When Good Friends Go Bad ... - page 2

This is just a vent really, incredibly frustrating ... I'm getting ready to graduate, and have been with this friend all through nursing school. As part of our senior project, we're organizing a... Read More

  1. by   WindyhillBSN
    Quote from lizz
    This is just a vent really, incredibly frustrating ...

    I'm getting ready to graduate, and have been with this friend all through nursing school. As part of our senior project, we're organizing a career day where all the hospitals make pitches to our soon to be new grads.

    The problem started when the director of the nursing program called out my name as project leader in front of the whole school ... and she couldn't remember my friend's name. Embarrassing, yes, but not my fault. Then, shortly thereafter, the director also asked me to lead another project on behalf of the faculty.

    The reason she asked me to do these things is because I've always done voluntary work for the director ever since I've been in school. I'm always happy to help out and, when she needs things done, I get it done.

    Anyway ... my friend has become insanely jealous over this. She's convinced I'm going to get some special award for graduation which, btw, doesn't exist. It's probably been made worse by the fact that the director also asked me to write an article for the newspaper, and there's going to be a full page spread on these various projects. Am I going to be featured in this article? No ... I'm just writing it and taking the pictures.

    My friend is so jealous of all of this that she now simply refuses to do any of the tasks she's been assigned. It's really jeopardized the success of the projects and I've had to scramble to make up for her lack of initiative. I've had to beg her to do every little thing and, now ... I've had to resort to doing it myself.

    I've tried to talk to her about it, but she denies all of it ... even though she constantly complains to others that I'm going to get some kind of special recognition from all of this ... which, again, isn't going to happen. I've done these types of projects before and there are no awards for it, nothing. I just like to help.

    This woman is nearly 50 years old and, now, our friendship is over. The funny thing is ... I'd be happy to have her do all of it and get all of the so-called "recognition" and "credit" if I felt she'd actually get the work done, but I don't have any confidence in that now. She's let too many important things slide and I can't afford to have these events screwed up just because of petty jealousy over awards that don't exist.

    None of this is going to matter in a couple of months. She's jealous over nothing. It just goes show ... kindergarten doesn't end no matter how old some people are.

    :typing




    Hate to say it but who can stand against jealousy........ Not a good quality for friendship.
  2. by   SummerGarden
    Quote from TexasAngel
    Or wishing she had waited a little longer to show her outburst.
    I was thinking the same thing! She probably regrets letting all of her emotions finally boil over before the two of them graduated.:spin:
  3. by   Sheri257
    Uuugggrrrhhh .... I am so PO'd right now.

    Right about the time she started giving me this trouble, and I discretely and quietly took over her job ...

    She did tell me she did get a couple of things done so, it didn't occur to me that I'd have to worry about those particular tasks also.

    Now I've just found out she lied about it and didn't, in fact, take care of these things ... and it's too late for me to do anything about it

    Is it disasterous? No. But for crying out loud ... I can't babysit and watchdog every little thing. I'm in nursing school too for crying out loud ... like duh ... I'm kind of busy. On top of all of this, we've had back to back tests this week and last week ... you guys know how it is.

    I didn't think she actually lie and say she took care of these things when she didn't. I guess it was stupid on my part for even believing that she would take care of a couple of simple tasks that should have been done weeks ago.

    I'm sorry but NOW I'm REALLY glad she flunked the test. Man ... she deserves it.

    It's going to take every ounce of discipline to control my temper and NOT strangle her today.

    :angryfire
    Last edit by Sheri257 on Oct 11, '06
  4. by   NurseyBaby'05
    Lizz-
    Keep telling yourself "I'm almost done. I'm almost done. I'm almost done." Hang in there!
  5. by   Sheri257
    Quote from NurseyBaby'05
    Lizz-
    Keep telling yourself "I'm almost done. I'm almost done. I'm almost done." Hang in there!
    Yep ... that's my mantra right now.

    Although, in the back of mind ... there's another mantra:

    "I'm going to kill her, I'm going to kill her, I'm going to kill her ..."

    I know ... murdering a classmate would be a bad thing to do right before graduation.

    Ah ... but it's so tempting.

    Last edit by Sheri257 on Oct 11, '06
  6. by   lisabeth
    I would absolutely have NOTHING to do with her. I mean totally ignore her. If she approaches you, walk away.


    Quote from lizz
    Yep ... that's my mantra right now.

    Although, in the back of mind ... there's another mantra:

    "I'm going to kill her, I'm going to kill her, I'm going to kill her ..."

    I know ... murdering a classmate would be a bad thing to do right before graduation.

    Ah ... but it's so tempting.


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