Quote from vickivicki1
well i am an lpn w/ a criminal misdemeanor theft conviction, i was in a horrible marriage at the time, i wanted to die, i made some financial mistakes and because of that my husband wouldn';t talk to me for 4 years, he was always gone doing his thing, i worked 2 jobs most times to pay for my lawyer, went to court alone, told no one about this , and suffered thru it alone, then i was taking care of my mom for 8 years before she died and found my calling. the problem is........at this time, iwas fired 2 weeks ago from my job r/t to "disregard for pt. care", i can't have new potential employers call them, because of the firing, i was working mega overtime and the last 3 weeks i worked made several med errors, nothing major, but there were 3, i had never been written up for anything else in the 10 months i worked there, but now when prospective employers call, they give me a bad reference, and i have only been a nurse for a year, so i have to include this on my application, also i have a misdemeanor theft charge from 1997, so even if i get hired, they do a backgriund check and i am fired about a week later.........i don't know what to do, i have to get a job....my husband, the same one, is getting mad, of course i don't tell him any of this, he would just look at me in disgust again. please tell me what to do, is there any way i can get a job????????.......i feel like such a terrible person......i love my patients, and i would never again take anything that wasn't mine, but no one will give me a chance first due to the firing, then the record.....i'm devastated, and time is running out r/t to my not having a job.......it will all come crashing down soon..............please help.........anybody..........
Wow- first, take a deep breath. In regards to your recently been letting go for disregarding a patient, I would challenge that or ask for an explanation of this charge. Always remember to be honest. No matter what you do. People you take care of trust you. Trust yourself. Everybody and I mean everybody makes med errors. EVERYBODY. It is an accident. You have to slow down and take your time. But you this already. You probably are a good nurse in a bad situation. Overtime is just that overtime. I don't believe that there is mandatory overtime. Say No! You have to take care of yourself first. If you don't, you can't take care of anyone else effectively.
In regards to potential new employers calling the old employer, in CA. (where I live) an old employer can only say whether or not the person can be rehired or not. NOTHING ELSE. I would check with your state's Employment Development Department or Labor Board. If the old employer says anything else, they can be held liable for that. I am also suggesting that you find someone to talk to immediately. From the sound of your post, you can't talk to your husband. Everyone needs someone to talk to. Please find someone. Maybe an old professor, a former colleague whom you trust even a therapist or mental health advocate. Use EAP (employee assistance programs) which should come from your old employer since the stress of overtime, firing is due in part to them.
You say that you were fired 2 weeks or so ago. I am not sure then, when you say that you get hired, they do a background check and then you are fired. How would you know that? It is my experience that you wouldn't even get hired before the background check was completed. Remember, be honest.
Answer the questions on the application or to the person honestly. If the question asks if you have ever been convicted of a felony...........answer no. You haven't. If it asks if you have been convicted of a misdemeanor, then answer truthfully. Sometimes, people will give you a chance to explain yourself. 1997 is a long time ago and before you were a nurse.
I am not trying to be nosy or to pry..........but have you considered looking into marriage counseling so that maybe your husband can begin to understand you and that you have someone to talk to that cares about you?
Have you thought about a separation so that you don't have the added pressure of his anger on your shoulders about getting a job?
You will find a job. If you practice a particular faith, turn to that. I have one and let me tell you that I worked for someone for almost 2 years who HATED LPN's........absolutely HATED us. My life was miserable. I had a headache for 2 years. When she walked on the unit, people would scatter like bugs. But my patients brought me there everyday. NOONE was going to keep me from them. I paid my dues, said my prayers every single day before I walked on that unit. And when my time came to leave for something better and closer to home, I resigned. I can't tell you how relieved I was. The headache that I had for two years disappeared. I think God wanted me to know how much I really wanted to be a nurse. You will find the same thing. Give yourself some time. PM me if you want to talk. I will keep you in my prayers.