The "Weigh" Out---A Food Management Support Thread - page 3

by VivaLasViejas Guide

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Greetings! Many of you know that I have struggled for most of my life with compulsive eating and weight issues. I got my start way back in the 1960s, growing up with an overweight mother who watched my weight obsessively, long... Read More


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    Another month ... another 2 pound weight gain. I am failing.

    At the beginning of each month, I think, "This is the month I will get back on track. Even it''s just 1 or 2 pounds, I WILL loose weight this month." During the month, I watch the scales fluctuate up and down that pound or two. But at the end of each month, I cannot declare myself the winner. I start each month a pound or two heavier than the last.

    In March, I gained 2 pounds.

    I am starting to get back into my exercise routine, but it doesn't seem to be having any effect. Before breaking my ankle in December, I was religious about exercising vigorously for 30 minutes, 5 days per week -- and that was barely keeping me even. Then I broke my ankle, reduced then stopped the exercise and gaine about 7 more pounds back over the holidays. I can't seem to get the situation turned around again.
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    Quote from sharrie
    can i join this thread too please. at christmas i weighed in at 14 stone (197 pounds) i realised that i had become obese, clinically and physically. no excuses really, i've always been a big girl and i adore food. i can sit down and eat one of the big bars of chocolate without batting an eyelid, a box of cakes would be gone in minutes. i have spent years telling myself that i am happy with my size but as i have got older my joints are starting to creak and i am no longer as fit as i once was. even being big i could still climb a mountain, but with my knee problems in the last few years the weight has crept up as my activity has decreased. unfortunately my eating habits haven't changed and i am finding i am less able to do the activities that i love.

    3 weeks ago i decided i'd had enough, i hadn't weighed since christmas and now i do want to be small again ( i haven't been small since i got married 10 years ago), i want to fit into those clothes i haven't worn for years and i want to be able to wear a swimsuit on holiday without wearing shorts because my tummy fat hangs out.

    what a wonderful picture i have painted for you all i hope you all get the picture:d

    i have never done diets, no will power, love food and i'm grumpy when i'm hungry.

    so family warned i have started something called the diet chef. it's restricting calories and eating healthily. as i said i started 3 weeks ago and haven't cheated once.

    i am allowed granola for breakfast, a cereal bar for a snack and soup for lunch. i have a evening meal which is between 300 - 400 calories and in total i have been eating 1200 calories a day. i am permanently hungry and obsessed with food, no sooner have i eaten what i am allowed i am getting the next meal out and thinking about it. i am really struggling and the temptation to go and eat that chocolate that is on top of the cupboard is almost too much. i'd love to throw it out but it's my little girls and she'd sulk.

    so i really need some support and encouragment to keep me on track, on weigh in today i am 13 stone 1 (182 pounds) so it is working i just need to keep it up. i want to be down to at least 12 stone (168 pounds) which seems so far away.
    i don't know that i could provide support, but i wanted to say kudos! and i love your sense of humor!

    you have chosen the hardest diet though.....as i said, i am no specialist, but i remember a few things from my nutrition classes....

    in other words, loosing weight that fast is not good! it doesn't give you a chance to "stabilize" and more than anything else, you are hungry and frustrated! how long do you think you can hold this for?

    i absolutely don't mean to discourage you, i think it is very courageous! but do you need to be this hard on yourself?
    there is one thing that i have learnt about diets: you need to change your perception of food and portions first and foremost.

    if you can't keep the distance because the diet is too restrictive and frustrating, you will gain back more than what you lost.
    i think that you should re-think your approach before it fails you.

    you said that you enjoyed a certain number of activities. how about trying to become more active on a daily basis to begin with?
    physical activity is actually a natural regulator of appetite if you practice it regularly and for the long haul.

    instead of restricting yourself so much, try to find the positive approach to your diet and lifestyle changes.
    1) do more, and do more of what you enjoy.
    2) consult a dietitian. i think it is a good investment! the goals set with the dietitian will be more realistic , healthier and have more chances to give you a successful outcome without making you feel like you are punished every day god makes!
    3) keep a little notebook (journal) of your daily intakes: something small you can have with you all the time. write down everything that passes your lips.
    4) allow yourself a treat every now and then (in moderate quantity).
    5) join a group of ......i don't know....walkers, dieters? mothers? nurses? who have the same goal you have.
    the internet is a wonderful resource for those searches...

    ok, i'm short of ideas for now....but basically, please consider consulting with a dietitian (not a "doctor miracle" you see on tv though, a real dietitian-with a unitversity diploma :d ) and give yourself a chance to enjoy the journey instead of feeling like you are going through a military camp !
    it is a life long commitment you should be able to make, therefore it needs to be an reasonable and enjoyable one or it won't last.

    you seem to be a very positive person and i wish you the best success! i hope this post doesn't come accross as being bossy....just worried of the path you chose...
    good luck ! i really hope you will look into a more sustainable, less torturous, way to shed the pounds and meet your goals!
    b-
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    Quote from angie o'plasty, rn
    i've been thinking about this thread for the past week. i know i should diet, i've been gaining since i started the new desk job a couple of months ago.

    i miss doing things like i used to, and so i decided to start with exercise instead of big changes in my eating. this zumba looked like so much fun, i thought i'll buy the dvd and try it. i was chair-dancing to this utube video:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vf0q6qtthf4

    awesome! that really looks like fun!

    you gotta love the guy with the sunglasses and the fan lol!

    i wonder how many hours of "this jiggling away" per day one needs to be as skinny as the instructor!?

    i think i would end up in the er with lumbar muscle spasms if i tried her moves!

    good goal though! something to aim for....thanks for the link!
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    I like this blog. http://dietdiaries.spaces.live.com/

    I was pencil thin in high school and into my 20's - flat chested . . . . oh how I long for those flat chested days!

    My first 2 kids - I went back to my prior weight. My 3rd in my 30's . . I gained more weight and didn't lose it right away. It took jogging and Slimfast!

    I jogged for 12 years - and was in good shape but NOT pencil thin and I did have breasts.

    Danny in my 40's . . . I gained weight and have been a yoyo dieter. I weigh between 165 and 175. I keep losing 10 and then gaining it back.

    I have NO motivation either regarding exercise.

    I stopped jogging when I had my seizures 4 years ago.

    Somebody kick my butt!

    It would be easier if I had a buddy to go on walks with -
    steph
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    Well, thinking about exercise when you're still over 300 lbs. is just that---THINKING about exercise. I'm not doing any yet, at least nothing above or beyond the hall-running I do at work, sweating like a horse, or the rare day I've been able to get out in the yard and do some spring cleanup.

    But I can feel the time is coming when I'm going to want to get moving, so I think I'd do well to be patient with myself. One can change only so many longstanding habits at once; right now, my dance card is pretty full with just the compulsive eating and food choice problems. But I figure if I can master those, the rest of it should fall right into line.........or so I hear tell!
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    Quote from VivaLasViejas
    Well, thinking about exercise when you're still over 300 lbs. is just that---THINKING about exercise. I'm not doing any yet, at least nothing above or beyond the hall-running I do at work, sweating like a horse, or the rare day I've been able to get out in the yard and do some spring cleanup.

    But I can feel the time is coming when I'm going to want to get moving, so I think I'd do well to be patient with myself. One can change only so many longstanding habits at once; right now, my dance card is pretty full with just the compulsive eating and food choice problems. But I figure if I can master those, the rest of it should fall right into line.........or so I hear tell!
    Well, Thinking is definitely a good exercise !

    Although it doesn't burn much calories.....

    Ok seriously though.... exercise does not mean running the marathon, or running period.
    Think about a baby learning to walk.
    One baby step at the time.
    maybe walking longer distances. maybe taking a few flights of stairs, or just a few stairs, but every day.
    You have to start somewhere.
    And you can take care of your eating disorders while starting to move more. And moving more might help you solve those eating disorders. If you stay active, busy, it is all that more time spent no thinking about food or eating.

    There is one thing that helps me: I make the decision to eat healthy when I go to the grocery store. I know that whatever I buy will end up in my stomach at some point. So I shop on a full stomach and don't buy what is "BAD" for me.
    If the house is only stocked with healthy treats (and I mean healthy!) it will be possible to eat the wrong kind of food only if you make the effort of going out to buy it. Time for you to actually make the move should provide you with the answer: NO!

    Anything fried, pre-made, fast-food, with heavy sauces, and sodas : NO!

    If you only start with those 3 steps, I believe you should start feeling and seeing results sooner than later.

    and if you like dancing, close the doors and dance in your living room half an hour everyday. No witness, just yourself and some music you really enjoy. Have fun, it helps!
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    You see Marla - if you and I lived nearer each other, we could take walks and talk. It is amazing how far you can go when you are deeply embroiled in a conversation with a friend.


    steph
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    Viva,

    I broke down and joined Weight Watchers. Down 6 pounds my first week, which I know won't keep up.

    Join a gym with something called an upper body ergometer, or UBE. It's a bicycle for your arms. It burns calories and takes more work than you'd believe. I worked with a gal years ago who took off 300 pounds via diet and exercise. I used to work out with her and she went for 20 minutes on the UBE to a 60 minute cardio circuit that incorporated the treadmill, starclimber, bike, and elliptical.

    A Hershey's Kiss at a time.

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    I would love to have someone to workout with.
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    Well, I will say I've got some of the basics down already..........

    Buying groceries when I'm not hungry.......check.
    Buying only what I know to be good for me..........check.
    Activity---well, I'm not sedentary like I was when I was working at a desk job. I move around at work all evening. But I know I need more than that for weight loss...........check.
    Ditching the fried foods, McDumpster meals, Cokes...........check.

    The weird thing is the sabotage my entire family seems to be engaging in. I can't BELIEVE these people. They all said they would be happy to help me by eating better right along with me. That lasted a whole week.

    In the past four days alone, my husband has brought home four large bags of candy. My son has bought doughnuts. It's more than coincidence that all of these items are still sitting at MY place at the table. Even my sister, who's NEVER been a compulsive eater, is suddenly chomping Werther's Originals like they're going to be illegal tomorrow---she's eaten four bags that I know of just since last weekend.

    It's almost funny---what the hell is WRONG with these people??!! My son certainly doesn't need to lose weight, but the rest of us do, and even though my particular problem is no one else's fault, I'd think they'd want to NOT flaunt their newfound taste for all things sweet and gooey in my face! It's like pouring a glassful of Jack Daniels and Coke and sitting it right in front of a newly-sober alcoholic. So far I have resisted with every fiber of my being...........I may be a weakling, but with God's help I'm finding some strength somewhere. Question is, how long can it last? And why, when all my family has been telling me for years is how scared they are that I'm going to die from obesity, would they place so much temptation in my way?? I don't get it!!
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