A good friend of mine in school is starting to drive me crazy, and I don't know what to do! :angryfire
All she does is complain about how stupid the teachers are, how much clinical paperwork we have to do, how we have to do it, how the tests are unfair, how the grading scale is ridiculous, why the readings are so long, etc. It's really frustrating to me because for awhile we got somewhat of the same grades (low 80s) until I changed around my study habits and brought my grades up. Now she looks at me like I'm some evil vixen
out to get her because my grades have been higher. I have offered to study with her, quiz her, anything, and I get met with hostility. I lent her my NCLEX review book and she grumbled at me that she'll probably never look at it because "it's just more reading." She even scoffs at me when someone asks me a question about SNA (of which I'm an active member) and tells me she doesn't know how I find the time to join some "stupid club" when there are "sooooo many drug cards to write." She even makes comments about my personal life (the fact that I have a boyfriend who I just bought a townhome with). Other people have noticed her behavior, because it's not just directed towards me. I feel bad because her failing grades are starting to become a real problem, and the faculty has suggested that she seriously consider dropping, but I know that's not the reason for her behavior because she's been acting like this since August of last year. On the other hand, she doesn't study at all for the tests, and then blames the teachers for making them too hard! I don't know what else to do! Our program is not unlike any other; it's nursing school, and it's not gonna be easy!!!! If it was easy, we wouldn't have a nursing shortage. I just wanna grab her and ask her what she's doing here if she thinks she's wasting so much time. She's the biggest example of a 28 y/o that acts like a 12 y/o that I've ever seen. I've already switched seats in class to get away from her remarks about how "pointless" it is for us to learn about cardiac drugs, but what else can I do??? :uhoh21:
Mar 21, '04
Quote from BSNin05
It's really frustrating to me because for awhile we got somewhat of the same grades (low 80s) until I changed around my study habits and brought my grades up. Now she looks at me like I'm some evil vixen
out to get her because my grades have been higher. I have offered to study with her, quiz her, anything, and I get met with hostility.
I agree with much of what has been said here. I personally try to avoid this type of person like the plague. It's one thing to complain, we all do. But the "misery loves company" types are like poison for me. School is hard enough as it is, and the last thing I need is to be around someone who constantly brings me down.
I've had friends like this in the past, and usually they don't change. They usually want to remain in their entrenched miserable position, and actually become worse if you're improving and they're not. Besides, if someone is getting on your case for getting good grades, I wouldn't consider them a good friend anyway.
Last edit by Sheri257 on Mar 21, '04
Mar 21, '04
I'm in the same boat. I have a friend in my class who is taking level one his second time around. He's also either just passing ("C")or just failing ("C-") He's no dumb bell. He got into the nursing program w/ a 4.0 average. The trouble is, whenever I try to suggest some way of possibly improving his test results, I already know what his reply is going to be: "I already know that" or "That won't work for me".
I'd really like to see him in Level 2 next semester, but if he doesn't start trying different ways of learning, I suspect he won't be around until the end of this semester. He's really starting to get into the complaining mode too.
You've done everything a good friend would do. It sounds like it might be time consider your other options.
Last edit by Alexander on Mar 21, '04