by HardTimes

Hello All,

I am going crazy here ... Here my situation. Maybe you can give me some advice, Please. I graduated this past May. The first time I took my exam I failed but passed on my second try, only with God's help. Now, I have literally been looking for work for some time now since June and have only been told they are only looking for 1-2 yrs experience. Sure everyone has heard that line one time toooooo many.

OK, the two places I do know that's hiring are home visiting agencies. Both of them I faxed my resume but only put that I was looking for part-time work because at that time that's what they were hiring for. But I wasn't considered because I didn't pass my boards yet. Now I called both companies back and they are only hiring full-time. I currently work full-time at a stable non-nursing position.. this is not my dilemma - I am willing to leave my job for nursing.
The issue is .. My sibling works at one of the places I really, so badly want to work at. Another thing is - she is in a position where I would have to explain myself to her sometimes, even when I forget do to something - as new grads sometimes do or is that don't do

I do understand her position in this typed of situation if the two of us are ti work at the same place. sorry I didn't mention that I have only faxed my resume to this company, only after speaking to her about it. And she said "I guess you have to do what you have to do but I don't think it would be a comfortable situation because of my title there."
OK, I'm at the point in job searching where, if this is the one position that I'm offered, I would like to interview and accept it. Keeping in mind what I'm getting myself into but at the same time I would hate myself and I mean really hate myself if I didn't pursue this. (I'm the type of person that if I see something I want, I try my best and everything I got to get. If I get turned down I'll deal with it, but at least I tried.)

I"m a single mom with bills and a mortgage. Leaving my current position would actually be a little drop in pay but managable. I will soon be 6 month without nursing experience and competing with the Dec grads. I didn't put myself though all of this pain, sleepless night, headaches, time lossed my child and stress for in the end, get my license and not do what I so badly want do, work and be a Nurse.

this situation is really hurting my heart because if I can't find anything else so to pass up a position that could been offered because of how my sibling feels about it... I just don't know.

please help me sort this out. sorry if I'm long winded and thoughts are unorganized. I'm confused right now
all of your advice is appreciated

Thanks,
hardtimes

Re: Siblings working together ? yes or no

At every facility I've every worked, siblings would not be allowed to work together, especially when one would be reporting to the other. Different departments or units, sure. "Overlapping," no. Most employers' nepotism rules/policies cover this.

Re: Siblings working together ? yes or no

I work with a brother and sister; the sister is a charge nurse while the brother is a new grad. They're both OK with it, but I know some of the other staff is uncomfortable. The sister is a bully and now she has her brother to back her up . . . I'm not saying that either you or your sibling are like that.

After decades of working with my husband, I'll say that the most difficulty comes not from one another, but from the perceptions of our colleagues. Be prepared to hear things about your sibling you might not want to here, might disagree with, and have to decide whether or not to share with her. In my case, DH and I have made it a practice to say to anyone who wants to complain about one of us to the other, "I don't want to hear about it. You need to take it up with him/her." I've even given up a couple of friendships with people who couldn't respect those boundaries.

Re: Siblings working together ? yes or no

agree with the others. There is more to this than whether you and your sibling are comfortable (or the administration for that). Consider your own difficulty in "bonding" with your colleagues or they with you. Also, consider that regardless of the "facts" of your hire it will be viewed by some as nepotism.

I worked the same place as my sister but we worked in completely different areas and had no people in common who worked for us or above us (except the CEO). Also, it wasn't until I got the job offer that I said my sister worked there. That way I could be certain that I got the job on my own.

I wouldn't recommend it for your scenario.

Re: Siblings working together ? yes or no

thank you all for your advice,

I did receive a call for an interview and just decided to tell them that I accepted another offer, although I really didn't, because this situation it just too complicated.
I got the interview without them knowing I had a sibling that works there and was going to not say anything until after an offer. I would not have had a prb receiving orders or discipline from her but not sure how it really would have played out once in that situation and environment. She did continually explain to me how ignorant, and jealous a lot of the females in her office can be when it came to the already two sets of siblings that are there.
I ultimately realized my sister loves her job and I didn't want to be the reason for that possibly changing.


Thanks again..
HardTimes

Re: Siblings working together ? yes or no

I am an RN Charge. in a very rural area. My Daughter works at the same facility as well as my sister. both are LPN's Most of the employees are related in one way or another. It has never been a problem for us.

Re: Siblings working together ? yes or no

I Must first say that God is Good all the time.

After countless applications and call backs from employees stating they are only looking for experience and to please feel free to call us back in 6 mo-1yr.
I can now say... I received a job offer today and I accepted. I faxed my resume Thursday, received call Friday, interview was this morning and I start in 2 weeks. I am just so excited.

It is at a addictions clinic near by as RN. with great hours and benefits- although it's a pay cut, I'll manage since I get all holidays off with add't 27 days. At my current job, my schedule is 7p-7a 4days/wk in Technology and worked this for 3 yrs now and am physically Exhausted. No time for my son, no life, migraines for past few months, on call every other weekend and having to go in for past 4 months because co-worker health issues...

But now... I can breathe, live and enjoy life, have time for my family and friends and also able to attend Church on Sundays and midweek. I really miss Sunday services.

God is so good. He has been working with me in so many ways. One of which is him telling me to be patience and things will happen in his timing not mine.

(Pray, be faithfull to him and he will answer your prayers)


Enjoy your day,
HardTimes

Re: Siblings working together ? yes or no

Originally Posted by delee99

I am an RN Charge. in a very rural area. My Daughter works at the same facility as well as my sister. both are LPN's Most of the employees are related in one way or another. It has never been a problem for us.

I am a charge nurse on the same ICF unit where my son, a CNA, often works, so yes, I am his supervisor. It's never been a problem, though, because my expectations for his work are the same as for the other aides (if anything, I expect MORE from him than anyone else) and I don't play favorites, ever.

While it still feels a little weird to hear "Mom!" at work, I'm getting used to it, and he IS a good aide for the most part. In a way I was surprised that my facility would allow us to work together, but we happen to have some of the best bosses on the face of the earth, and we all are very much like a family, so I guess they thought we both could handle it. So far, so good.

Re: Siblings working together ? yes or no

Originally Posted by VivaLasViejas

I am a charge nurse on the same ICF unit where my son, a CNA, often works, so yes, I am his supervisor. It's never been a problem, though, because my expectations for his work are the same as for the other aides (if anything, I expect MORE from him than anyone else) and I don't play favorites, ever.

While it still feels a little weird to hear "Mom!" at work, I'm getting used to it, and he IS a good aide for the most part. In a way I was surprised that my facility would allow us to work together, but we happen to have some of the best bosses on the face of the earth, and we all are very much like a family, so I guess they thought we both could handle it. So far, so good.

My Daughter Calls me Diane at work... She says that I don't ans to "MOM" and yes I expect more. But they are great to step up
I have 4 wings to cover so I am very Busy!!!