Quitting Nursing School - page 2

by Hargrove86 8,692 Views | 37 Comments

So I am in my second semester junior year in my BSN program. This is my second degree, so I spent a year taking a few prerequisites part-time before getting accepted into this program. It's one of the top ranked programs in the... Read More


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    Thank you all so much for your advice! This is a hard decision, but as the week as worn on, I have become more at peace with the idea of moving on. I am 26, single and not dating, don't have children...I am definintely in a different situation than many. I don't have anyone to do this for but me. I can't even describe how much I hate my life right now and what a roller coaster I am on. I went to classes yesterday, took my Med/Surg exam and felt like I knew nothing. Waiting on the grad, but I think my mind is made up. My family has been so supportive of me through all of this. They are not judging me for leaving; they really just want to see me happy. I am thinking of just dropping my Med/Surg 7 credit class and keeping the 8 credits of 3 easier classes. This gives me some time to think, be less stressed, and still haev my spot at school incase I change my mind. I don't see myself changing my mind, but at least it's there.

    Sueall, thank you for your story! It sounds like you felt exactlty the way I do. I don't feel like I'm making the wrong decision for me, but I also worry about what to do next. What are you doing now? You don't regret dropping out? I am feeling so much better thinking about not doing this anymore. I don't care anymore about learning or the patients and that is such a red flag saying this just isn't for me. I always really wanted to be a vet tech, but the pay is so low, I talked myself out of it and decided to do humans instead. It is NOT the same thing for me. I don't have the deepseated love for people, I have for animals. I just felt like I could do nursing even if I didn't love it and have it finance my love for animals. But what good am I to anyone if I am miserable in my work?

    My friend sent me this quote the other day and it all clicked:

    The most dangerous risk of all - the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.
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    Quote from Hargrove86
    The weirdest thing of all is that all this time I never really saw myself in the future being a nurse. I thought it would be nice, but as I planned my life in my head, I never saw myself being a nurse. I went into this hoping to make good enough money, help my family and have the skills to be able to care for my parents in home when they age. I didn't do it because I love nursing.
    This is really the wrong reason to be a nurse. I do not think it would be wise to keep on continuing on with your current state of health, both physically and emotionally with that goal. If you keep going on like this there may be some hope of you actually enjoying it, but at the same time you could keep on hating it.
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    I think making good money, helping your family, and having the skills to be able to care for parents at home when they age are fine reasons to become a nurse. Just the fact that someone is thinking along those lines at the age of 26 indicates they are the sort of person who would very likely make a great nurse.

    But to the OP - if you've thought through all of it and read the really thoughtful posts about what the job is really like as opposed to the process of learning to do it and you are at peace with your decision -- the very best to you!
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    Let me tell you something.....I never freaking imagined in a million years that it would be this hard....not just school, but the profession, and i'll tell you something, if I would have known what I know now, I never would have done it, I would have gone to school for something else earlier
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    Your posting made me think of a conversation I recently had with my daughter. She was just accepted into nursing school to begin in the upcoming spring semester and since I am a nurse, naturally I am thrilled but I wanted to make sure that she was wanting this for herself and not because I am a nurse or for the salary or any other reason. First and foremost make sure you are doing what's right for you and not what others think what you should or should not do! Sure, they may be disappointed if you decide to quit but if they truly have your best interest in mind they absolutely would NOT want you to continue with something that makes you miserably unhappy or that you would regret. Life is way too short, so don't waste time or energy for something you hate! Secondly , don't go to nursing school to become an RN for the money! Those 'kind' of nurses are in my opinion, the worst 'kind' of nurses there are, for everyone involved (patients, co-workers, collaborative staff, etc.). You really must have some some sort of caring and compassion for those you are caring for. Nursing is not just something you "do" it something that you "are"! With that being said, you have come this far, why not make something of all of you hard work and effort! Have you looked at all of your options? One great thing about nursing is all of the options and avenues you can take. Are there any specialties in nursing that you might enjoy? Nursing is not just strictly clinical or 'floor' nursing. Before you quit, make sure there isn't some pathway you can take as an RN that you might really like - forensic nursing, nursing informatics, education, OR or PACU, etc. etc. etc. there are so many different types of nursing that maybe you can find one that fits you! Also, I think you are making a great choice not to drop out abruptly but are taking some time to slow down a bit and reevaluate your situation! That shows a lot of maturity (so I disagree with the earlier comment someone made of questioning your maturity). Don't quit until you have exhausted ALL of your options!!! Maybe there is some sort of nursing that incorporates animals (there is a lot of research that shows how animals are helpful in the healing process, or that are being trained as companions for people with seizure disorders or even diabetes now) there might be a career as an RN like that!! Any nurse would be lying if he or she said they never questioned there nursing abilities or career! And, at some point nursing school sucked (pardon the language) for almost all of us - I got written up and almost kicked out my last semester for some attitude issues I had but I adjusted and made it through!! Lastly, I don't know if you are religious or not but - I have had some seriously lengthy talks with God throughout my nursing endeavor and I am not the most religious person but there were always some little signs or whatever you want to call them, that I was on the right path. Good luck with whatever you decide just make sure those decisions you make are for YOU because YOU are the one who has to live your life and you have the power to make yourself happy!!
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    I know these posts are kind of old, but I could really see myself in what you said here. I am working on my ADN as a second career. I love learning about health and health care, but I detest my clinical rotation. Just like you, I feel live I can say and do the right things, but I feel no connection and passion for what I am doing. I'm holding on until the end of the semester and then I'll go inactive. If I truly regret it, I can go back. I'm considering health care administration and health information studies. I am much better "behind" the scenes. The nurses are great, the techs are great, my classmates are great, my instructor puts me on edge and I just don't see wanting to be in this role in the future. It seems like all med passing and charting. Yuck.

    I woke up last night having a panic attack in the middle of the night. I've never had a panic attack while I'm awake, let alone asleep. It was awful. I've held on to my cushy business job part time so I think I can go back full time. I can go back to feeling like I know what I'm doing, being able to go to the gym, spending the evening relaxing, not feeling like I'm falling behind on everything. I'm too old for this.

    I'm having chest pain right now thinking about it. I'm sure it's not for me. Time to move on . . .
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    rudy5095, it's funny that you reply to this post today. Shortly after I wrote the original post, I dropped out of nursing school. I felt like such a loser. I still have a hard time explaining myself to people even though I shouldn't have to. Nursing wasn't for me, and I am still very sure of that. I wasn't grossed out by anything, I just didn't like the reality of what nursing was. I agree that it seemed like mostly doling out meds and charting. The nurses never seemed to have time and for me I was dreading every shift as a student nurse. I couldn't imagine feeling that way for the rest of my working life. I have worked on farms my entire life and that work is hard but I never dread doing it. I like feeling like I know what I am doing and not just waiting for myself to screw up. I don't regret leaving nursing school at all. Today was the day my class did final presentations and had their last day of clinicals. I will admit, that it is not easy seeing all these girls I went to school with posting on Facebook about how good it feels to be done and just a few weeks away from pinning. I'm a year out of leaving school and still not sure what I am doing. I am supposed to start working as an ophthalmic technician in January. I am actually sort fo excited because I think it will be a lot less overwhelming and the hours are so much better. I totally know how you feel with the panic attacks and that feeling of never being able to keep up. Some people seem to thrive on such a challenge, but not me. I want to go to work, know what my task is, and feel like I know what I'm doing. Nursing was just too stressful for me. Since you know for sure it is not for you, good for you for moving on! People can make you feel so crappy for quitting because they say it;s such a good career path. But I've come to notice that it is not a good path if you are going to hate your life, dread every day you go to work, and be so stressed that you can't function. There's a million other jobs out there, go find the one that makes you happy. Sounds like you have a lot of options. Good luck! Feel free to message me if you want to talk about it. I know it's not the easiest decision
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    I'm sorry.... I can't feel anything but annoyance for this post. If you hate it drop out. Is anything worth making you feel like you’re losing it? Nursing isn't for everyone. Neither is being a CEO or an accountant or a social worker or a CNA (no offense to any CNA’s) who work with animals.
    Figure out what you want to do. If we were in school together I would be ****** off because I worked my butt off for the opportunity to be in a nursing program and you are there but don't want it. Really??
    And for that matter I do not want a nurse taking care of me that can’t find a redeeming quality about the nursing profession or only does it because they will make “good enough money”. Stop whining… Your mind is already made up. Don’t wait for everyone’s validation. Do what makes you happy. Continuing with this isn't doing anybody any favors, including yourself
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    Quote from motay68
    I'm sorry.... I can't feel anything but annoyance for this post. If you hate it drop out. Is anything worth making you feel like you’re losing it? Nursing isn't for everyone. Neither is being a CEO or an accountant or a social worker or a CNA (no offense to any CNA’s) who work with animals.
    Figure out what you want to do. If we were in school together I would be ****** off because I worked my butt off for the opportunity to be in a nursing program and you are there but don't want it. Really??
    And for that matter I do not want a nurse taking care of me that can’t find a redeeming quality about the nursing profession or only does it because they will make “good enough money”. Stop whining… Your mind is already made up. Don’t wait for everyone’s validation. Do what makes you happy. Continuing with this isn't doing anybody any favors, including yourself
    I hope this post helped you let some steam out. The comment is not really helpful. You are not in the op shoes. Sometimes you don't realize that you don't want something, or something is not good for you until you experience it for yourself. Nurses/ nursing students are supposed to be so caring, yet they have no problem chewing each others head off. SMH.
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    Quote from motay68
    I'm sorry.... I can't feel anything but annoyance for this post. If you hate it drop out. Is anything worth making you feel like you’re losing it? Nursing isn't for everyone. Neither is being a CEO or an accountant or a social worker or a CNA (no offense to any CNA’s) who work with animals.
    Figure out what you want to do. If we were in school together I would be ****** off because I worked my butt off for the opportunity to be in a nursing program and you are there but don't want it. Really??
    And for that matter I do not want a nurse taking care of me that can’t find a redeeming quality about the nursing profession or only does it because they will make “good enough money”. Stop whining… Your mind is already made up. Don’t wait for everyone’s validation. Do what makes you happy. Continuing with this isn't doing anybody any favors, including yourself
    She did. Read all the thread.


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