I am new to this forum but i agree with jnette that yout concerns are valid.
As hospice nurses, it is important to remember we are facilitators. We support the patient and the family as one unit. We give them the tools to ease the transition.
Our personal agendas have no place here, only the patient/family unit's goals. This is not as easy to apply as it may sound. We want our patients out of pain, not anxious, and a myriad of goals we set up in our care plans
But we must be sensitive to and respectful of what our patients request as their needs and desires.
It is so easy to get close and attached, to become the warm nurturing center of our patients' lives. Maintaining a professional stance is a tightrope, balancing between adoption by the family and being aloof and disconnected.
You do more good maintaining a sense of objectivity, as guide, teacher, listener, facilitator, not investing so much emotion that one becomes a member of the grieving family.
Turn to your team for support, not the family.
I see I am already being long winded
It is an exciting and challenging path you have chosen to travel. You will be probably find yourself with your own grieving process for those close to you you have lost. Again, be aware and look to your team for support.
I wish you well