So annoying when students ask your grade - page 2

Ahh its soo annoying to me when other students ask me my grade. I don't go up too people and ask them their grade.. especially if I did good because its just like rubbing it in their face and I'm... Read More

  1. by   destiny5
    Quote from 81ke83
    When we ask "What did you grade did you get on the test?" It is more out of our concern for a fellow classmate. We are not gloating because we might have done better than you. I have attended school for with these people for the last four years. We have a special bond in the nursing program. We want all of us to suceed, so when we ask about grades, it is because we are concerned and if there is anything we can do to help. I tape the lectures and when half the class failed, I offered copies of my lectures, it wasn't to gloat about the fact that I passed and am doing well and they didn't. I know how hard everyone is trying. We finished the dosage calculation test and when the results were posted, we all turned and looked around to make sure we were all ok. Our group of 12 is like a family, I spend more time with these people then I do my own family. So please dont always think that people are asking so they can make themselves feel better.
    That's great but i'ts not the case everywhere. I think it has something to do with fighting for (in some cases) 30 slots with 300 applicants. Some people take that mentality into the program, & don't realize the fight is over.
  2. by   Anesthetize
    I've had some good and some bad experiences with this. First, what you want to know is that sometimes sharing your grade isn't the smartest thing to do... especially if you do well. I've seen people really get the stink eye for that. Another thing to think about is that people, whether you want them to or not, will judge you based on your grade. With this in mind, my approach has been to only share grades when asked, and don't go out of my way to let anyone know that I'm doing better or worse than they are. For instance, I got an average score on one test, and I wasn't happy about it... I talked about it all I wanted to, because I know no one would raise an eyebrow. But, I took another test last week and got the highest score in the class. I made the mistake of putting my foot in my mouth and announcing that and ended up getting the fake smiles and a little stink eye. So, basically you want to consider how someone else would react to hearing how you did; keep in mind that getting low scores hurts, and that resentments can develop whether you want them -- or know about them -- to, or not. Just a bit of professional advice.
  3. by   destiny5
    Quote from Anesthetize
    I've had some good and some bad experiences with this. First, what you want to know is that sometimes sharing your grade isn't the smartest thing to do... especially if you do well. I've seen people really get the stink eye for that. Another thing to think about is that people, whether you want them to or not, will judge you based on your grade. With this in mind, my approach has been to only share grades when asked, and don't go out of my way to let anyone know that I'm doing better or worse than they are. For instance, I got an average score on one test, and I wasn't happy about it... I talked about it all I wanted to, because I know no one would raise an eyebrow. But, I took another test last week and got the highest score in the class. I made the mistake of putting my foot in my mouth and announcing that and ended up getting the fake smiles and a little stink eye. So, basically you want to consider how someone else would react to hearing how you did; keep in mind that getting low scores hurts, and that resentments can develop whether you want them -- or know about them -- to, or not. Just a bit of professional advice.
    STINK EYE---That's funny.
  4. by   NaomieRN
    I usually can tell from my friends nonverbal communication if they pass or fail an exam. If they dont tell, I wont even ask or tell them what I got. If I have to ask, I would say what did you think about the test?, rather than asking, what did you get?
  5. by   firstyearstudent
    And who even needs to ask? We're in third semester and I could tell you what everyone's grade is going to be BEFORE the test. Heh heh.
  6. by   slou!
    Quote from destiny5
    It's been my experience that when someone asks how I did on an exam it's because they did extremely well & want to brag (oops..share). So here's what I do. I tell them what I got & then I walk away....... I don't want to hear a bunch of "bragging"---some of the "smartest students in my class had terrible bedside manners & were in it for the money. Give me a hard working "c" student who cares about me as a patient and is willing to look up things he/she is unfamilar with instead of an "A" know-it-all student who could care less.. anyday.
    Haha I've done that too. "What did YOU get?!" with a huge smile on their face. "Oh I got an A." and then that's it. I don't ask what they got, because they already dropped their paper 6 times so everyone who picks it up sees their A grade. I also hate to hear other people brag! I don't know why people do it, me, I hate the attention!
  7. by   cad4296
    I'd rather people just not ask me! I had a very bad experience with this this week. We had a chemistry exam monday so a bunch of us met up in the computer lab with the TA to go over any last minute things that were stumping us. For some reason I am really having a hard time with significant figures. It makes sense when I'm doing it with someone, but on the practice quizzes I just couldn't get the numbers right. So I'm trying to go over this with the TA and this guy in our class is in the computer lab talking loudly to everyone about everything except chemistry, even go so far as to explain he's only going into nursing for the money then wants to go into law, blah blah blah. Well I ended up with a D on the test (only 20 questions and I missed the ones I was trying to get help on!) I was crushed because I really thought I got it down. So here I was on the brink of tears because only 1 person got a lower grade than me and the majority of the class got A's and B's when he comes up to me and asks me what I got. I lied and said I did fine, then he's like "yeah I got a 91, I made one stupid mistake" I was even more crushed! He just spent the last 2 hours in the lab complaining about how he's not ready for this test and distracting all of us that were trying to get help. I almost think he was trying to sabbotage us! All of us that showed up to get help (4 of us) ended up with C's and lower while he was there surfing the internet (against policy for computer lab usage by the way unless its school related which it clearly wasn't) and got an A! I'm not mad at him for making a good grade, that's grade, but I was really upset because I was trying to get help and ended up being distracted by him when he clearly didn't need help. I studied so hard, went to tutoring for extra help, did everything I possibly could have and got a D. That is the worst feeling in the world and having someone talk about their A really stings! Especially when you are used to being the A student.
  8. by   locolorenzo22
    We had a test today, and I had to tell the woman who sidetracks the study group last night that we would PREFER her to just go her own way, it's not working. We studied for 3 hours last night for todays 6 chapter, 50 ? test and all did ok. I missed 3, other missed 4, other missed 10(but she was just like, ok I passed.) We talked about it after to see what we might have missed, but when we got our grades we checked on each other to see what we got. Too many of my classmates don't understand that a lot of the detailed topics are TOO detailed for a nursing course. We're not going to be asked what brain centers regulate sleep, we were asked what the difference between sleep and rest was.
    The small group does well because we focus on what we REALLY talk about in class and what is objectively on the outline. Some just don't understand. People brag about their grades and try to see the numbers if they're passed down the table, but I just turn mine over so I can tell if you're searching for my grade. I'd rather say "I did ok, missed 4" when asked, than "Ehh, so-so."
  9. by   destiny5
    Quote from slou!
    Haha I've done that too. "What did YOU get?!" with a huge smile on their face. "Oh I got an A." and then that's it. I don't ask what they got, because they already dropped their paper 6 times so everyone who picks it up sees their A grade. I also hate to hear other people brag! I don't know why people do it, me, I hate the attention!
    Yea, exactly,---- A few weeks ago I took the teas test to get into the LPN transition to RN program. Anyway there was this girl there who was trying to get into the same program. We finished about the same time and had to take our results to the registration office. So while we were both waiting we talked a little & I couldn't help but notice that she was practically putting her test scores in my lap to try to get me to look. I TOTALLY ignored her paper.. told her good luck & I hope to see her in January.... She wanted to compare scores soooo badly, but I kept my paper turned over the whole time. She could tell by my face that I was happy happy happy &
    THAT WAS MORE THAN ENOUGH!!!!!!
  10. by   kgkarma
    Quote from locolorenzo22
    We have a select few of us(study group) who compare grades, how we did, etc. We try to then study for the next test based on what kind of questions we tended to miss. I do the same thing. I don't brag about it, but if someone asks me I'll tell them(usually 85 or higher), and figure if they did ok, they'll tell me too.
    I will happily take the "smart guy" description, but if someone tries to get by with not working as hard thinking they can just copy without bringing something to the table, I'll tell them to get lost. Someone tried to join our study group, but she has a totally different class date, different topics, and I basically said "no, thanks." Last time we studied with her there was too much chit-chat, or "this was our question", instead of studying the material. I'd much rather be the jackass vs. the failer who was too nice to say I don't need you to study with us.
    You do what you do and we go from there. Ok, got off topic there, but still.....
    I also belong to a study group and we generally tell each other our grades. If one of my study buddies gets a better grade than me, I'm really happy for them. One of our study buddies was failing and did better than any of us on the last exam. I was so excited for her even though she did better than me. There's also another study buddy that's getting excellent grades and I'm also proud of him. I also ask him what he got because it makes me happy that he's doing well. Perhaps its because I'm the oldest in the class and feel no competition toward any of my classmates. My prayer is that in the end we all pass no matter what our final grades are.

    **edit** Sorry for the poor grammer but I just took a break from doing homework and don't have time to edit. It's 1 a.m. and I still have work to do.
    Last edit by kgkarma on Oct 27, '06
  11. by   kgkarma
    Quote from destiny5
    It's been my experience that when someone asks how I did on an exam it's because they did extremely well & want to brag (oops..share). So here's what I do. I tell them what I got & then I walk away....... I don't want to hear a bunch of "bragging"---some of the "smartest students in my class had terrible bedside manners & were in it for the money. Give me a hard working "c" student who cares about me as a patient and is willing to look up things he/she is unfamilar with instead of an "A" know-it-all student who could care less.. anyday.
    I failed my lab test today and felt no shame telling my people my grade. I'm still passing the class and that's what counts.
  12. by   Tweety
    I understand it's just human nature for people to be curious about each other.

    I don't feel it's "rubbing it in their face" if I made a good grade and I'm asked how I did and I give an honest answer.

    I also understand that someone who is asking me sometimes is just bursting at the lips to say they made a good grade because they are happy and proud. That's not rubbing in my face either.

    People aren't going through all the stess and hours of studying for a test, only to keep quiet and move on to the next thing. Sometimes there's PSTD It's an experience to be shared and talked about. Human nature.
  13. by   CrazyPremed
    If you guys think this is bad with prenursing students, wait until you have class with a bunch of premedical students. The worst part is, sometimes your test grades are the only thing that you have in common with your classmates. "How did you do on the last test?" becomes more of a habitual icebreaker than an actual inquiry.

    I broke my habit of this by asking people what they thought of the last test. This way, I make it clear that I'm not interested in their score. A person could have done bad on a test but still thought it was fair, or done well on a test and communicate this without bragging. This question seems to show more interest in the person than in their test score (which is my actual goal). The next time someone asks you how you did, say, "I did OK. What did you think of the test?" See if this helps.

    CrazyPremed

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