Hi, first of all, I,m sure there are alot more women that are in your situation, and probably to afraid to speak up or they keep it to themselves. We all have our breaking points and I,m sure you may be at yours right now.
I too have a husband who has been catered to for the last 14 years. I have been a stay at home mom, a good wife, and a Martha Stewart wanna be , I have been in the P.T.O. for the last 7 years and have been a volunteer for many school and sport activities. And truthfully I wouldnt change a thing, I loved raising my babies and having fun with my 3 girls, they are really close to me.
But, now its my turn. Martha Stewart who..??
My girls are thrilled mom is doing something( I hope this will be a wonderful expamle to them that women can still do anything they want at any age). And my hubby,.. he says he is supportive, and that he will help with kids and take them out on the boat when I need to study and the girls tell me that they will help out around the house. I hope this will be true, I dont start till this fall, so we shall see. I think its hard for some men to have a women who is loved by everyone and who has her own life outside the house making some bucks. When he has had her to basically do everything for him. They have to learn to grow up and take care of themselves. My husband changed careers at 36 and totally uspset out life, we had to plea bankruptsy and we lost our new house of 5 years. It was hard times, but he was so uphappy at his old job, and if dad aint happy neither is anyone else, he went to school and now loves his new job. I was supportive to him and even tho hes been taken care of, I truly believe he will be there for me.
Maybe you guys can go out by yourselves and like some other people said, "discuss the future and how wornderfull things may be" with vacations and such.
If he is still a jerk about things , then regretfully you may have to let him go. Life is an on going experience, and I think you may be at a crossroads in your life. I wish the best for you and will be eager to see how things go for you. Good luck.