Siblings sharing a room - page 3
by CapeCodMermaid 6,022 Views | 35 Comments
Does anyone allow different sex siblings to share a room? I know culture change lets people decide who their roommate will be, but I think the change was to let gay people share a room. I have a brother and sister who want to... Read More
- 1Nov 20, '12 by BuckyBadgerRNYikes!!! Why would you assume incest?! Talk about jumping to conclusions.
Quote from CapeCodMermaidDoes anyone allow different sex siblings to share a room? I know culture change lets people decide who their roommate will be, but I think the change was to let gay people share a room. I have a brother and sister who want to share a room (ick). As far as I know, incest is still against the law.
- 0Nov 21, '12 by BrandonLPNQuote from ColleenRN2BI will agree that a kiss between a brother and a sister does not necessarily = incest. BUT the OP made it clear this wasn't that type of kiss. We all know where the line is, French kissing, open mouth, what ever. That kind of kiss between siblings is incestuous and inappropriate. I trust that she (the OP) can tell the difference.A kiss is VERY different from true incest involving intercourse.
- 1Nov 21, '12 by needshaldolI must have no clue as to what most of you are talking of. I do not understand why a bro and sis in their very old years should not share a room. Their are siblings for gosh shakes. Being that I have not worked in a long term facility, maybe I am missing something. Remember these elders are living there because they are unable to care for them selves fully. As long as they have privacy dressing, etc. I see no problem.
- 2Nov 21, '12 by amoLuciaJust FYI - many of you may not realize that CapeCod (the OP) is upper level of nsg administration. She's asking for feedback for a situation that MAY or MAY NOT be in her own facility. I concede that this is a very serious one.
It has been observed that inappropriate kissing has occurred. What else may NOT have been observed in the other 23 & 1/2 or so hours??? They are alone, unwatched in that room. And intimacy is not restricted to just kissing. There is the real possibility of other oral action, as well as intimate touching (either way); perhaps intercourse, completed or attempted.
Are both physically able-bodied or could one just be overpowered? And are BOTH legally, 100% competent to consent? Could there be underlying sexual abuse here? Even if the two were separated, could they wander back & find one another?
From all our training, we know that lonliness and the the need for intimacy are powerful human emotional drives. And while we strive to be non-judgemental, we still hold nursing licenses that obligate us protect the public. Think about our responsibilities if they were parent & child, or child-to-child, or adult-to-child. What about covert physical/verbal abuse if there were any resistance between the two? Could there be something with other residents
In all my years, I know of 5 specific epsiodes where the facility administration had to step in where these types of questions/incidents arose. Others, incl the Dept of Health needed to be involved.
To OP, I think the DOH may need to be called for any recommendations. Personally, I think they need to be separated. It's too much of a slippery-slope to me.Last edit by amoLucia on Nov 21, '12 : Reason: to complete