Please help me stay positive

  1. I will be starting clinicals this fall, and I am so excited. However, I found a posting on this site that recommended NOT going into nursing. There was numerous replies agreeing that nursing won't be what you expect when you finally get a job. I'm also so sick of hearing how your personal life will suffer. I have a fiancee and according to these threads, it is doomed. I refuse to beleive this. I'M GOING TO SCHOOL!!! Not leaving the state for the next 2 years. I know I will have to study alot and he's fine with that. I just dont understand these horror stories.
    Why is there so much negativity?? Is nursing all you imagined? Have any relationships suffered??

    Thanks so much
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  2. 13 Comments

  3. by   allthingsbright
    EVERY SINGLE nurse i meet is so negative and tells me not to go into nursing. i dont get it either-my mom is a nurse, and has had hard times but doesnt regret it. yet, she doesnt think i should go into nursing either. well, i'm 32 years old and i have a specific goal, so screw the naysayers. i'll live my life and learn from my own experiences. just brush off the negativity and keep going-YOU are needed as a nurse. and heck, you might JUST loooovvvveee it!

    i also start clinicals in the fall and frankly am sick of feeling nervous about it because of all the stuff i hear and read. i'm thinking of taking a break from the boards so i can focus on the positive for a while!

    take care!
    amy
  4. by   Hellllllo Nurse
    Nursing did not hurt my relationship- we grew closer during my time in nursing school.

    However, I think much of the negativity here will help newbies to see nursing in a realistic light.
    Nursing is a very difficult career. Denying that or trying to gild the lilly when it comes to what nursing really is won't help anything.
  5. by   JimmyMallo
    I think it's more that nursing is a field you really have to be fit for. I LOVE taking care of patients and being a patient advocate. I think too many people get into nursing because they think the money is good and see job security and they don't have the desire to help people and drive that is needed to thrive in nursing. Ours is a job you do because you love it, and if you don't love it now you probably never will. If you want it you can do it, and you seem to have the attitude it takes to make it. Nursing is not an easy job but it is rewarding .Just my 2
  6. by   Altra
    Quote from JimmyMallo
    I think it's more that nursing is a field you really have to be fit for. I LOVE taking care of patients and being a patient advocate. I think too many people get into nursing because they think the money is good and see job security and they don't have the desire to help people and drive that is needed to thrive in nursing. Ours is a job you do because you love it, and if you don't love it now you probably never will. If you want it you can do it, and you seem to have the attitude it takes to make it. Nursing is not an easy job but it is rewarding .Just my 2
    Says it perfectly!

    Good luck to all!
  7. by   klone
    The other day during my CNA clinicals, I met a nurse who looked to be around 60. She asked me about myself and when I told her I was starting the nursing program in the fall, her face lit up and she said "you know what? I went back to school when I was 35 after my kids were in school fulltime, and I've been a nurse ever since and I love it! I've never regretted it."
  8. by   NewEastCoastRN
    Hi Amy, I really wouldn't get discouraged from what you have read in those other posts. I won't deny that nursing is sometimes difficult, and it isn't for everyone, but that is no reason to not pursue it. I finished school just over a year ago. It could sometimes be stressful for a relationship, but if you have a strong relationship to begin with it shouldn't be that big of an issue. I stayed with the same guy throughout nursing school and now we are getting married! Big hug to you and I hope that you don't get too discouraged.
  9. by   presC.
    hi amy,
    for me, being a nurse is very rewarding. full of surprises and challenges. it helped me develop the virtue of perseverance, patience, service, kindness and also being smart.
    ofcourse there's always high and lows in every job, but it's all up to us how we'll handle the situations. and it's a blessing that i have a husband who's very supportive in every way.
  10. by   FutureNurse2005
    i'm just starting out as well, but i'm not scared of how things MIGHT change or be affected. I'm just going to go with the flow and take things a day at a time. For my entire life i've done what everyone else wanted me to do, and this time i'm doing it for me...because I want to!!
    Yes, things will be a struggle at times, but that is life!

    Good luck to you! If you really want this, you can do it!
  11. by   All_Smiles_RN
    Do what I do, take that negativity and focus yourself on overcoming it. The more someone says you shouldn't/couldn't do it etc etc, feed off of that and prove that you can! I can tell by your post that you have the will and determination. Good luck to you from another student!
    ...Jennifer...
  12. by   nycegyrl
    Hi hear ya. I think some of the negative posts are legitimate but I also think some of them are from people who are negative in general. They scare me into thinking that this may not be for me. But I remain optimistic, as is my nature. I have worked with lots of people in the past who dwell on things going on around them that they have no control over. They need to let go of it. Do what you can. Accept your limitations. Worry about your own business. Take care of number 1.
    I am in a new relationship and I worry how it might suffer but you know what? If it is meant to work out it will. There has to be understanding that it is a difficult time but it isn't going to last forever. Only a short while. And I think it will give us both insight into how the person is going to react to tough situations that are bound to occur in the years ahead. All relationships go through good and bad times. How is the significant other going to react or respond. Supportive? Understanding? Giving? Selfish? Insecure? This could be a benefitial test to see if the relationship can survive tough times. Good luck and best wishes.
  13. by   lab2004
    Quote from amy3535
    I will be starting clinicals this fall, and I am so excited. However, I found a posting on this site that recommended NOT going into nursing. There was numerous replies agreeing that nursing won't be what you expect when you finally get a job. I'm also so sick of hearing how your personal life will suffer. I have a fiancee and according to these threads, it is doomed. I refuse to beleive this. I'M GOING TO SCHOOL!!! Not leaving the state for the next 2 years. I know I will have to study alot and he's fine with that. I just dont understand these horror stories.
    Why is there so much negativity?? Is nursing all you imagined? Have any relationships suffered??

    Thanks so much
    I am going into nursing partly because I've heard you can do contract work and have a flexible schedule.
  14. by   jenrninmi
    Keep your chin up! If your s.o. is supportive, then don't worry about it. I really enjoy nursing school, but yes, there are some stressful times. Where isn't there?? I'll be you'll enjoy it! My relationship with my husband, family and friends isn't falling apart...I actually feel like I have more time on my hands now compared to two years ago when I was taking BioChemistry, Genetics, Microbiology Lab, Cadavar Lab, and Pathophysiology all in the same semester. Now THAT was a stressful semester! :chuckle

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