Patient with chf, on dialysis, he has frequent falls (family wouldn't even consider a hospital bed). They refused aide
visits, dear wife is at her wits end (saving grace is his son who rearranges his schedule to give mom some respite).
each week dear wife is just exhausted and asking when he might pass. I've suggested stopping dialysis, which they are not ready to do.
He took a fall this am, fractured pelvis and shoulder, cardiologist said he is not a surgical candidate, (he wouldn't survive it);
after all is said and done; the family would consider our IPU but ONLY if patient could continue receiving dialysis 3x/week. It
is just so sad. Why put someone through all of this? They are the dearest, kindest people.
Thank you for listening.
atlantarn
Such a sad situation....
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Re: Such a sad situation....
If she loses him, then she will have empty days. The sad thing is that she may die before him at the pace she is keeping. It happened to one of our caregivers , our volunteer found the patient's wife dead when she arrived to visit. His daughters would not/could not care for him so we had to hurry to find a place for him as he was bedbound and unable to care for himself. Some people are also stuck in the rescue/martyr/victim triangle and have a difficult time breaking the chain. We had one wife who was like that and could not decide on Hospice but would call us to come talk to her about Hospice so she could vent and feel better for a while. He passed in the hospital and we found out that she had told us many untruths about her home situation. The sad thing is that your patient may not be receiving the care he needs due to her agenda. Bless you and bless him. You have done all you can but we can't fix everything for everyone.
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