We only have 2 "older" students" in our program as well. One is 40-something with a gaggle of kids & a husband @ home & the other is mid-50s, I believe, with grown kids.
It was kinda funny because the 50s-something-year-old only joined our group @ the beginning of our last year & before she got there, the 40-something-year-old would constantly, well, I don't know how to describe it. She would constantly say things like, "Well, you guys don't understand what it's like to be my age & have to get through this," or "Once you people get to be my age, you'll know what real pain is!" or "Hey, I'm the oldest person here, so this, or that..." I mean, she would say things like that every day. Just constantly bringing to our attention that she was older than all of us. I don't know what she was expecting, since there were other students only a few years younger than her, with more kids @ home. I guess it was her way of dealing with some insecurity she must have had. Well, it's been a lot quieter in class since the 50-something-year-old joined our program. The first gal has nothing to "complain" about anymore.
Oh, actually, I forgot - we've got another gal in the program, mid-40s, I would guess that just had her first grandbaby over Christmas break. I think the reason I forgot to include her at first was because she has never even brought up her age....it's something I don't even think about when I'm talking to her.
The 50s-something woman struggles a bit with the computer aspects of the program. Other than that, she does just fine. I've noticed since I took my nursing school pre-reqs that "older" students tend to do much better in class than younger students. I've also noticed, though, that "older" students are always a little more insecure about fitting in, making sure they're understanding what's expected of them - I think that's natural since most "older" students have been out of school for awhile.
As far as fitting in, you've got to remember that everyone stands out in their own way. We only have a couple guys in my program - I'm sure they feel out of place all the time. I'm the only smoker in my program - that makes me feel insecure all the time. I'm the only one that's never worked in a hospital - I've got a lot less pt care experience than almost everyone. I'm the only one that's not married/in a relationship - that makes me feel like crap all the time! We've only got 1 lesbian in our program - I'm sure that makes her feel pretty out of place.
I know this is easy for me to say, but I know you're going to do fine. Once we all got to know eachother, everybody got along together just fine. No one's ever left standing alone when it's time to get into groups, or find a partner to do something.