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Susan Thank you for your wisdom and rational thoughts! Currently, I still have my preceptor, but I'm trying to gain my independence. I'm having trouble with my time-mangement skills, organization, and priorities. My 8-week orientation is over on Saturday; however, I "can" have 12 weeks if I so choose. But I'm afraid to say I need the additional time because it will look like I'm relying too much on someone else to do my job. What do you think?
A Mentor program was just started March 1st and I will definitely be participating. We can choose anyone in the hospital as long as they've been there at least one year. This person will follow my progress, advise me, allow me to vent - all confidentially - for one year. This person will get a $500 bonus at six months and another $500 at one year - on the condition that I am still employed at that time. I think this is a wonderful program, but I haven't decided who to choose as my mentor. I was considering the nurse recruiter for a couple of reasons 1) She has the most to gain if I stay for the entire year (retention), and 2) I have been in contact with her since I started school 2 years ago (I got a scholarship from Jewish) and she is very receptive, discreet, always returns calls and e-mails and truly cares about the new grads' success. I know I'm going on and on, but I don't have anyone to talk to about my frustrations and concerns. This is so new to me. Before this job, I was a housewife and full-time Mom for 10 years! I've gone from that to working 3- 12-hour days a week with an hour of drive time each way. It's been hard on me and the children - I do my best at work to be a reponsible, caring nurse to all my patients and their families, but when I come home, my children are so starved for me and I am so mentally and physically drained, I have trouble giving them all that they need. They are 6, 9, and 10.
I'd better end this or I'll never get it sent! Finally, do you know of any web sites that provide a support network for new grads? I have done a lot of searches and come up empty. Again, Susan, thank you for your kind reply and promptness. Please write again and tell me some more about you and your family. Candi
Candi, I used to do my Army Reserve annual training at Fort Knox, and spent some time in E-town and Radcliffe! Which hospital are you working for? I think personally that your leaning towards the nurse recruiter for a mentor is a good one. Personal integrity has a lot to do with your comfort level with her. She sounds like she has a good grasp of what those responsibilities are as a mentor. I also would not worry about what others think of you if you request your orientation to go 12 weeks instead of 8. Those that bad-mouth others in this profession are shooting themselves in the foot in the long run. Nurses have GOT to learn to come alongside and nuture the next wave of nurses. Only then will the nursing shortage ease up, when being a nurse does not mean you shoot your coworkers to shreds! Ask for what you want (empowerment) and ignore the comments. You will shine in the end, and have more confidence. Use the time well. it would be helpful to me to know what area you work in... are you in a correctional facility, too, or a public hospital?
In response to your comments re fatigue at the end of the day, feeling you aren't giving enough to your kids...I still go through that at times! I am in a new marriage, I have a teenage son and an 11 yr. old daughter, 2 stepsons who are teens every other weekend, and aging parents in Florida! I believe that any woman who works and gives a lot of energy will feel this way by the close of the workday. Plus you drive an hr. each way, correct? I think my cronies here will back me up with that one! Sometimes the pressures of the workplace can so frazzle one that there seems to be an empty well at the end of the day. I have found that at times I have to pull back emotionally more than I would like with my nurses and my peers, so that there IS energy for my spouse and kids when I get home. I also do not stay up really late, and I have learned to lower my expectations of being susie homemaker! I love to cook, but have resigned myself to simple meals I pre-plan with a menu list, and I don't keep my home immaculate, just moderately presentable. I don't know if you are single or married, but if you are a single parent, I truly feel for you, because I have been there, for more of my life than I was married! That can drain you in a heartbeat...I had to develop a church support system with other single parents, and a couple close phone friends, as my parents live so far away, and I am an only child. Thanks for sharing with me...talk to you soon! Hang in there, Candi! We are all pulling for you!!!