Tired of friends telling me I can do better than nursing

  1. I just don't get it. I've gone through 2 years of prereqs and was accepted into my school's BSN program. (I start this fall.) For some reason, everyone keeps questioning me on why I want to be a nurse and telling me that I should find a job that's "more respectable." Has anyone else been through the same thing? Sorry, just needed to vent.
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  3. by   Achoo!
    This is what you want, go for it! Don't let the naysayers get to you.
    I'm curious to know what they think is a 'respectable' profession.
  4. by   nurseunderwater
    um...sounds like your friends need to re-evaluate their value systems..(not to be snide but come on...)

    Nursing not respectable? hmm. I just can't make that connection. On this site you can find numerous threads containing the pros and cons of nursing. Some of the pros that come to mind for me are....emotionally rewarding, job security, decent wages, flexibilty re: area of practice, it's truely never boring and I am always learning something new.

    If this is what you have chosen (and it sounds as though it is from the level of your educational commitment) maybe what you need is a good come back, wry and humorous..Anyone?

    Good luck,
    Kate
  5. by   Altra
    These people most likely have a limited view of nursing as glorified butt-wiping and (I'm venturing a guess here ...) are probably pursuing other more "dignified" fields in which no one dies, cries, bleeds or has pain.

    I've run into this attitude myself. It's not pleasant, and you have the option of getting up on your soapbox and giving them a (justified) speech about how you hope you get to see it when someday, inevitably, they themselves become ill and need medical care. :angryfire Or you can try to let it roll off you, because it's very, very unlikely that anything you say will change their mind.

    Congratulations on finishing your pre-reqs! You're about to start on a life-changing journey. Best of luck to you!
    Last edit by Altra on Jul 3, '04
  6. by   mavnurse
    I don't think they really understand the field. They think I'll be running around all day covered in blood and poop making minimum wage and being looked down on by society. Grr.
  7. by   susanna
    My friends say the same. But I don't think they mean to offend me by saying "more respectable". They know that being a nurse is respectable. They really mean "respected". I think it is agreed on this board by most persons that nurses don't get respect for what they do.

    I take it as a lesson: I know what I'm getting in to and that I won't be able to count on being on feeling good because I'm respected. It is not one of the rewards of this profession and so it is not something I should expect in the future.
    I take that pretty hard because I want to be respected by my friends, patients, and colleages.
    But then again, I think of all the negative aspects of respect: it distances you from people, it makes you feel that you have to be responsible for absolutely everything, and it makes you feel repulsed and claustophobic with people sometimes that they respect you too openly, thus hurting relationships. So, I guess its postive not being respected too.
    I don't know. Tell me what you think mavnurse... Does this what your friends really mean too?
  8. by   Jill1215
    According to Reader's Digest nurses are the MOST respected of all professionals. The poll was conducted on what profession people give the most respect to. Nursing was #1. Nurses may not get the respect they deserve on the job, but people respect the nursing profession. Your friends are talking from ignorance. They must not know everything a nursing job entails. I would simply tell them that this is your decision and that you would really appreciate it if they would keep their negative comments to themselves. What's going to end up happening is that you are going to lose RESPECT for the friendship they have with you if they keep bad mouthing your goals.:angryfire
    I hate it when ignorance finds a voice.
    Jill
  9. by   Stitchie
    Quote from mavnurse
    I just don't get it. I've gone through 2 years of prereqs and was accepted into my school's BSN program. (I start this fall.) For some reason, everyone keeps questioning me on why I want to be a nurse and telling me that I should find a job that's "more respectable." Has anyone else been through the same thing? Sorry, just needed to vent.
    While your friends are sweating it out thru interviews and sending out hundreds of resumes for their 'business degrees' and 'fashion merchandising' first jobs, you'll have recruiters looking for you before you get anywhere near graduation.

    If that doesn't command respect, I'm not sure what does.

    Is nursing hard? Of course. Are there days when I wish I had finished law school? Yep (and I'll finish law school sooner or later...) But the comraderie and team spirit that applies to nursing, not to mention the constant on the job learning opportunities that come my way, have got me for life.

    Tell your friends that nursing isn't "ER" or "Scrubs". You're going into a profession with limitless opportunities for advancement and growth.

    If that doesn't work tell them you're in it for the cute scrubs! :chuckle
  10. by   HyperRNRachel
    These people most likely have a limited view of nursing as glorified butt-wiping and (I'm venturing a guess here ...) are probably pursuing other more "dignified" fields in which no one dies, cries, bleeds or has pain.
    Yes, MLOS is correct. What do your friends consider a respectable job? Oh, maybe they want you to work on becoming the next ENRON executive....now that is a respectable profession. :chuckle
  11. by   atarisangel
    My ex use to hassle me about being a nurse. He use to say that I would get bored and I could do something else and make more money. Key word, ex. I got a lot of "are you sure" from my friends at first too. But after I re-educated them on the real nursing profession, they became really supportive.
  12. by   Tweety
    My friends were totally jealous that I was going into such a respectable profression that paid decently that had good job prospects. Go figure.
  13. by   jaimealmostRN
    You need to find new friends!!! With the exception of two people (from the same family...go figure) when I tell someone that I will be a nurse soon (god willing) they are impressed and sometimes even jealous. I am constantly getting requests for medical advice and explanations of which ever medical problem their cousin's cousin has. Although I don't have all the answers (and usually decline to answer most questions) I feel that these people asking are taking me seriously and respecting me as both their friend/family and as a professional. A lot of people I knew in high school who have graduated with their b.s. in sociology or whatever are now looking into nursing school or working as CNAs.
  14. by   Truly_Blessed
    Toxic friends....kick them to the curb. Everyone I know is all in awe of the fact I got accepted to nursing school. My dad is constantly bragging to all of his friends and coworkers about his daughter who is about to start nursing school. I always get, "Wow, you must be really smart, huh?" LOL. I am thinking, no not really, but it feels good to know that others around me see and know it is hard work and not some "glorified butt wiper" job. I have not come across anyone who says nursing isn't a respectable job, ever. If I do, I might tear them a new you know what:chuckle Keep doing what you are doing. It's YOUR life, not theirs. At the end of day you'll be able to say, I made a difference in someone's life today, even if it was small. What will they be able to say about their jobs?
    Last edit by Truly_Blessed on Jul 4, '04

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