I am a single mom and I am thinking of moving to another city for a year for an accelerated nursing program. I currently live near my parents and many friends so if I need a sitter, they are easy to come by. In the 4.5 years he has been alive, I have never missed work because Grandma can always watch him.
I am really leaning toward moving to the new city because the program is 5 months shorter than the one here. Also, my sister and her family live in the new city. Her and her husband both work, so they are not an option for sick daycare as I doubt they will take a day off work to watch my son. When their kids get sick, they call in to work so they don't use anyone for sick daycare.
I heard the schools clinical and class hours and they don't sound longer than 9 hour days two days a week with clinical for 7-8 hour days. The hours are ones I know I can get daycare for, but my concern is what if my son gets sick? Since I am moving to a new area and don't know anyone, what are options for finding sick daycare providers? I would not mind missing school if he were sick on a class day, but on clinical-I don't think missing is really an option if I can avoid it...
Any suggestions on how to look for sick daycare? I am moving to Philly if anyone knows of one there...
Sorry it is a bit long
Mar 21, '04
Quote from suemom2kay
Are you sure you want to move just to save 5 months? It seems like an impulsive decision. I am not a single parent and would NOT do an accelerated program because I know it would be too much stress for my daughter. I would stay close by family/friends and wait an extra 5 months. Its a blink of an eye really and you won't have the stress of what to do when your child is sick. Also, you will have such an enormous amount of studying at the end of your 7-9 hour days. How will you cope with cooking, mommying, studying, etc. It just sounds like too much.
I hope you don't mind my frankness, but this just seems like you will regret it. Things are always harder in real life than on paper.
I don't mind your frankness at all
I understand your concern, but when you lay out all the options, the issue for me is to get in and out of school as fast as possible. The schedules for school with the accelerated BSN programs are actually similar to my work + school schedule now. I have researched the schools and found the shorter one actually has a more consistent schedule than the longer one (which is key to the daycare option.) The longer one requires me to be in school some evenings vs. the short one that has a pretty set schedule that will fit into getting daycare better. So in short, the shorter program is almost identical to my current schedule.
Beside the schedule issue comes money...how much will it cost me to go to school for a long traditional program? A lot more, my biggest expense is keeping my son and I afloat while in school. Since it is an accelerated program that means no work...after doing the math and comparing doing a traditional program vs. the accelerated BSN it is cheaper, by a lot. Of the two issues finding good childcare vs money...money is the larger stressor of the two. Not having money in is by far the biggest stressor.
Also, in the mix is good insurance. I have good insurance now because I work full time at a job that provides it. I am totally against not having insurance cause anything can happen at anytime. The cost of it, is outrageous. The options I have to pay out of pocket are nuts (couple hundred a month plus you pay the first 2500-5000 out of pocket.) That pretty much means I am covered if we get hurt bad, but what we will use it for mostly will be regular visits...in essence...all out of pocket costs while not in school.
Bottom line, if I take a slower route say working part time and going to school...there is still too much going out to come in. So it in my best interest to keep the schedule the same as it is now...breakneck work + pre reqs and do the breakneck nursing school program for the same hours in less time not working.
I just want to find out how people that don't have family to rely on, find daycare providers when thier child is sick. I have to evaluate how much stress it would actually cause me so to make the best decision for both of us.
PS - by no means is this an impulsive decision, I have been planning and preparing for this for two years. I picked the second school becuase it was close to family and short in duration. If you asked any of my friends what I think about, plan most they would answer going to school. I know I cannot plan for anything, but being a single parent, you learn your first line of defense is having about 10 backup plans. (I even have a few here in the event family is not avail to cover my back
Last edit by TLC RN on Mar 21, '04