What you're experiencing does happen often, to a lot of nurses. Don't give up on nursing if you really want this, over one job. I think it's a bit unfair to write you off and say you don't belong, or that you're not cut out for it. Healthcare has its social quirks you adapt to over time. It's a culture shock, and wondering what you've gotten yourself into is normal. Not one person has thick skin on day one; some people ignore rudeness, some meet it with returned rudeness, others call people out for being unprofessional, and some just remove themselves from the situation. While it's usually in your best interest to try a job out longer than you did, I understand fully. Some places are giant red flags, and it's better to get out before they start writing your name with pen instead of pencil.
I honestly almost walked away from nursing myself about a year ago because an LTC was crushing my spirit and wreaking havoc on my body/mind. I came out of school and took a Unit Manager position at a SNF (which, lessidea earned, if somewhere will hire. someone for a "higher" rung position like that as a new grad, you should probably run far, far away fast). My passion is in geriatrics, and I was wide-eyed and excited to have my very own unit and residents. While I truly enjoyed getting to know and love my residents and the place in my heart for the geriatric pt population only grew bigger, I also stubbornly tried to fight something much bigger than me and threw myself into that position full-force. I pushed and pulled for better staffing, I relentlessly tried to motivate/reward staff for how burdened they were while still coming down hard on abuse/neglect, I lobbied to be properly supplied and outfitted with equipment, I created inservices and streamlined work flow, I squared up when needed with the handful of MDs that rounded weekly if they werent acknowledging issues, and I talked myself blue in the face arguing for our right to better resources/attention/treatment from our mother hospital system. I kept it up a long time before I started becoming really jaded to healthcare, and even in some ways: human nature itself. It was as though I was a figurehead leader of a glorified health insurance-money farm. They made a killing off my SNF while providing borderline inhuman conditions, because, hey, the checks clear and most of my residents weren't cognizant enough to understand how they were being disgustingly shortchanged. Nothing I said/did helped and I was advocating into a vacuum. And I was there almost every day of the week, upwards of 60 hr a week, for what was about 21/hr with no overtime pay, so my checks only showed 42 hr if I was lucky. Honestly, through and through, I got to be truly miserable and exhausted to my very core. Not sleeping well, poor appetite, always lethargic and sad. I didn't think it healthy for me to remain in nursing. But instead of leaving outright, I applied around and fielded some different possibilities before I accepted my current position where I'm now practicing patient care that I'm excited about, at a facility I enjoy, with teamwork and good people.
Just to give you an example of how another nursing job could be totally night-and-day different from your last one: I now work on an ICU stepdown surgical floor. I work with a 1:3 ratio for appx $37 an hour before diff, and I get to self-schedule. My fellow nurses and our techs are really amazing and proud of what they do and where they are. The high job satisfaction leads to everyone consistently helping everyone else. No one sits and lollygags at the desk while another nurse/tech is drowning and running around wide open. We toliet each others pts, medicate if needed, help each other with invasives, and look out for one another. Additionally, my facility does quarterly, organization-wide nursing forums to field concerns/needs/issues of the bedside nurses, and then *actually* follows through with change rollouts and work flow improvement projects that we on the floor *actually* petitioned to have. I'm also constantly getting to learn new things. I take care of some involved sxs like Islets, CABGs, TAVRS, Whipple's, etc. I'm given pay incentive to increase my skill set, and take part in innovation and new training in pt care. And to top it all off, my facility is providing me with a full-ride from BSN to MSN, with option to bridge to DNP down the road. It also has the framework, resources, and infrastructure in place that's allowed me to join the research team of an ANP, with the ability to form my own team down the road to conduct my own research.
I suggest, like others have above, that you perhaps consider clinic work and go do the last bit of school to get your RN. Now, when I say that I honestly don't mean it to sound as though it'll make you any "better". I've met many an LPN that's more savvy and adept than BSNs with the same work experience. It's just the nature of how nursing is progressing--you almost have to get the RN to get on in acute care, the extra bit of school opens up a lot more doors.
I know this was an extremely wordy reply, but I feel like I can kind of relate to what you've said. I really wanted to stress that there's better things out there for you. LTC is almost universally deplorable, it seems. But there *are* good companies out there, and different roles you could fill as a nurse. I came from the science research sector myself, and rudeness was no acceptable there either. I was taken aback by how nurses/CNAs spoke in residents' rooms, talking about them like they're objects. Not explaining care before the touch them. Just rough stuff for me to stomach.
No matter where you go though, you'll sometimes have heavy shifts and deal with rudeness. The real litmus test is if those instances are not commonplace. Some MDs you'll have to work alongside will be like pod-people, lacking any social manners. Patients and family will also occasionally be rude and mean. You develop a thick skin, and a begrudging empathy towards a-hole pts. It's not personal, and being sick/anxious/scared in a hospital can bring out the worst in people.
But it's rewarding to watch people progress and get better each shift, because you helped them do that. I think you ought to give yourself at least one more chance to find your place in nursing, and I hope you find a better position.