Please help me improve my study habits

  1. Failed 2 tests in second semester of nursing school:angryfire. i have 2 more tests and a final comprehensive. Please help me, i'm at a loss. just lost mom to terminal cancer yesterday. just feel really distracted. Have 3 boys 17,10, 5. Just feeling like this is not the best time to have started school. i am 34 y/o with AAS in medical lab school. Lab school was not this hard and neither was the studying. my GPA was great until nursing school, what is the problem?
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  3. by   DudeNurseRN
    Quote from watson2008
    Failed 2 tests in second semester of nursing school:angryfire. i have 2 more tests and a final comprehensive. Please help me, i'm at a loss. just lost mom to terminal cancer yesterday. just feel really distracted. Have 3 boys 17,10, 5. Just feeling like this is not the best time to have started school. i am 34 y/o with AAS in medical lab school. Lab school was not this hard and neither was the studying. my GPA was great until nursing school, what is the problem?
    Ouch. That's more than a full plate. Sorry to hear about your mom.

    Stress is what the problem seems like to me. Nursing is one of the harder professions that there is out there, and nursing school is no joke.

    On reading your note I have to say:
    You are definately smart enough to do it.
    You certainly are capable enough to finish nursing school.
    You have a lot riding on your shoulders currently.

    If I were in your shoes, to be honest, the first thing that I would probably do is let your professors know what's going on and ask their advice about what you can do about your situation. I personally would also check out getting setup with a therapist if you haven't already. Reason being, you have 3 kiddos and probably more folks out there that are dependant on you, and you owe it to yourself to have someone by your side to go through all these tough times with. Dealing with the death of a parent at any age (expected death or not) is in the top ten of the most stressful experiences that a person goes through in their life.

    This time in your life isn't going to be the easiest for doing things like studying and taking tests. You need to take care of yourself first and foremost.
  4. by   GingerSue
    I agree - let your professors know

    perhaps it is some time that you need - in order to adjust to the loss of your mother

    certainly, you are smart enough to pass the courses,
    it is just that right now - this troublesome situation is occurring and you must deal with it too

    you can still do the courses
  5. by   P_RN
    Watson bless your heart. My sincere condolences on the loss of your mother. I was 40 when my Daddy died and I could hardly hold it together, and I was already an RN 7 years. Of course you are smart enough. First thing to do is go to the head of your department and explain everything. It's possible they may give you an incomplete in this term's courses that you can pick up when you are more able. The university did that for my daughter whenshe had health problems and they honored it for 5 years! Ask them please.
  6. by   hcmanp
    I had a professor once tell our class not to get a divorce, get married, give birth or let anyone die or make ANY lifestyle changes while in nursing school because it's such a life-stress on its own. Talk to your school leadership (dean or whatever) and let them know your situation. They may be able to furlough you this semester with minimal expense (although it's late in the semester) until things seem a little more bearable.
    It will take about 3 months for you to get over the loss of your parent (minimum), and I am so sorry for your loss. It's very difficult.
    But, you have proven you have what it takes to get through school, and you can do this. Nursing school takes a bit more effort than some other degrees but it's not impossible. I do not think you have a study habit problem, I think you have a support problem.
    The boys are old enough to help. They need to learn to help take care of a house, and pitch in to support their family. I presume they sleep and eat there, they should help out. A good man is difficult to raise, but a joy to have.
    I hope you have a spouse, or other supportive adult to depend on. Find one if you can (church, PTA, neighbor, friend etc.) Do not let the 17 year old be the adult for you.
    God bless and good luck.
  7. by   Daytonite
    studying is like any skill. you get better at it with practice. here are web sites with information on how to study:
    this slide presentation is on the strategy of answering questions on nursing exams:
    to answer critical thinking questions on nursing exams you must:
    • know normal anatomy and physiology
    • know abnormal anatomy for the disease in question
    • know the resulting signs and symptoms when the disease occurs and how they proceed from mild to fatal - each sign and symptom can be related back to the pathophysiology of the disease
    • know how the doctor diagnoses and treats the disease in question
    • know nursing interventions for the signs and symptoms you are being asked about
    • know the steps of the nursing process and what goes on in each of the steps
    • know the principles behind the actions being done - there are many kinds of principles: principles of nursing, principles of biology, principles of chemistry, principles of physics, etc.
    • read the stem of the question carefully and answer that because the test makers try to trip you up by distracting you with conflicting information they give you in the answer choices that sounds good but has no relationship to what the question is asking for
    • ask yourself "why" a patient is experiencing some sign or symptoms to get at the underlying problem. nursing like other disciplines treats the problem/signs and symptoms.
    you should review the links in this thread as well:
  8. by   CT Pixie
    Quote from watson2008
    Failed 2 tests in second semester of nursing school:angryfire. i have 2 more tests and a final comprehensive. Please help me, i'm at a loss. just lost mom to terminal cancer yesterday. just feel really distracted. Have 3 boys 17,10, 5. Just feeling like this is not the best time to have started school. i am 34 y/o with AAS in medical lab school. Lab school was not this hard and neither was the studying. my GPA was great until nursing school, what is the problem?
    Sweetie, I'm sure your study skills were not/are not the problem. The problem is/was your Moms terminal illness. Of course you are distracted! I doubt i'd do well on anything if my mom was dying. I am so sorry to hear of your Mom's passing.

    I'd speak with the school and/or professors and explain the situation. Maybe they have a do-able solution to your situation.

    I wish you the best.
  9. by   NurseHotFlash
    So sorry you lost your mom. That has to be part of the problem. The three boys have to be a stressor also. I think back to when my son was young. I thought all I had to do was find a mountain to climb and I would get to the top somehow. That proved to be true, but my son and my x-husband paid the price for my success. I was cranky, and unavailable most of the time. Now, at the ripe old age of 52, I realize that challenges will always be out there, but sometimes smelling the roses is just as important.

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