though if I can't find a few to connect with. My friend I met now in my Patho class that is very drama free and laid back and when we hang out we spend maybe 5 mins going over a test or something and talk about other stuff, anyway she got her number on the WL and she has a couple years. So since they say the best way to learn is to teach it, we plan on still being study partners. I will try to "teach her" to learn it myself and she will help quiz me and stuff. This will be a huge help to me and to her, when she starts NS she will have a good heads up on the material and stuff already. Win/Win situation.

Anyway, I am not a male but I tend to relate to them a lot better than I do females.

For me though, nursing is more than a job and more of a "calling" not nursing in particular, but I have always had it in me to have a job that involved helping others on a personal level. I would have loved to have been a social worker but given my own hx of abuse I wouldn't have been able to seperate work from home. I would have ended up kidnapping a bunch of abused children that I couldn't help and going to Mexico LOL so I had to choose a different carreer path where I could still help. Also having kids going to the FBI academny didn't seem realistic either or I would have done that. That was my dream growing up.

[mxems]

I'm one of 3 guys in my program. I'm in a study group and everybody seems to be pretty cool. Everybody in the class seems to be doing ok and not too much sweating or drama. You know, it's mostly the playfull worrrying and stuff but nothing that is completely off the wall. I guess I have a great class. I also have an awesome study group, and totally cool clinical instructor, and very helpful and caring class instructors. It's a good deal all around.

[fromtheseaRN, BSN, RN]

i've dealt with plenty of whining, negative men/boys in my courses. there are negative people of both genders, and i think both genders would benefit if we took out the anatomy based generalizations.

[texashyles]

I'm in the online BSN program through A&M..I've never met another student face-to-face and will graduate soon.

P.S. They have an online masters program, too.

[ERNurseToBe]

I am a female and I get frustrated with the students in my class in general. Regardless of sex. I really avoid socializing with them, so the only thing I hear is them complaining to the instructor.... Good luck to learning to tune it out, and on your future as a nurse

[zionic]

i cud agree with the negative energy even though i'm a female and yes it does sickens me to the guts, but do i condemn them for it? NO, because most times, i realise, when i hear whinning and complaints it's not because the girls think it's so hard, it's simply because the quiz or exam was so stupid but they never imagined it would be that stupid and they ended up not studying the stupid stuff.

i would never say i don't study, but i have realised that the times i study really hard i stress my self over nothing, because most of these exams are based on very simple things that sometimes do not require that indepth studying, but before i realized that i read every single thing in the book and worried and cried (in my corner now) then find out that it wasn't about the studying so hard, it was simply studying smart and listening to your inner guidance.

[PiperRN]

HD,

It's not just the drama but the CONSTANT chatter, typically more gossip and personal chit-chat than substance. It'd be different if they performed academically at a rate commensurate with their numbers. My observation is that male students (perhaps because of their continued minority status) out-perform and intensify the professional atmosphere in the class room. Having completed advanced degrees in other fields of science I have found it amazing that instructors must use flicker lights and find tactful ways to stop the "girl-talk" which explodes with every break.

[ericcire]

Don't expect it to change it will be there on the job this is still a female domanited feild either just ignore it or find a place there isn't females or other wise you might not fit in

[ericcire]

oh did I mention the talk about the monthly stuff- go ahead join in, it stops the conversion rather quickly because it makes women more uncomftable then the perosn joining in

[jmtrn0904]

Hey "Humpty,"

Did you ever think about these things:...

1. Women react differently to stress than men

2. Women in nursing make up a much higher percentage than men, and by THAT are much more competitive for grades, jobs, etc.?

3. These women in your program may have other things going on in their lives that increase their stress level?

4.

Maybe it's time you stop worrying about everyone else, and concentrate on your own education.

[gt4everpn, BSN, RN]

makes a good point, ya know.. anyway i begger to differ with ya dumpy... the complaining in my program comes both in estrogen and testosterone form.

if you're doing so well in your classes then why are you concerning yourself with the fact that other students are worried and studying and/or talking about school all the time. i'm not trying to be mean but i don't get how exactly their worrying about wanting to do well really affects you at all. not everyone can breeze through nursing school like you've claimed to do and there shouldn't be anything wrong with that. if you guys are so good at it, then fine, be good at it, but i don't really get how it has anything to do with how the other students in the class should act. however by the way you've mentioned how you don't really want to be a nurse humpty dumpty, that could be one of the key differences and anyway, isn't the way that they worry and stress and constantly talk about nursing school kind of similar to the way you worry and get frustrated over how much they do it?