In search of wise words of encouragment!
0May 17, '13 by Gifted_HandsHello,
My name is Sherrell, I'm 24, and currently working on my Pre-requisites (5 classes left) for a chance at nursing school to get my BSN! I have no children but I do have a very active social life which keeps me distracted for the most part. I graduated from high school in 2007 and ever since then I have been attending college and taking courses. I had changed my major 3 times before I came to the decision to major in nursing and then plan to go back to college to become a CRNA.
I'm now at a point in my life where I feel that I should have already obtained a degree; being that I am 24 and 6 years after graduating high school. I keep beating myself up over the fact that a few of my closest friends have graduated and even went back for their masters degree or even decided on following a new career path. I also worry and wonder what my friends and family think about me "taking so long" to obtain something that should only take 4 years. Part of me is saying "maybe nursing just isn't what you truly want to do, because if it was you'd be doing better in your pre reqs and getting it done" but another part of me wants to keep pushing for my BSN. I've been adamant about wanting to graduate from a particular university and the year I'd like to graduate which is in 2016, but problems keep arising and I'm just about fed up with it all.
I love the thought of helping others and becoming a nurse, but it brings me to tears when I start thinking and feeling like I will not be able to accomplish the hopes and dreams I had for myself.
So if you could please give me a word of encouragement, or even a stern talking to because I know I might need it. Please do not hesitate on posting a few words thanks in advance!
3May 17, '13 by Dennis805I feel very similar. I'm 24 and haven't even been excepted yet. But u will never be too old to be in school. I work in a hospital and I see nursing students who are in there 30s 40s and even 60s. So you will never be too old for school. It don't get easier once your in a program either so just suck it up for 3 years and it will pay off in the long run. There are so many opportunities in nursing the sky is the limit. You will never see how beautiful the mountain top is unless you brave the climb
2May 19, '13 by WorkhardbekindI truly believe that with hard work and perserverence, you can do this. Ask questions in class. Get a tutor. Join a study group. Prioritize and do today what Future You will thank you for. And when you start feeling the pressures of the opinions of your friends and family grating on you, just remember that at the end of it all: it's YOUR life. You keep on doing you! You want a BSN? Go get it! They'll have nothing to say about how long it took you to get it once it's yours. Also, "those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." The true people who care about you will support you no matter what. You've got this.
2May 21, '13 by Carbon-12Hi Sherrell,
I read your post and I had to respond because I have definitely experienced similar feelings on my journey.
I'm also 24. I graduated from high school in 2007 and had initially attended a 4 year college as an undecided major. I ended up with a semester of F's because I stopped going to class without withdrawing, I had no idea what I wanted, and I ended up attending a local community college to "figure things out". After taking an "Investigations in Health Careers" class and shadowing different medical professions, it was then I fell in love with emergency medicine and nursing three months before I turned 22. I live at home with my parents, cut my hours at work (and took a huge pay cut), and dedicated my life to my studies. I sacrificed my summer break, my winter break, and my social life too. Whenever I looked on the outside, those were the times I wanted to quit because it was NOT easy watching my friends graduate with their Bachelor's degrees, getting jobs, attending grad school, moving out and becoming independent. And here I was at age 22... then 23... having gone to school for 5 years with no degree... taking these nursing prerequisites for programs I wasn't even sure I could get into. But you know what, I didn't let it stop me from trying or applying.
Now at 24, I just finished my last nursing prerequisite and my last semester at the community college. I'm obtaining my Associate's Degree in a week with honors after 6 years.
It took 2.5 years of full-time course work, over 60 credits earned and 7 nursing school rejection letters to get ONE acceptance into a BSN nursing school as a transfer for the Fall 2013. I am telling you, it is 100% worth every sacrifice, every hour of studying, every missed phone call, and every missed night out, to hold that piece of paper in your hands.
My advice to you is to ask yourself this question: How bad do you want to be a nurse?
Looking to the outside and comparing yourself to others takes precious time and energy away from yourself and it takes your eyes off the path to your goals. I'd be lying if I said I've never done it, because I certainly have. You'd be surprised at how much better you start feeling when you learn to take pride in your own individual path and what you have accomplished, even the small achievements of the completion of each prerequisite.
Diplomas don't have start and end dates printed on them, so if it took you 6 years, or 8 years, or 10 years to get your BSN, you know what? That doesn't show up anywhere.
It won't be easy, but it's 100% possible. If you want it bad enough, go out there and get it because it will be worth it.
Best of luck,
2May 23, '13 by RettacoopI know you have heard this from others but from someone who is over 50 and have two more classes for my BSN and have only had my RN for 1 year, (was an LPN for 28). I feel re-energized by going to school with those of the younger persuasion that don't have all the answers sewn up in their life. You have to work at a chosen job for the next 50 years or so be sure take the time you need. There is nothing worse than being in a job and not at least liking or enjoying it. But there is something life changing about doing a job you love. The good thing about nursing is you are only one certification, or one class away from another career. Wounds, therapy, dialysis, home care, Infusion, teaching, flight nurse, travel nurse, mission work, ICU, Transplants, Military, Nursing Law, Nurse Examiners, Informatics, need more? In nursing you are only limited by what you can imagine yourself to be. Don't give up study hard but take a little time out for yourself just don't do it when you have a final. Good Luck.
1May 26, '13 by Gifted_HandsThanks so much ladies! Y'all have truly helped me think positive but there are still some negative thoughts that pop in and out of my thoughts but I will alway refer back to these post when I feel the negatives getting to me more and more.
I appreciate y'all letting me know that I'm not the only on in this world with the same goals and somewhat of the same position!
I came to AN to get and find my place where I vent, discuss, and read all about the things us soon to be nurses will experience.
Thanks so much you ladies and gents for making me feel welcome!
Feel free to continue posting more wise words
1May 26, '13 by LadyFree28, BSN, RNIt took me about 12 years to get my BSN...I failed ADN nursing school at 19, went to school as an LPN after getting enough credits for my Associates degree, poised to return to get my BSN. I felt defeated when I failed. It took at LOT of humility to return to school, but I did not see myself doing anything else. I enjoy being a nurse, have gained much insight, education and experience on being on the journey of life...
Remember, you can only run your own race...when you run your own race, there is always the guarantee that you CAN'T LOSE...
Good luck and go for it...make a plan, figure out how to work on resolving your own negative thoughts, and resolve to make a plan for success.
1May 27, '13 by DominicosmamaI am 28 years old now and barely going back for my ADN. I went to school for criminology in college in the hopes of being a forensic nurse. I applied to an MSN program and got accepted but had to deny my spot because my husband and I got pregnant with triplets. Sadly, we lost them half way through the pregnancy. At that point I had already obtained an MS in criminology and was working as an executive. After losing them and giving birth to my son who was hospitalized with meningitis at 10 days old, I decided that for some reason the universe was pushing me back towards that career because I experienced both the absolute worst and best in patient care and I feel like I can make a difference. I feel so discouraged though because I so far, have straight A's and my last pre-req is micro bio in which I have no clue how I am doing because my prof refuses to give us our grades for our exams. I am in Cali and am so scared of not getting into a program because of this one class after so many years and set backs and all of the hard work while juggling children, work, and school...
0May 28, '13 by Gifted_HandsQuote from DominicosmamaI'm sorry to hear about your lose of your triplets. I know that the lose of anyone that someone loves dearly can have a very big toll on a persons life, and I just want to let you know that God has them and will continue to hold them until y'all meet again!!I am 28 years old now and barely going back for my ADN. I went to school for criminology in college in the hopes of being a forensic nurse. I applied to an MSN program and got accepted but had to deny my spot because my husband and I got pregnant with triplets. Sadly, we lost them half way through the pregnancy. At that point I had already obtained an MS in criminology and was working as an executive. After losing them and giving birth to my son who was hospitalized with meningitis at 10 days old, I decided that for some reason the universe was pushing me back towards that career because I experienced both the absolute worst and best in patient care and I feel like I can make a difference. I feel so discouraged though because I so far, have straight A's and my last pre-req is micro bio in which I have no clue how I am doing because my prof refuses to give us our grades for our exams. I am in Cali and am so scared of not getting into a program because of this one class after so many years and set backs and all of the hard work while juggling children, work, and school...
It's good that you're pushing to finish your goal of becoming what you choose to be. I don't have any children but to hear that you have made straight A's with a pretty busy agenda is amazing. Don't stress to much about your grade I'm sure you did fine especially knowing that you've always obtained A's in the past.
Keep at it Dominicosmama!!
1Jul 8, '13 by A&Ox6, ASN, CNA, RNI met a woman in college who was just starting her pre requisites at the age of 59. Until then, she had owned and operated an ice cream parlor. Although she had never been to college and had not even gone to school in the USA, she was one of the most articulate and intelligent women I have met in my college. She is in great shape and knows what she wants. And she'll do anything necessary to get there.
If a 59 year old can take her first class with such pride, you have nothing to be ashamed of starting nursing at 24.
Just a side note, would it even have been beneficial to finish a bachelors if you didn't know what you wanted to do?
Best of luck!