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Hello everybody I need some advice I am currently a nursing student in my 4th semester I have a husband ,4 kids, a full time job and I am also taking*care*of my grandparents*I gave up my house I was*renting to help my grandmother with her finances she had stop paying EVERYTHING and was on the verge of losing her house*,my grandmother has Alzheimer's and lung cancer and my grandfather is in a wheel chair I have been doing this for almost 2 years now and I can't do it anymore I tried telling my grandmothers kids (aunts,uncle,and my mother) I am moving out*because it is becoming to much for my to handle with school and work but they send me on a guilt trip saying "I knew you weren't going to do what you said" or "you have been*taking care of them this long" *AND it is now taking a toll on my marriage as well because we argue about family interfering with the way we are raising our kids and they constants*remind me this isn't my house*its belongs to their mother. Now my mother is the only one behind me on this decision but*I am torn*I*want to stay because I love my grandmother and if I leave she can not afford to keep her house*do to the cuts in her*SSI check*but I*need to go because I*want my marriage,*I've came to far to drop out of school, and I can't afford to quit my job.HELP PLEASE*!!!!!!!!!*

You seem like a great person. Sometimes a person can be a superwoman, but not forever, and not all the time. You did your best. Goodluck!!!

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Your "family members" are only ****** at you because they realize that the time will come form THEM to actually make a decision and help out with your grandmother. Put yourself and your husband first and GET THE HECK OUT OF DODGE!! You will feel guilty about it when you do it, but in the long run, you will be better off. Trust me when I say that stress can make YOU sick.

Your guilt tripping relatives are abusing you. Your priority is not your grandmother, it is you then your husband and children. I sense you are a really nice person--too nice, and other people have and sill are taking advantage of you.

Unfortunately the only person that can help you is yourself plus an outside counselor. Your health will suffer soon and you will be no use to anyone.

Get out of this nightmare and be the best wife and mother you can be. The relatives are truly self serving and no matter what you decide there will be conflict.

Just do it--think of your kids--why aren't they a priority?

Just a thought

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