Student Moms of young children - page 2

I am curious because I am a mom of three young children, how many of us are there out there trying to go to school and raise the kiddos? Trey is four, will be five when I start in the fall, Piper is... Read More

  1. by   hrrizen
    Hello
    Mine girls are 3 and 11, I'm a single parent and I work part time. I have a house note and barely enough time or money to go aroud BUT I'M AN honor student and the sacrfice will be forgotten once the reward is here. It is well worth it . I am a better stronger person and I love it. I plan and have backup plans for everything then I do all i can and what i cant i dont worry about. This to shall pass. LIFE IS GOOD
  2. by   Energizer Bunny
    Quote from jemommy
    I am going to feel very guilty. My daughter will be three by the time I start and it will be hard to see her because I'll be working during the day and taking the classes at night. I am going to try to find a balance. When I say my prayer for myself (to sanely find a balance) I'll put in a special request for you also.
    Thank you...I need lots of prayers in my decision making. I have been thinking all along that there is a reason they misread my app. and accepted me for this fall instead of next. I believe everything happens for a reason.
  3. by   TinyNurse
    been there, done that and graduated as an RN in June of 2003!!!
    yes, you can do it!! your house will not be perfect, your kids will miss you, but you will do it!!! I'm a single mom working as an RN now, and I still find the same struggles regarding a trustable sitter. Yes it's doable, and your kids still love/adore you!!!!! INside you feel like ****, but your kids don't really know the difference. xoxo Jen
  4. by   GLORIAmunchkin72
    I think God made it so that we can't have everything all at once. You do what you have to do. I am sure you will make conscious effort to make it up to your children. Good luck!



    Quote from CNM2B
    I am curious because I am a mom of three young children, how many of us are there out there trying to go to school and raise the kiddos? Trey is four, will be five when I start in the fall, Piper is two and will be three, and Bryce is five months. I am struggling with the "guilt" issues of leaving them for long periods of time.. how are others out there dealing with this? I'd really like to get into some intense discussions into this...it is my biggest stumbling block.

    Kim
  5. by   prairiegirl
    Quote from klone
    Mine are 6 and 3. I'm not having too many guilt issues because I've been home with them for their entire lives up until now. I'm ready to move onto a different phase of my life and do some things for ME. And other than my daughter (who will be 4 at that time) being in fulltime preschool instead of part-time, they won't have more than an additional 4-5 hours of before- or after-school care a week so it's not like I'll NEVER see them. The thing I'm most worried about, as I previously posted, is how to handle those times when they're sick and can't go to school/childcare. I'm worried about that. Planning on giving them lots of immune-boosting herbs starting this summer to make sure they stay well!

    I am working on my BSN and have no children yet,but there are many students in my classes who do. I am friends with a few of them, so when their kids get sick and they cant make it to class, I have no problem copying my notes for them and filling them in with what went on. I know that some things like labs and clinicals you cant miss, but for lectures, get to be friends with someone who is dependable and will be in class.
  6. by   Energizer Bunny
    I was very lucky when I went for my spring semester in 2001 that I had an awful lot of back up (of course only one child then, too). I also had a fabulous study buddy that was "older" like me and took great notes.
  7. by   mamaof3
    Quote from hrrizen
    Hello
    Mine girls are 3 and 11, I'm a single parent and I work part time. I have a house note and barely enough time or money to go aroud BUT I'M AN honor student and the sacrfice will be forgotten once the reward is here. It is well worth it . I am a better stronger person and I love it. I plan and have backup plans for everything then I do all i can and what i cant i dont worry about. This to shall pass. LIFE IS GOOD
    I am so glad to know that I'm not the only one out there. I'm divorced, with 3 kids, 15,9,and 6. I also am doing school and working to support my family. The hardest part for me, is not having much money right now. I especially feel for my teenager. I give her what I can, which isn't much. I just got accepted into the program for the fall. So by the time I graduate, my daughter will be headed to college and really won't get to enjoy the rewards of what my degree will hopefully bring to us financially.
  8. by   is this heaven
    If you feel strongly about school,do it.My kids are 4 and 10.I just graduated from an accelerated BSN program,and drove 140 miles roundtrip daily to attend classes/clinicals. My husband took over my usual duties and I was gone a lot,but it all worked out.The kids missed me,but are very proud of me.My viewpoint on this situation is that the kids watched me struggle and succeed.I hope I will be a role model for them when they have to tackle difficult tasks in the future.In regard to the MIL....let it go in one ear and out the other.If you have others around you who are supportive,it really doesn't matter what she thinks.It's your life /future.
    Best Wishes!
  9. by   gingerzoe
    I went back to school when I was 32 years old. This was in 1992. My kids were 5 and 9 years old. I went year round for three straight years, I also worked a full time job. During this time my husband was working off and on. My sister was a big help to me. My advice is let the house work go and spend as much time with your kids as time permits. My house was a wreck....did I care at first I did then I realised that the house will still be here after I get out of school. At one point I had two different kind of wallpaper in my kitchen. Was school worth it, Definitely...did my kids survive, Yes they did. my son is a junior in college now and my daughter is a junior in high school. As the old saying goes, try not to sweat the small stuff...Good luck to all of the students out there and there is a light at the end of the tunnel....
  10. by   S.N. Visit
    I'm a student mom of young kids too. (ages: 8, 5, & 19 mths.) I've been on maternity leave for about 9 years now , I'm so ready to get into nursing. Right now I'm taking just 2 classes a semester. It's working out great. I go in the day time while my two oldest are in school and my youngest gets a couple of hours with the baby sitter. Next summer of 05' is when I plan to go full time. I will also be leary to leave the baby for longer periods of time, but I really do think it's harder on us mom's than it is on the kids.
    It's nice to see how many "student mom's of pre-schoolers " there are
  11. by   fnimat1
    Hi everyone,
    I'm a mother to 4 children..dd #1 is 9 1/2. dd#2 is 8, ds#1 is 3 and ds#2 is 14 mths. So as you can all tell, I am busy. I will be starting nursing school and the Fall, I only have to take nursing courses, but that doesn't mean it'll be easy. My dd's are excited about me studying to become a nurse...they keep asking me, "Mommy, how much longer do you have to go to school to become a nurse?" I tell them, "Not long girls...not long." I can tell they admire me, we all have study time together.

    Fatima
  12. by   rach2girls1boy
    Hey Kim,
    I have three kids too, 3, 6, & 8, and I am in my second semester of an 8 semester BN program in Canada. My hubby works for long periods away from home, and I am coping. I have no family in town, and make do with a jigsaw puzzle of childcare, but the kids are happy. Don't feel guilty. Your kids are lucky - they will have an example to follow!!! Most people's kids don't get to watch their parents work really hard to achieve their education. I am enjoying school, but I sometimes feel like I am juggling, I must admit. It is great to be out in the world of adults again though. I deal with any guilt that I may have by telling myself that my kids will be better off if they have a happy Mommy - and I am happier now that my brain is being challenged. It was shrinking.
    Rachel
    Quote from CNM2B
    I am curious because I am a mom of three young children, how many of us are there out there trying to go to school and raise the kiddos? Trey is four, will be five when I start in the fall, Piper is two and will be three, and Bryce is five months. I am struggling with the "guilt" issues of leaving them for long periods of time.. how are others out there dealing with this? I'd really like to get into some intense discussions into this...it is my biggest stumbling block.

    Kim
  13. by   Energizer Bunny
    Quote from rach2girls1boy
    Hey Kim,
    I have three kids too, 3, 6, & 8, and I am in my second semester of an 8 semester BN program in Canada. My hubby works for long periods away from home, and I am coping. I have no family in town, and make do with a jigsaw puzzle of childcare, but the kids are happy. Don't feel guilty. Your kids are lucky - they will have an example to follow!!! Most people's kids don't get to watch their parents work really hard to achieve their education. I am enjoying school, but I sometimes feel like I am juggling, I must admit. It is great to be out in the world of adults again though. I deal with any guilt that I may have by telling myself that my kids will be better off if they have a happy Mommy - and I am happier now that my brain is being challenged. It was shrinking.
    Rachel
    See, I feel that way too, that if I am happier, they will be too. Frankly, I feel like I don't even exist half the time between cleaning, changing diapers, feeding them, blah, blah, blah. It seems to be all my life is about anymore. That's why I was soooo grateful to find this site. I'm addicted now, but it's because I want to learn everything I can and it makes me feel like I have some human adult contact. My kids aren't neglected and I am happier for having found you all. Imagine how happy I will be when I am back in school!!!

    When I went back in 2001, it was just about the happiest I have ever been. I was striving to achieve what I knew I could do and it made me feel great! It's just a matter of logistics here now. I am having to turn down a full time job offer as a CNA because I would be paying out approx. $100 more a week than I would be making during school. And also, I can't imagine being away from the kids during a full time job too. Now, I am trying to find a part time waitressing job (like I used to do) because I loved that too, it was good money and I don't have to be away from the kids for another 40 hours every week on top of school.

    Does this all make sense or am I babbling my head off???

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