is this abuse - page 4

i am working in ltc facility resident was complaining sob no signs or symptoms was noted by charge nurse.she stated to resident that if you was having sob you would not be able to run your mouth... Read More

  1. by   TheCommuter
    Quote from emotional_she
    Nursing isn't the only profession where you get screamed at, cussed at, belittled and generally treated like crap.
    So very true.....

    I was a fast-food cashier during my teenaged years and was screamed at, cursed at, belittled, and generally treated like crap. To add injury to the insult, I was only earning $5.75 per hour.
  2. by   canoehead
    In fast food the customer is gone, whether satisfied or unsatisfied, within about 15 minutes. In nursing you have people saying how we need to have compassion and patience because the patient and family are sick or stressed. We have to cope with them for days or months on end. Crankiness or being easily frustrated is one thing, malingering and abuse of caretakers is something else entirely.
  3. by   emotional_she
    'malingering and abuse of caretakers is something else entirely."
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    Yep, I agree. Is there anything that can be done if a resident is abusive?
  4. by   morte
    the abusive, physcally or verbally, patient may well benefit from inpatient psych visit....to help them deal with their grief and and feelings of loss.....and psych meds for behavior
  5. by   BlkQueenLPN
    Quote from emotional_she
    motorcycle mama,
    Nursing isn't the only profession where you get screamed at, cussed at, belittled and generally treated like crap. I will NEVER understand what you go through until I do it, thats so true. But I was professional enough not to take it to another level.

    In fast food you can call your manager and they can finish serving that person.

    IMO nursing is one of the most abusive jobs. We can't just "call the manager" We might be able to call our superviser for the family but you still have to work with them. And the patients..lol..psych eval. And if they are just a prick then you just have to deal with it till they are transfered or die or something. That can be along time.

    I love helping others but sometimes I DO question my line of work. We are hit, spit on, talked down too and cursed at plus other things. It can come from the pt's, their families, administration, cena's and other nurses.

    Then we have to deal with the taddle tales.

    Yeah, we are to be superhuman all the time.
  6. by   emotional_she
    Actually I'm not the poster who worked fast food. I worked as a CSR. 1,000x easier than nursing, but I did have to deal with a LOT of 'tude.
  7. by   BlkQueenLPN
    Quote from emotional_she
    Actually I'm not the poster who worked fast food. I worked as a CSR. 1,000x easier than nursing, but I did have to deal with a LOT of 'tude.

    What is a "CSR"?
  8. by   emotional_she
    I was a customer service representative for a loan company. It was only 8 bucks an hour but I had to do a lot of collections, and that was terrible. I even had to go to peoples homes to collect and give notices etc. It SUCKED.
  9. by   BlkQueenLPN
    Quote from emotional_she
    I was a customer service representative for a loan company. It was only 8 bucks an hour but I had to do a lot of collections, and that was terrible. I even had to go to peoples homes to collect and give notices etc. It SUCKED.
    Yeah. That does suck.

    Charlene
  10. by   EmerNurse
    Sounds to me like the charge nurse just had a bad moment - Lord knows we all go through it, with our kids sometimes ("will you kids just CAN IT ALREADY?????"), our spouses ("for crying out loud, let's just CALL someone to fix it - I need to do laundry sometime THIS MONTH"), our family ("look Sis, if you'd just find a DECENT guy, you wouldn't be calling me every hour to whine!").

    We ALL have our moments and sometimes it just sneaks out. Sure we shouldn't let that happen with our patients... or our families, but we're human.

    OTOH, if this was a constant attitude with this charge nurse, I might worry. But one rather mild comment (she didn't say "for God's sake, if you're so damn short of breath, WHY do you keep BABBLING"), I'd chalk it up as one of those rare moments.
  11. by   miracle1986
    I would have done vitals on the patient, including her sats...tried to calm her by reassuring her that you will be there for her...and with your assessment....go over the charge nurses head. Abuse should always be reported. And quite possible she was s.o.b. and talking fast. I had a lady talking fast and her peak flow was 25.
  12. by   Jo Dirt
    Quote from emotional_she
    motorcycle mama,
    I think you are the one being defensive, not me. There are plenty of times that I wanted to tell someone to stop flapping their gums. Nursing isn't the only profession where you get screamed at, cussed at, belittled and generally treated like crap. I will NEVER understand what you go through until I do it, thats so true. But I was professional enough not to take it to another level.
    Whether we like it or not, we have to accept we are human, not robots, and there will be times we may stomp our feet, get frustrated and jump around like Rumplestiltskin and yes, get defensive and low and behold, behave in an unprofessional manner. It's funny to see someone who swears they will never lose their cool get frustrated!
    You may feel like you can handle anything as a nurse, but wait until you have been stretched thin and worn out awhile.
    The less a person knows about something the stronger their opinions tend to be. I've been guilty of this, too.
    But here everyone is speculating about something we really know nothing about. Under what circumstances was this said. No, technically, it is unprofessional and should never be said. But what was the real story? There can be nurses who are jerks by nature, but I promise, no matter how patient and understanding a nurse is (or how patient they think they are) there is always that one "special" patient who will make you want to pull your hair out. And the nurse who said that may have really been using restraint compared to what she (or he) really wanted to say.
  13. by   emotional_she
    Ok listen, I never presumed that I knew everything about nursing and I know I wont understand how hard it is until I'm doing it.Now, I am getting defensive.I know that everyone gets frustrated but for some reason you have singled out everything that I have to say, and thats fine. We all get frustrated, I know that. I knew that when I was at work and would have some stupidly rich lady screaming in my face about a 500 advance I wasn't able to give her. I knew what my job entailed and even though yes, I wanted to tell her to shove it I didn't. If someone cant do what the job asks for without being rude to customers or patients then that is their problem. I see that you are very frustrated, and Im sorry but if you have a hard time coping with your career of choice without belittling others than that is on you. If I find that I am to the point where I cant handle being kind to my patients then maybe it is time for me to get out.

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