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- May 8, '11 by EarthhAngel2013Thanks llg. I hope it works out. but putting it into practice and saying it are two different things. But we are all in this journey together, might as well have some fun while doing it.
- May 8, '11 by Jeanette73To be quite honest, HATE is quite a strong emotion to have towards your fellow classmates. Annoying and irritating, perhaps, but if you're really feeling that violent towards them that's something for you to analyze. Why is their lack of seriousness towards the program getting under YOUR skin that much? Just roll your eyes at their childishness and get back to doing what you need to get through school.
- May 8, '11 by MamaSquaredYou're right. I don't necessarily HATE them as much as I wish they'd develop a new life plan and change majors, LOL! Although, the tutu bunch I could label as "strongly dislike" now
- May 8, '11 by Missy77I was in the same boat as you. I disliked my classmates and dreaded going to clinical. I hated every minute of nursing school. I was consumed with dislike for most the students and instructors that I let it consume me and didn't want to study at all. I thought about changing majors that how badly I wanted out. The instructors favored the popular students that were cheating and gave me a hard time. I grew to loathe the nursing profession and didn't want to continue but then I realized I put in the work and time and I need to complete this program. Now I'm finishing online at my own pace and don't have to deal with all the classroom drama. Don't let others keep you from your goal. Stay focused on your studies. And pay no mind to the rest of the BS.
- May 8, '11 by 0402You don't have to be friends with everyone you work with; you just have to be able to work with them. If you get along with them/ are friends with them, that's just a bennie. I've tried to live by this since I joined the military years ago and would be so annoyed by many of my peers. This concept was greatly challenged in nursing school (much more so than it ever was in 8 yrs in the military). Especially by those with very, very questionable ethics, and the whining- oh God, the whining! The few people I became good friends with I actually have very little in common with, but we just got along. There was only one other mother- out of 40 students- and she lived far from me, and to be honest, just not my "type."
Group work was extremely painful at the beginning because we worked in assigned groups, but as school went on, we were actually able to pick who we worked with, to some extent, which really help. We knew each other's strengths and weaknesses and it made things flow so much better.
Also, it's great that you are not tied down to working for a salary, but for most people, that's just how it is, and it does seem like you are judging them d/t your "higher calling." I also enjoyed working with the homeless and am drawn to the ideology of community clinics, but for now, I work in a hospital, paying back my student loans and making sure my kids have everything they need (and a few things they want).
It was fairly easy to pick out those not worth my time and energy, and when at all possible, I just kept away from them. When I absolutely had to work with them, I was cordial, professional and made sure that an acceptable end result was obtained. Otherwise, they were really not on my radar.
- May 8, '11 by Jeanette73I guess I just lucked out. For the most part my classmates were mature and we all got along. The only classmate I ever had an issue with was one who was very domineering and liked to assign everyone jobs for group projects without getting input from the group. Nobody else seemed bothered by this -- they were either happy to have someone take charge or didn't want to make waves.
- May 8, '11 by MamaSquaredI guess when I say, "They're only doing it for the money" I don't mean that they're doing it because they have a family to support or anything like that. I think that's noble, too. The ones I'm talking about are the ones that just picked nursing because they could get a job fast & make more money and have no concern for people in general. I guess I'm naive, but I think nurses should care about something other than themselves. It's just their general attitudes that bother me at times. Like, for example, a bunch of us signed valentine's for kids in the hospital. It wasn't something the student nursing org or the school organized, it was just an idea some of us had. We bought the valentines, all they had to do was sign their first name to a couple & they wouldn't do it because there was no one to see that they did it. That sort of thing is what bugs me.
When I say I don't need the paycheck, I don't mean I'm rich, because I'm far from it. If we wanted to race out and buy a bigger house and newer cars, then I would need the paycheck. But, we live within my husband's salary & I can comfortably work a day or two a week prn for spending money, the kids' college fund, etc. We aren't planning on changing our lifestyle, so I'm fortunate that I can give back to those in need. I'm not really judging anyone, it was just a real eye opener that nurses could be so selfish and self involved. I guess I was just venting more than anything. Although, I do dread getting stuck in clinicals with about 6 (out of 50ish) of them. So, those numbers aren't too bad. I'll do like 0402 said and be professional, courteous, and polite and then come home and tell my husband what idiots they are (I'm joking!) I just mainly wondered if anyone else didn't just LOVE all their classmates & blowing off some end of semester steam!
Thanks for all the replies, I appreciate it!
Have a great Mother's Day!
- May 8, '11 by windmill182Think about this as another learning adventure in nursing school, in which you are being tested on your patience with others and overcoming negative thoughts. Learning to overcome this will help you in dealing with others in your career as well. Face it, not all of your patients and coworkers are going to be amazing individuals either.
- May 8, '11 by cgravieryou sound like one of the students I would hate.
- May 8, '11 by caliotter3You will find a lot worse in the workplace than pink tutus. You need to learn how to deal with people like this because you will never be able to get away from all of them unless you find a job where you work alone.