Burnt out and struggling emotionally - page 3

As I have mentioned, I do hospice and palliative care. It's been a year. I'm completely burnt emotionally. Hospice I handle much better than palliative care. Palliative care is quite draining as... Read More

  1. Visit  FLArn profile page
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    If it is available get a company cell for patient calls and turn it off when you are off duty. If no company cell is available, look at getting a cheap cell (like Net10 for example) for work calls. This may even be tax deductible as a work expense. Your peace of mind will be well worth the investment!
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  3. Visit  pixelle profile page
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    Try taking 5 minutes everyday, just to focus on YOU. No chores, no calls, nothing but a quiet room, or even in a parked car. Close your eyes and empty your mind. (Of course emptying your mind is easier said than done, so maybe try thinking calming thoughts and just breathe.) You will get through this.
  4. Visit  St_Claire profile page
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    Quote from FLArn
    If it is available get a company cell for patient calls and turn it off when you are off duty. If no company cell is available, look at getting a cheap cell (like Net10 for example) for work calls. This may even be tax deductible as a work expense. Your peace of mind will be well worth the investment!
    I agree. Leave a really long voicemail on the work phone telling them if it's an emergency please hang up and call 911. If not, please call the office number if it is after 5pm. This phone is tax deductible.

    The other great advice I heard here is "let go". Easier said than done but make it your daily practice. And delegate. If its not your job don't do it. Let the social workers, ministers, aides, and on call nurses do their job. Insist on it if you have to.
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  5. Visit  MomRN0913 profile page
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    Thanks for all the ideas, feedback and support. After a grueling week, I have had a grueling Monday and now my boss is out to get me. She has taken the hospice cases I enjoy and had left me with the palliatives which are extremely draining. Any " easy" visit I have she has taken away from me so she can take out the new nurse to see those. She's made jabs at me all day and is making my job considerably more difficult.

    I saw her do this to a nurse when I first started. That nurse left because she couldn't take it anymore.

    I'm just so sad. I thought hospice would be a great experience. Well, perhaps it would be if I was doing true hospice and didn't work for a company like this.

    I just cry everyday. I'm pretty depressed. If I could quit tomorrow, I would.

    I live in Nj and really wish I was the winner of that powerball ticket. I see patients in the town it was bought in.

    I'm just so sad.
  6. Visit  tewdles profile page
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    Quote from MomRN0913
    Thanks for all the ideas, feedback and support. After a grueling week, I have had a grueling Monday and now my boss is out to get me. She has taken the hospice cases I enjoy and had left me with the palliatives which are extremely draining. Any " easy" visit I have she has taken away from me so she can take out the new nurse to see those. She's made jabs at me all day and is making my job considerably more difficult.

    I saw her do this to a nurse when I first started. That nurse left because she couldn't take it anymore.

    I'm just so sad. I thought hospice would be a great experience. Well, perhaps it would be if I was doing true hospice and didn't work for a company like this.

    I just cry everyday. I'm pretty depressed. If I could quit tomorrow, I would.

    I live in Nj and really wish I was the winner of that powerball ticket. I see patients in the town it was bought in.

    I'm just so sad.
    Perhaps you could speak with your physician and take some time off work.
    Hospice is very difficult work, and sometimes the affects of it creep into our daily lives without our knowing. This cummulative grief may be affecting your ability to cope.

    Try to step back and care for yourself, if possible.
    Good luck.
  7. Visit  nurseebol profile page
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    I usually go to nursing homes and independent living. I have a very kind team leader, albeit a little mousy. But anyway, I once took a home patient as they were close to home and I live far away. We usually don't take them that far, but we did; It was 2 miles from me. I offered myself night and day, and his symptoms were bad as far as agitation and the doses of meds he ended up on were really high and wouldn't touch him. Boundaries. That post was the best. We all have nasty bosses and political crap. You are out in the field most of the day so hopefully you can get around that. But setting the boundaries will make it so much easier. It may take a while until your census turns over and you can start anew with new patients, but it will help. But if you cannot pull yourself out of this rut you MUST take a leave. You will not make it otherwise. I find myself questioning the meaning of life all the time after taking this job, but honestly, I think it is just from turning 40, a little mid life crisis. I love my job and I know that once I get through my "existential crisis" I will be better for it. Right now I am listening to "Conversations with God, an uncommon dialogue" . Neat stuff. I pray alot. Maybe you need a new company. Start looking.
  8. Visit  sosorryandlost profile page
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    My heart goes out to you. I have felt your pain for along time. My life was work and work only. I blocked out friends, family, hobbies, etc. to put my heart and soul into my career as a RN on a fast paced, difficult unit in a large teaching hospital. My depression deepened, and led me to do something very stupid that has forced me to not be able to work. I urge you to listen to your inner thoughts and feelings. Crying everyday is not worth it. This job sounds too demanding emotionally and physically. This is no way to live your life as a mother, friend, nurse, etc. There are multiple fields of nursing out there to discover. DO NOT settle for a job that leaves you crying and feeling the way you do. Take care of yourself first. When you do this, life brings more meaning, happiness, and peace. Please take care of yourself and family. Patients, coworkers, jobs come and go, but family is always there <3
  9. Visit  MomRN0913 profile page
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    Ssorry,

    Thank u for sharing with me and understanding and I am sorry for what you had to go through and endure.

    Because of the reasons you mentioned I made a very difficult decision. I am resigning. After more torment and crying I decided this is no good for me or my family. I am giving 4 weeks notice to collect my vacation. I have no savings, so I must get a job. With my vacation I can eek it out to 6 weeks to find a job and with my tax refund, another 2.

    I did secure a per diem position yesterday inservicing on medical devices. So I will not go without money.

    I called out of work yesterday as I had no one to watch my daughter. Calling out as always causes a disaster. I was making calls to patient from home ensuring they were ok. I'm working tomorrow on Easter and will most likely resign Monday. Only my preceptor gets. 3k bonus when I make a year which will be April 9th. I'm scared I will hurt her bonus if I resign before then even if I stay u til after then.

    I am really really praying for that full time WFH job to come through. It would make being a single mother and having a full- time career that much easier. I've been patient, and I'm just praying it will happen soon.

    I'm taking a huge leap of faith here, I hope it's the right decision
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  10. Visit  sosorryandlost profile page
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    I am so proud of you and you should be too! I understand it was very difficult, but this is probably one of the best decisions you will make in your lifetime. It may to be hard to see that now, but somewhere down the line, your mental and physical self will thank you very much and you will be more at peace. Its important to not always worry about others when it is not necessary and take care of and love YOURSELF. I've learned that you will not get far in life if you do not do this first. Everything will fall into place but it takes time. I wish you nothing but the best and keep us updated YOU MADE THE RIGHT DECISION! take care


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