Sex and Nursing School

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Has your sex life dwindled since beginning Nursing School. My husband says he is stressed out with work. We have a great relationship, rarely argue, hold hands plenty but no sex. I really think that me studying all the time is the problem, like the lack of time we used to have. Once I am done studying I am totally ready to go but he just wants to go to bed (to sleep). Anytbody else have a similar problem?

Specializes in Neonatal ICU (Cardiothoracic).

I think it is great that here on a nursing board, with many of us in the middle of school, work, life, etc, we can stop and take the time to really talk about something essential to relationships. Caring enough about whether your partner is getting what they need out of the relationship in order to feel stable and strong is an act of selflessness.

No advice here but to work on the relationship first, and the sex will happen. Talk, go out to his favorite restaurant, ask him to help you study, help with the laundry, etc. TALK WHILE DOING STUFF TOGETHER. The real issue will come out, whether it's feelings of resentment, loneliness, etc.

The spontaneity of love comes out when you do the little things that make you remember how much you love being with this person.

:lol2:I promise I was about to post the exact same thing...:yeah:

Sex? whats sex?
Specializes in Future Peds Nurse.

It is really unromantic, but I find when we are both really busy and our schedules are hectic, scheduling sex into my planner helps. I have a hard time leaving my work or studies to do fun things, but if it is scheduled in, I work or study around it. My BF is ready to go anywhere at anytime, so whenever I say go, it's on.

Specializes in Neuro.

"Sex? whats sex?"

My sentiments exactly.

I would be more worried about the issue of your husband not wanting to talk about it - or being bothered by the fact that you want to talk about it. It could be nothing, or it could be something serious. But you will really never know unless there is honest, open commmunication.

If he says that this is a result of his work stress, then why is there any question about your nursing school. I could see if you were studying around the clock and not making time for him - but it sounds like you are making an effort. Just from what you've posted, it sounds like there may be more going on here. I say just keep working at it.

Good luck!

It is really unromantic, but I find when we are both really busy and our schedules are hectic, scheduling sex into my planner helps. I have a hard time leaving my work or studies to do fun things, but if it is scheduled in, I work or study around it. My BF is ready to go anywhere at anytime, so whenever I say go, it's on.

haha I LOVE this one... schedule.. I can see it now. Monday: study for quiz x from 230-3, clinic makeup 330-5, SEX 5-7, study 7-10 for test.

Also, I'm a guy, but I've actually been getting MORE sex since school started than before! haha. I guess it works both ways.

Specializes in Neonatal ICU (Cardiothoracic).
It is really unromantic, but I find when we are both really busy and our schedules are hectic, scheduling sex into my planner helps. I have a hard time leaving my work or studies to do fun things, but if it is scheduled in, I work or study around it. My BF is ready to go anywhere at anytime, so whenever I say go, it's on.

Do you have a secret code, or do you actually write "make nooky" in your planner? :)

haha I LOVE this one... schedule.. I can see it now. Monday: study for quiz x from 230-3, clinic makeup 330-5, SEX 5-7, study 7-10 for test.

Also, I'm a guy, but I've actually been getting MORE sex since school started than before! haha. I guess it works both ways.

Sex from 5-7? dude, a man's gotta eat!

Sorry... back on topic...

Kind of an obnoxious statement. If you are with a man and you are afraid he is going to have sex with another woman if you don't "take care of him" then you are with the wrong man. I kind of feel bad for people who even think like that- they might have pretty unhappy relationships.

If you think Nursing School is rough on your sex life- have a couple kids.

Unfortunately, you didn't include the whole of my paragraph. I was writing about statistics, and as a woman, I wrote how upseting I found those results. I suggested that, as women, we might want to broaden our minds to see how guys think, and not only how we think. I agree, it's too bad that women have to consider sex if trying to maintain a strong relationship, but I was just trying to work with facts and see things from a different perspective.

I trust my boyfriend like no other, and our relationship is full. Are we beyond the "statistics' just because I think we're "above" the statistics and so special? Without thinking, I'd say yes. I'd say he'd never stray. He'd stick by me even if we never had sex. Smart of me? :uhoh3:That's what's up for debate, I suppose.

It's too bad that people try to chop up someone's words and try to make them look bad on here. I love a debate, but I play fair. Don't try to take my words and twist them into something ugly.

haha I LOVE this one... schedule.. I can see it now. Monday: study for quiz x from 230-3, clinic makeup 330-5, SEX 5-7, study 7-10 for test.

Sex from 5-7? dude, a man's gotta eat!

:roll:roll:roll

Specializes in None.

Ive decided to just stay single during nursing school, not that my dance card is being stalked on the regular, but still its better focus for me

Specializes in Future Peds Nurse.
haha I LOVE this one... schedule.. I can see it now. Monday: study for quiz x from 230-3, clinic makeup 330-5, SEX 5-7, study 7-10 for test.

Wow, 2 hours, you have some serious stamina. Now I schedule it in, but I definitely don't have time for a 2 hour session.

Do you have a secret code, or do you actually write "make nooky" in your planner? :)

It's really dorky, but I just write in the time and then a little heart next to it, lol.

It gets the job done.

Specializes in Telemetry.
Kind of an obnoxious statement. If you are with a man and you are afraid he is going to have sex with another woman if you don't "take care of him" then you are with the wrong man. I kind of feel bad for people who even think like that- they might have pretty unhappy relationships.

If you think Nursing School is rough on your sex life- have a couple kids.

It is possible. My colleague used to think the same way you do and she got the shock of her life. We have to keep an open mind. Not that we are going to acuse our partner of cheating but no one is perfect!

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