Siblings sharing a room - page 3

by CapeCodMermaid 6,272 Views | 35 Comments

Does anyone allow different sex siblings to share a room? I know culture change lets people decide who their roommate will be, but I think the change was to let gay people share a room. I have a brother and sister who want to... Read More


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    Quote from BrandonLPN
    Yes, if they're siblings.
    Brandon-- you make me laugh
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    Yikes!!! Why would you assume incest?! Talk about jumping to conclusions.

    Quote from CapeCodMermaid
    Does anyone allow different sex siblings to share a room? I know culture change lets people decide who their roommate will be, but I think the change was to let gay people share a room. I have a brother and sister who want to share a room (ick). As far as I know, incest is still against the law.
    Any opinions?
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    A kiss is VERY different from true incest involving intercourse.

    Quote from BrandonLPN
    She explained that the siblings in question exchanged an explicitly non-platonic kiss.
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    Quote from ColleenRN2B
    A kiss is VERY different from true incest involving intercourse.
    I will agree that a kiss between a brother and a sister does not necessarily = incest. BUT the OP made it clear this wasn't that type of kiss. We all know where the line is, French kissing, open mouth, what ever. That kind of kiss between siblings is incestuous and inappropriate. I trust that she (the OP) can tell the difference.
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    I must have no clue as to what most of you are talking of. I do not understand why a bro and sis in their very old years should not share a room. Their are siblings for gosh shakes. Being that I have not worked in a long term facility, maybe I am missing something. Remember these elders are living there because they are unable to care for them selves fully. As long as they have privacy dressing, etc. I see no problem.
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    Did you miss the part where she explained they exchange romantic/sexual kisses?
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    Ask each of them privately if they truly want to share a room. Just because they kiss 'inappropriately' does not mean that they are doing much else. They are adults. Why does anybody care what these two elderly people do?
    tewdles, sharpeimom, and grownuprosie like this.
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    I would have to "see" this inappropriate kissing. Maybe it is just a little kiss on the mouth? Who cares? Not me. If they are starting to do other stuff well then there is a problem and they need to be watched as they may be kissing others also.
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    That the OP was uncomfortable with their kiss does not automatically equate to the notion that they are having incestual intercourse.

    Geesh people.
    sharpeimom, BuckyBadgerRN, and JDZ344 like this.
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    Just FYI - many of you may not realize that CapeCod (the OP) is upper level of nsg administration. She's asking for feedback for a situation that MAY or MAY NOT be in her own facility. I concede that this is a very serious one.

    It has been observed that inappropriate kissing has occurred. What else may NOT have been observed in the other 23 & 1/2 or so hours??? They are alone, unwatched in that room. And intimacy is not restricted to just kissing. There is the real possibility of other oral action, as well as intimate touching (either way); perhaps intercourse, completed or attempted.

    Are both physically able-bodied or could one just be overpowered? And are BOTH legally, 100% competent to consent? Could there be underlying sexual abuse here? Even if the two were separated, could they wander back & find one another?

    From all our training, we know that lonliness and the the need for intimacy are powerful human emotional drives. And while we strive to be non-judgemental, we still hold nursing licenses that obligate us protect the public. Think about our responsibilities if they were parent & child, or child-to-child, or adult-to-child. What about covert physical/verbal abuse if there were any resistance between the two? Could there be something with other residents
    happening, also?

    In all my years, I know of 5 specific epsiodes where the facility administration had to step in where these types of questions/incidents arose. Others, incl the Dept of Health needed to be involved.

    To OP, I think the DOH may need to be called for any recommendations. Personally, I think they need to be separated. It's too much of a slippery-slope to me.
    Last edit by amoLucia on Nov 21, '12 : Reason: to complete
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