Nursing & Depression - page 43

While visiting in the lounge one day, we discovered that every nurse there was on an anti-depressant. I have had 'Treatment Resistant Depression' for about 20 years--as long as I've been a nurse. ... Read More

  1. by   sanakruz
    Sphinx- You sound goood!!!!
  2. by   micro
    don't she though!!!!!
  3. by   sphinx
    Well it is nice to know that others can notice a change in me. I do feel a bit better too, but never sure if it shows. By the time I get home, I am still kinda tired, and don't know if my family can notice a change in me or not. But last night my husband said he really appreciates that I am not coming home buried in paperwork. I said, me too! The past 2 days have been kinda nutty at work, but I'm getting the hang of it!!!! Today I had 1/2 day; I went and did a visit to do a DC on one of my patients to wrap up loose ends. Then I took my son to the MD for his physical. I was proud of myself, remembering to ask everything I wanted....about his height/weight percentile, switching to concerta, a few other probs. Then on the way home I stopped at the pharmacy. My other son's birthday is tomorrow, and it occurred to me that no one will be here with him but me, so we should celebrate tonight. I was on the wrong side of town, so asked my hubby to get his present (we're slow ), cake and card, and we'll order out. I felt so organized! Weird!
    anyhoo, I digress.......
  4. by   sphinx
    Mario, I am wondering, why do you usually now end your posts with "I'm sorry"? Is it because some of us (me included) have given you a hard time and you are apologizing ahead of time, or do you just feel generally sorry for having the opinions you have and expressing them, or whatever. I don't know what anyone else would think, but IMO, you can say what you what....in a well thought out manner......without preapologizing.......if someone is hurt by your statement then perhaps an apology is needed, but otherwise......just seems like you are carrying around guilt for little if any reason.
  5. by   mario_ragucci
    Sphinx - I do end with I'm sorry :-( as a apology in advance of offending someone with my thoughts. I also say it every time I ask a question in class. But I don't aplogize at work because the RN's observe me there, so I don't have to say I'm sorry to them.

    Everybody...I am coming a long way in my iceberg-tip understanding of depression. For the firsttime I heard someone say that a depressed person will become aggitated by non-depressed people becaused the depressed people are upset with their own depression and don't want to depress the undepressed. My school also went into the way a person can look if they are depressed. A "blunted' look. You know, i see alot of people who have blunted looks most of the time. I don't want to harm anyone, and if someone is blunted I will not ignore them, but will not provide any stimulus other than "hello" or "how are you" with a person with a blunted look. I don't want to harm anyone. Sad, emotional looks are one thing, and I can now differientiate between a sad look and a blunted look. I still respect and love you, blunted or not, and only want to help/love.
    I'm sorry :-(
  6. by   micro
    please forgive me all, but in reading through the above few posts........something struck me 'right out of the blue' clarity.....Mario said.....He greets someone with ..... 'with more than a hi and a how are you?'
    wow, I just found that a profound statement.....and I am not being perfunctory or anything else, but outright 'clarified'

    how often we 'just go along in this world with just going through the motions, the hi's and the how are you's.........'

    to be aware of your environment and others around you.........and to respond accordingly in the utmost of your 'way'.............

    what the 'world' needs now is more awareness and peace.........
    and understanding and respect...........
    but I am not a politician......I am just a human..........

    thanks for the above words.........thanks for bearing listening/reading mine.....

    love and peace all,
    micro

    nothing profound, just me.........
  7. by   abrenrn
    Haven't been around for a while. I appreciate that one comment Mario always makes cause I surely agree - he sure is a sorry one.
  8. by   mamabear
    Mario:
  9. by   micro
    I am not writing this in anyway to defend Mario......'cause he does not need defending..........and I also respect Mario.......

    but just a thought.........

    I see another 'tact' in how he types and takes........

    reread where he states......but to the nurses that he works with in first person.....he does not need to say 'sorry' as they see how he is and how he operates......within his job and work environment.............

    I think that we often tend to look to another and to see if we can find fault with them.............
    rather than look at ourselves too deeply.....
    or just
    letting another person be..........

    live and let live..............

    ain't nobody sorrier than me........
    because I agree.........
    with the sentiment.........
    that I perceive that Mario states........
    without seeing my face and vocal inflections.......
    what I say.........you may misinterpraaa'te'''''''''

    or whatever...........

    imho.........
    this is a great thread.........
    the growing awareness and support of each other.....
    that we are all in this together.....
    with our similarities and with our differences.......
    breaking the stigma os mental health and illness.....
    at least for ourselves........
    so we can help our patients better.....when we clock on
    and when we clock on........
    remembering that we are just human too..............

    so, to be perfunct, and to not state much of wisdom.........
    but just micro brain junk..........

    be well,
    love and peace all,
    me xoxoxoxxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxxxooooooooo
  10. by   abrenrn
    Couldn't help taking one last look here when I was doing something else. Realized I definitely do not belong but could not help speaking my one final truth. Hey, I was just agreeing with the guy.

    But all feel free to comment however you want now. Those who are curious and know how to think may find it interesting to see just how quickly certain people jump in now - happens all the time - they keep quiet until they think I'm not listening then - if they think I'm gone - they come back and start badmouthing me. Don't know why they are so scared of me - is it because I have a brain that recognizes - and points out - stupidity, lies and bull?

    I would apologize for offending except I don't think one should apologize for telling the truth and calling things as they are. Which is one of our problems as nurses, we always try to make nice-nice, ignore those who insult us, hoping against hope that idiots will eventually learn. Fact is, some people are teachable, others aren't and I am not wasting time anymore. People who finally choose to learn do it without my input, people who refuse continue to refuse regardless.

    Sphinx, think you are doing great. To the other cool people I've met here, I'll miss you. Sadly, too many fools, I've got much better things to do these days.

    YOU can click on a poster's handle to find out every place they've posted and read what they post. I never make "negative" comments till I'm sure what I'm talking about. For instance, someone comes on here, says he has no idea what depression is like then goes to another board where he describes himself as severely depressed. Has the habit of putting down women frequently - thinking he's subtle but not subtle at all.
    So, anybody who thinks I've been particularly negative about anyone, click on the handle and look at what else has been posted by that person.

    Much more fun to slam me than do any work though, isn't it?
  11. by   micro
    and no slam intended......but you may take it as that if you must.........

    i just come on to post, chill and share thoughts......if you do not like my thoughts or opinions.........that is okay.....and please
    if i bore, as said of way in the past.....

    if I bore, please hit ignore.........

    and btw.....I do not post anything from work........too busy.........and not access to internet there.........

    love and peace,
    please if I offend.....
    let it end.........
    with me.......

    this is a nursing and depression thread.....
    bowing out for a bit myself..........

    it is just that as a person that does know a bit about nursing and also about depression both from a professional as well as on a personal level.......
    that I felt to share...........

    but I will not intentionally ever 'flame or blame anyone' anylonger.........

    whatever you want to think
    is fine.........

    micro
  12. by   micro
    Originally posted by micro
    *If you have never experienced depression, you have no idea what it is like*
    *It is indeed a long and lonely road back*
    kidsccrn-----
    'the answers they give are so simple, aren't they'
    'living the solution is not
    take care as you can
    micro
    to quote myself of a ways back.......
    been there and done that......
    sometimes words have merit.....
    sometimes they are strong.....
    sometimes they are powerful.....
    and sometimes....wrong.....
    sometimes we all just dribble
    or drivel, drivel along.......
    and sometimes not.......
    and then again.....sometimes we just squat!!!!!!!!!
    ---------micro

    life, nursing and depression.........
    all serious subjects...........
    of a serious bent me.........
    and so enough of micro be wordseeeee'

    so below will share one of my all time favorite poems.....
    sure, not new to majority of you here.....
    but it is one that I live by today.......
    and gender doesn't matter.....
    but what the words say.........

    it is indeed all up to me.....


    The Guy in the Glass

    When you get what you want in your struggle for self,
    And the world makes you King for a day,
    Then go to the mirror and look at yourself,
    And see what that guy has to say.
    For it isn't your Father, or Mother, or Wife,
    Who judgement upon you must pass,
    The feller whose verdict counts most in your life
    Is the guy staring back from the glass.
    He's the feller to please, never mind all the rest,
    For he's with you clear up to the end,
    And you've passed your most dangerous, difficult test
    If the guy in the glass is your friend.
    You may be like Jack Horner and 'chisel' a plum,
    And think you're a wonderful guy,
    But the man in the glass ways you're only a bum
    If you can't look him straight in the eye.
    You can fool the whole world down the pathway of years,
    And get pats on the back as you pass,
    But your final reward will be heartaches and tears
    If you've cheated the guy in the glass.

    copyright 1934
    Dale Wimbrow
    (1895-1954)


    today, I choose what I do with sometimes deliberate thought.....
    and somedays I do not take myself so seriously.........

    words are just words folks, be well,
    take care for yourself, you are each #1

    micro
  13. by   VivaLasViejas
    Come on everybody, can't we all just get along??

    Seriously, I'd hate for anyone to stop posting on this thread because it's been valuable to a good number of members, and we ought to be able to "agree to disagree" with one another. I myself have had some issues with Mario's posts, but he has a right to his opinion, as does abrern, micro, and everyone else. Please don't stop posting here, you guys; we obviously need to keep the dialogue going, or there wouldn't have been 500+ posts.

    Love to all of you!:kiss

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