wife, mother wondering if she can make it

  1. Hello, everyone. I'm new to this web site. So far it looks really interesting. I'm a wife and mother of two, and I'm afraid that I won't do well because of having to balance the time with my husband, 5 yr. old , and my 7 mo. old. I feel like I don't have enough time for my family. I want them to understand that this is very important to me. My husband is supportive, but underneith I think that he is jealous that I am going to school, and he is not. I am still taking my pre-req's. I am going to take the PSB in April . Hopefully I'll do okay and I'll get a chance to start the LPN program in August. At my school there is so much competition. Almost everyone wants to go to my school in my city. Are there other wives with young children that are going through the same thing as me? I'd like to talk to someone who let's me know that I'm not alone.
    Thank you
    Alisha
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  2. 11 Comments

  3. by   Thunderwolf
    There are many moms with kids returning to school.
    Please review our forums.
    Welcome to allnurses!!!!!
  4. by   live4today
    Quote from a dream
    hello, everyone. i'm new to this web site. so far it looks really interesting. i'm a wife and mother of two, and i'm afraid that i won't do well because of having to balance the time with my husband, 5 yr. old , and my 7 mo. old. i feel like i don't have enough time for my family. i want them to understand that this is very important to me. my husband is supportive, but underneith i think that he is jealous that i am going to school, and he is not. i am still taking my pre-req's. i am going to take the psb in april . hopefully i'll do okay and i'll get a chance to start the lpn program in august. at my school there is so much competition. almost everyone wants to go to my school in my city. are there other wives with young children that are going through the same thing as me? i'd like to talk to someone who let's me know that i'm not alone.
    thank you
    alisha
    welcome to allnurses "dream"!

    if you are feeling overwhelmed about tackling school and home responsibilities then you are in good company. it's an age-old situation now since married women with kids have been doing it for years now.

    the good thing is you're in good company here at allnurses where many nursing students onboard can relate to your situation since many of them are in the same boat as you.

    it's pretty unsettling at first, but as you get into a workable routine of home and school, you'll do just fine. and, if you just can't seem to tackle both, wait until your two little ones are a few years older. no two people are alike, so do what is best for you and your family. good luck to you!
  5. by   RN wannabe
    I am a wife and mother of 3 small boys, and I am currently an RN student. I also live in a hurricane ravaged area, where my husband is a telecommunications engineering manager. He has been working more than breathing, I think. When he isn't working, he is repairing our home and yard, as well as working on various damaged vehicles. In his spare time (hahaha) he coaches our sons' ball teams, which is practically another job. While he is busy being superman, I care for my 7,4,& 3 year olds WHILE attending school full-time in a VERY challenging RN program. I have the convenience of a wonderful preschool and great in-laws, but trust me, if I can do it, anyone can! My husband is planning to return to school as soon as I graduate, and I think he will be more comfortable going back after I am finished, employed, and assisting with our financial security. Just remember, in God ALL things are possible! :spin: RN wannabe
  6. by   A DREAM
    Your letter makes me feel so much better. I thought that having two kids was hard enough. I am so excited to start the nursing program. Today I started my anatamy & physiology class today. Boy, was that a challenge!!!!!!! I've heard so many horror stories about this class. It totally freaks me out!!!! Sometimes I feel that having to deal with my husband is like a third child. Thanks for letting me know that I am not the only one out there with family and school trying to struggle through everyday.
  7. by   brandy119
    Quote from A DREAM
    Hello, everyone. I'm new to this web site. So far it looks really interesting. I'm a wife and mother of two, and I'm afraid that I won't do well because of having to balance the time with my husband, 5 yr. old , and my 7 mo. old. I feel like I don't have enough time for my family. I want them to understand that this is very important to me. My husband is supportive, but underneith I think that he is jealous that I am going to school, and he is not. I am still taking my pre-req's. I am going to take the PSB in April . Hopefully I'll do okay and I'll get a chance to start the LPN program in August. At my school there is so much competition. Almost everyone wants to go to my school in my city. Are there other wives with young children that are going through the same thing as me? I'd like to talk to someone who let's me know that I'm not alone.
    Thank you
    Alisha
    Hello Alisha,
    I just wanted to respond and let you know I understand how it can be overwhelming with the responsibilities of going back to school with children to take care of, housework and all that. I have 2 children 6 and 10 and I started back to school last year, going for RN. I am a single mom, and don't really know how I am going to do it, working full time. I wont start the program until 2006, but am already worried. This website has helped alot though with all the advise and to know that there are people with children whether married or single that have done it. So I wish you all the luck!!! I am sure you can do it. August not so far away. Youve made it this far,and good thing your husband is there supporting you.
  8. by   A DREAM
    Brandy119,
    Thank you for your support. I'm glad to hear frome some single moms that are able to hold their head up and go forward towards their goals. I've been a single mother before I know that it is very hard. As a single mom I tried working and going to school part time. I ended up quiting school, and working. So, here I am a few years laters trying to make up for lost time. Good luck to all you do in your future.
  9. by   RNND
    I am 40, I have a twelve year old, I had a disabled daughter that died a few years ago, my husband is living in another state and comes home on weekends because he can't find a job in our state, I work about 20-30 hours per week, I just finished my BSN-RN, and am in school for my masters and doctorate for which I carry about 17 credit hours per semester, and we go year round. You can absolutely do this if you really want to. It is hard work, but very satisfying. If you find it is too much, and you can't balance it all, go part time, or go when your kids are older. It's never too late. Good luck to you!
  10. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Welcome to All Nurses
  11. by   Plagueis
    Welcome! I wish you the best as a fellow Mom and student!
  12. by   ordmedic
    [UOTE=A DREAM]Hello, everyone. I'm new to this web site. So far it looks really interesting. I'm a wife and mother of two, and I'm afraid that I won't do well because of having to balance the time with my husband, 5 yr. old , and my 7 mo. old. I feel like I don't have enough time for my family. I want them to understand that this is very important to me. My husband is supportive, but underneith I think that he is jealous that I am going to school, and he is not. I am still taking my pre-req's. I am going to take the PSB in April . Hopefully I'll do okay and I'll get a chance to start the LPN program in August. At my school there is so much competition. Almost everyone wants to go to my school in my city. Are there other wives with young children that are going through the same thing as me? I'd like to talk to someone who let's me know that I'm not alone.
    Thank you
    Alisha[/QUOTE]
    I started school at the age of 38. I have three children ages 10, 8, and 5. I put my mind to it and did great. I actually graduated with 3 out of 4 of the class awards. It takes help from your family. Remind them about how much better off you will be financially as a family. I competed with people half my age. Sometimes life experience can be a big plus. Go for it!

    Jennifer
  13. by   sillyme
    Hello Alisha,

    I am also new to this site. You can do whatever you set your mind and heart to. I have three children 12,9 and 6 and used to have a very unsupporting husband :angryfire when I went through school. I worked the 11p-7a shift 5 days a week through it all. Cant say it was the easiest thing I've ever done, but it's been the best thing I've done for myself and littleones. Now I'm an LVN and am doing the bridge program for RN. Just remember to choose your battles and stay focused on your dream.

    Lots of luck,
    angelina

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