my husband and i were in the same industry, working for the same company, then we were competitors. i am more aggressive in pursuing opportunities, and i too was working 60-80 hr weeks, traveling 2-3 days per week. even when i was home deathly ill, i was remotely dialing in for email and returning voicemails. and yes, i made more money than my husband.
i finally quit because the stress was taking its toll - on my health, on my marriage. and it was never really something i wanted to do - i just fell into it. i've been unemployed since december, and have been on the fast track to completing my bs in finance and taking pre-reqs for nursing school
. has it been easy - my husband as the sole breadwinner? no. i know he worries, i worry. it has been and will continue to be a huge financial sacrifice. he is looking to start a small business on the side for supplemental income. we are cutting expenses - no more gelson's (high end supermarket), i'm looking for the super wal-mart. i may actually have to give up my 900 gazillon channels on digital cable - and trust me, i love my digital cable! but from what i understand, i'll be studying so much in nursing school i won't have time to watch it anyways....:wink2:
his daughter also has to sacrifice - she will need to do without some things right now. it is tough for her, as she is 16 and wants the cool clothes and a car - but we cannot afford it right now. the hope is that the temporary pain right now will pay off in huge dividends once you have your rn and you're working. so we look forward to the hope in that.
do i feel guilty? absolutely! every time a bill come in, every time his daughter wants to go here, or do this or do that, i feel the pangs. i asked my husband again the other day, do i need to get a part-time job? he tells me my job is to finish school and get my degree and get into nursing school. :kiss so we fall back on the hope - these choices and sacrifices are for the ultimate good of the entire family.
we are going to make it - lord knows, we've come too far to have the door slammed in our faces!