Patients are family members

I am wondering if any of you have this problem where you work at.
I am a CNA and work in a small rural area nursing home. We have several patients who are related to some of the nurses employed at my facility. Recently a nurse brought her 90 year old parents to live here.
Her parents sometimes do not want to get up in the mornings and sometimes wish to relax in their rooms napping, reading etc. Well this nurse come in to see her parents on her day off and was furious with the aides for not getting them up for breakfast and lunch. The residents had been asked that morning if they wanted to get up for breakfast and they had both answered no. Now my question is just because this nurse works at the facility does that give her the right to come in and demand that the aides get her parents up without asking them first. She says just get them up dont ask or they will refuse. Where do you draw the line when you are an aide up against an RN who has been working there for 10 years?