What if this instructor really cares about students and maybe she saw that you are really stressed out. You know, all of us have been in nursing school
and we know what it is to be stressed. I think, particularly looking at your posts of your summer load, that you ask alot of yourself. You ask alot of yourself if you were someone who was young, single and with no family obligations, but you have those obligations, too.
So how stressed and perfectionistic are you being with yourself? On a scale of one to ten, where one is so unstressed it's like being on a tropical isle and ten is "having physical stress sx, snapping at my family, feeling constantly overwhelmed" or "the worst stress ever", where are you landing? Remember, you have to take care of yourself or you cannot take care of others.
Approach her question from a different frame of reference. What if your best friend asked you that question? What would you have said to her?
Essarge, you just reacted like she was accusing you of moral failing or weakness. Being stressed is not a moral failing; it is a human experience, but if we don't take care of the body and the "soul," it will fail us.
Relax, count to 10. Take care of yourself. Reconsider her point. How are you doing Essarge? Don't answer me. Answer yourself and then call up your best friend and talk to her about it or talk to someone you trust.