THIS Is Why I Love Geriatrics

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Just had to share this great story from work today.

Paul and Sylvia are a married couple living at my assisted-living facility. They've been there several years, and Paul's health has taken a huge nosedive in the past couple of months.........he's severely anemic, requiring blood transfusions every few weeks, and he's just gotten over his fourth bout of pneumonia since the first of the year. Sylvia, of course, knows that his time may be short, and she's not in the best of health herself; in fact, she and I have had some private conversations (not to mention hugs and a couple of good cries) about "later", and how we as a facility will support her and help her get through it.

Well, this morning a rumor got started that today was their 56th wedding anniversary, a story that was promptly confirmed by the couple, although they "didn't want any fuss made" and appeared to be almost embarrassed when the administrator announced it at lunch. Their sons and daughters had sent them a huge flower arrangement, so at least there was some acknowledgement of the day...........and then a couple of us staff members got to thinking about what we could do to help them celebrate for real. After all, we thought, how many anniversaries do Paul and Sylvia have left?

So I asked them if they had any plans; they said No, so I asked them where they'd go to eat if they DID have plans. Sylvia promptly mentioned a local place they both enjoyed, and off I went to see what we could do about it. Soon everybody was in on it: the administrator, the lead med aide, the office manager, the other staff.........everybody, that is, but Paul and Sylvia. A dinner was ordered for delivery by the chosen restaurant; somebody dug out some white Christmas lights to decorate with; I sent my hubby and the lead med aide to my house to dig out some of the decorations we used at our silver anniversary party last year.

Between the lot of us, the anniversary couple ended up with a dinner fit for kings, and a fancy table on the second floor balcony to sit at and be waited on by the administrative staff. There were fresh flowers picked right out of the garden out back; silver candles; roses and confetti arranged on the table; white twinkle lights festooning the balcony; even a festive dessert specially prepared for the celebrants.

To see the smiles on the faces of those two precious people made every bit of effort worthwhile. Sylvia was crying; Paul was doing everything he could NOT to cry, and they were both so happy and so surprised that they could hardly speak! We told them we wanted to have an anniversary to remember, and that's exactly what they got............they both said even if they lived another 20 years and forgot their own names, they would never forget this night.

And THAT'S why I love what I do.:p

Just had to share this great story from work today.

Paul and Sylvia are a married couple living at my assisted-living facility. They've been there several years, and Paul's health has taken a huge nosedive in the past couple of months.........he's severely anemic, requiring blood transfusions every few weeks, and he's just gotten over his fourth bout of pneumonia since the first of the year. Sylvia, of course, knows that his time may be short, and she's not in the best of health herself; in fact, she and I have had some private conversations (not to mention hugs and a couple of good cries) about "later", and how we as a facility will support her and help her get through it.

Well, this morning a rumor got started that today was their 56th wedding anniversary, a story that was promptly confirmed by the couple, although they "didn't want any fuss made" and appeared to be almost embarrassed when the administrator announced it at lunch. Their sons and daughters had sent them a huge flower arrangement, so at least there was some acknowledgement of the day...........and then a couple of us staff members got to thinking about what we could do to help them celebrate for real. After all, we thought, how many anniversaries do Paul and Sylvia have left?

So I asked them if they had any plans; they said No, so I asked them where they'd go to eat if they DID have plans. Sylvia promptly mentioned a local place they both enjoyed, and off I went to see what we could do about it. Soon everybody was in on it: the administrator, the lead med aide, the office manager, the other staff.........everybody, that is, but Paul and Sylvia. A dinner was ordered for delivery by the chosen restaurant; somebody dug out some white Christmas lights to decorate with; I sent my hubby and the lead med aide to my house to dig out some of the decorations we used at our silver anniversary party last year.

Between the lot of us, the anniversary couple ended up with a dinner fit for kings, and a fancy table on the second floor balcony to sit at and be waited on by the administrative staff. There were fresh flowers picked right out of the garden out back; silver candles; roses and confetti arranged on the table; white twinkle lights festooning the balcony; even a festive dessert specially prepared for the celebrants.

To see the smiles on the faces of those two precious people made every bit of effort worthwhile. Sylvia was crying; Paul was doing everything he could NOT to cry, and they were both so happy and so surprised that they could hardly speak! We told them we wanted to have an anniversary to remember, and that's exactly what they got............they both said even if they lived another 20 years and forgot their own names, they would never forget this night.

And THAT'S why I love what I do.:p

yes i agree wholeheartedly - i love my job just for the very reason you show- its the little things we do and i love doing em. i am "the cookie lady" cause i buy the whole building cookies for the nights i work ( diabetics included get sugarless :) and i am "the only one who asks if she has pain and takes care of her right " according to one husband - and am brought yummy veggies from another hubbies garden as he tells me he wishes i worked more ( i only do part time ) and it sure makes you feel good when someone smiles and says they are so glad you are on for the night cause they love you back and yes i do love everyone of my residents - cant help it lol - know we ain't supposed to but just cant help it. cry when they die - hold their hand as they die - bring them music disks even give out my last dollar and get them a treat ( if they can have it ) - i never fit into areas like OB , ICU, etc - but i found my niche in geriatrics and am dang proud of it - those that say ewww to me when they find out get a good tongue lashing telling them i will pray they get someone who actually wants to be there with them and love thme when they get to need it - they generally will think on it and agree. i give kudos for all nurses that have found their niche and stayed there - i have good friends that when i needed OB was grateful they were there and stayed extra though they did not have to to be there with me- best nurses there because they LOVED it - everyone eventually finds their niche and i love mine :)

Specializes in nursing home care.

I love care home nursing as you feel like you have an extended family. Our residents know when you've been away, they know if you're not feeling too good, they know they can trust in you. It does not matter if my name is ? and they call me marjorie or crusty as they feel safe with me. Everyday is familiar and yet refreshing, some things our residents say are wise, some are confusing, some are funny and some things my residents say make me blush and I am only 25! Never mind life begins at 40, life begins at 70, 80. 90, wherever an older person is given the opportunity to live and thrive and to feel 'at home'. BIG CHEER FOR ALL CARE HOME STAFF OUT THERE, KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!

I can't rememeber if I've posted in this thread or not. I don't think I have, but if I have, I'd like to say this again anyway. Marla, your post has inspired me since the very first time I've read it. Each time I come back to read to see new replies, more tears come to my eyes. It's the stories that people have shared in this thread, that make me shiver with excitement of being able to touch the lives of my future patients and future colleagues like you all have. I hope I get to work with people like each and every one of you. And yes, the thread, along with caring for my grandma, and getting to know the nurses at her nurses home, and hopsice folks, has me considering doing at least a stint of my career in geriatrics. :) Thank you very much! *grabs a tissue*

Specializes in Med/Surg; aged care; OH&S.

What a beautiful story.

I worked in a nursing home (aged care facility) for two years while doing my masters degree and loved it. It didn't have the 'excitement' or whatever I guess of acute, clinical nursing but was more about making sure older people were happy and healthy in their own home.

I still miss doing my rounds at night, walking around on a cold night making sure all my ladies were warm and cosy and getting lots of hugs etc. And I loved having the time to sit down and have a chat with patients, having a laugh etc. I found it less formal than hospital nursing and I really felt my patients were like my family while I was at work.

It was nice to leave bedside nursing on that note and I was so happy to see the back of hospital nursing I never regretted working there.

Specializes in pedi, pedi psych,dd, school ,home health.

Marla...this post is beautiful. I just applied for a position at an asssited living this morning!!!! Is God leading me to a new path??? Is this a sign??? time will tell!

thanks for the inspiration!!!

Specializes in Pediatrics, Geriatrics, Call Center RN.

That is a beautiful story. How wonderful for you all to do that for that couple. I'm so glad that they were both able to enjoy it. Good for you too! That's what nursing is all about.

Specializes in geriactric care- no place i'd rather be!.

you guys are amazing! truly beautiful story.

we had a valentines dinner one year for the couples at the ALF where i work. candlelight, flowers, and the look on their faces- priceless.

i get so frustrated when i'm approached with the 'how can you take care of old people' question. maybe if they took the time to sit down and see what incredible people the elderly are; the amazing stories and the wealth of knowledge, then they could answer the question themselves.

it's a shame the way our elderly are swept under the rug and forgotten. geriactrics is the only field i have worked in and i can't imagine doing anything else.

I am all teary eyed! Thank you for sharing it is so beautiful!

Please tell me you got a nice photo of the event.

Specializes in LTC, assisted living, med-surg, psych.
I am all teary eyed! Thank you for sharing it is so beautiful!

Please tell me you got a nice photo of the event.

Yes, we did, and we gave copies to Paul & Sylvia and their daughters, plus we have a framed copy on the fireplace mantel at the front of the building.

Funny how things come back around: Last month when my dh and I celebrated OUR wedding anniversary, Paul asked if he could take our picture.........he remembered!! So he took three, and he's planning to keep one in their apartment, one goes to their daughters, and one will be framed as their anniversary gift to us.:1luvu:

Nursing just doesn't get any better than that. :wink2:

I'm crying to! What a wonderful thing you did. Most of us in LTC are so busy that we sometimes forget to take the time to care. Thanks for the reminder that we do more than pass pills!

Specializes in Me Surge.

How wonderful! Reading this choked me up. Its incredible that you guys did all this work for that couple. I wish you could spread that love to all the nursing homes in the world. That's what it all about.

what a great story - thanks for sharing. you truly understand why working with the "geriatric crowd" can be such fun!

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