Need to vent......

  1. Intro about me first...
    I completed my training in 1988 in Scotland. I have been married to an American for 20years. We considered moving over to the US many times and we ended up settling in London and then Winchester. Last year we finally decided to move, my husband got a job transfer and we were able to move over with a spousal visa, i still had to jump through all the hoops to get the visa. I moved over in November. We are in San Diego. I have a 19yr old son, 17yr old daughter and a 10 yr old daughter.

    I am awaiting my approval from Vermont to sit the NCLEX exam, i didn't apply until the end of October, and i have tried to study :trout: , at the moment i am not working, well can't as a nurse anyway i think i can work as a care assistant, not really looked into it. I have my green card.

    Moving on to today........
    My husband wanted to get Life Insurance and they invited themselves over to do a health check.The woman was so rude. We live in an apartment in a gated community, so you have to park on the road and obviously press the buzzer, my husband ended up having to help her get her stuff out of the car and she was anoyed that she could not park, i mean she had to walk a 100yards , heavens above. So when she came into the flat she was so rude to us. My husband asked her if she was an RN or LVN, she said that she was not. My husband told her that i was studying for the RN exam. She started to say how difficult the exam was in California. I explained to her that it was a national exam. She argued back and i just lost it. I shouted at her, one exam then you endorse your licence for the state you want to work at. Not once why she was working with my husband did she say please or thank you.
    I just get annoyed when people think they know it all.

    Disclaimer, i'm not trying to say that all americans are rude just venting about this one.

    I miss working, but i knew things would change on the ward i worked in as wards were closing, and i miss my colleagues that i worked with.
    Just needed to vent.
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  2. 10 Comments

  3. by   Silverdragon102
    we get good at listening to venting on here so vent away, Sorry that you have had this bad experience it amazes me how people think it is different from state to state when it is the same exam for everyone. Hope you feel calm soon
  4. by   suzanne4
    She probably took her exam back when each state had their own exam, before there was the NCLEX exam. But she had no business with that behavior, and she needs to be reported to the company. And she is not an RN or LVN? Then what were her credentials for doing a screening for your husband? And how did she know anything about the exams if not a nurse. Just more heresay......

    They want you to purchase insurance from them, so you are the customer, and she was getting paid to come to the house. She was not doing it for no pay.
  5. by   barrjan
    She would not say what she was. She took a blood sample from him.She did not wear gloves or did she wash her hands before the procedure or afterwards.I told my husband to complain, if he doesn't i certainly will. He told me that she would not let him see what his blood pressure results were. She acted like she was in a position of power, like she was "the decider "
    Prehaps she had considered being an RN a long time ago, she looked like she was between 45-60yrs old. and prehaps she considered it difficult for her. I do believe the exam was difficult, our state boards were no cake walk either, or are the current exams today.

    Thanks for listening. I think it's just the different culture thats just getting to me, my husband has said to me 'now you know what i went through" America is just happens to be a foreign country that speaks the same language.
    my husband told her 'shes done her research" ..... thanks suzanne and everyone else on here. I usually lurk.
  6. by   madwife2002
    Have you had much dealings with health care professionals here in the US? Because they are some individuals who dont wear gloves for some proceedures-like changing IV's, flushing IV's, drawing bloods, removing IV's. It doesnt seem to be enforced like it is in the UK.

    Oh by the way I dont think we have met so welcome:spin:
  7. by   madwife2002
    By the way it is just a different culture, you will soon get used to it and it is lovely once you settle. It does take some time though and you do have to go through some changes. We all feel what you are feeling-it is normal I promise you. I wanted to run to the airport and get on the first plane home-now I never think about it.
    Here is my home now.
  8. by   traumaRUs
    I have lived overseas for a total of 12 years in Korea, Spain and Japan. Each time we moved, it was very stressful for our entire family. My temper was very short, my husband and I fussed more at each other and with kids too. It is hard to totally change cultures.

    Don't worry about venting and good luck with studying.
  9. by   madwife2002
    Quote from traumaRUs
    I have lived overseas for a total of 12 years in Korea, Spain and Japan. Each time we moved, it was very stressful for our entire family. My temper was very short, my husband and I fussed more at each other and with kids too. It is hard to totally change cultures.

    Don't worry about venting and good luck with studying.
    You know you just cant, it is the person who is moving from overseas who has to do the adaptation and kinda meets in the middle. I have my middle ground now and it is a real nice comfortable place
  10. by   traumaRUs
    Yes, you are right Madwife. It was my family and myself that had to adapt by learning new languages, new foods, new ways of education for our children, etc.

    Because my husband was in the miltary we did have a built-in support system that helped. We could help each other out so no one was really starting from scratch.

    I will say though that not wearing gloves when drawing blood, not washing your hands is certainly not condoned here in the US.
  11. by   madwife2002
    Quote from traumaRUs
    Yes, you are right Madwife. It was my family and myself that had to adapt by learning new languages, new foods, new ways of education for our children, etc.

    Because my husband was in the miltary we did have a built-in support system that helped. We could help each other out so no one was really starting from scratch.

    I will say though that not wearing gloves when drawing blood, not washing your hands is certainly not condoned here in the US.
    I know but I see it all the time people just seem to cut corners, sometimes I think it is the private rooms that encourage unsafe practices, because people will tend to do things safely if they think others are watching if you know what I mean.
  12. by   traumaRUs
    Yes indeed I sure do. Sorry for the off-topic.

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