Nursing students who are also moms of young children

  1. Sorry if this has already bee covered...

    I have a couple years of pre-reqs to worry about before even applying to a nursing program, but I can't help but worry about the schedule. I have 3 children, ages 5, 3, and 1...so by the time I enter a program they'll be approx. 7, 5, and 3. The older 2 will be in school so they can do before and after school care, but I worry about my youngest. I really don't want to put her in daycare full time (nor can we afford daycare..it's so expensive!!!). My husband works full time as well, so I can't count on him to help with child care. No relatives or friends either.

    My question is, how have you handled childcare while you're a full time nursing student?
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  3. by   adnstudent2007
    My daughter was 3 when I started nursing school and I found a wonderful daycare/preschool for her. It is wonderful, they are very flexible with times and days (which is very hard to find) so I don't have to put her in every day-she goes only 3 days a week and I can change which days as I need to with just a couple weeks notice. It is out in the country so it is a little out of the way in terms of the driving but it's worth it. I would ask around other parents you know but the way I found this one was that I just called around to child care centers I found in the yellow pages and asked about hours, etc. Then I visited them and this one, and while they had the best hours, also gave me the best "mommy feeling" that she would do well there-and she's loved it since day one (she's been there about 1 1/2 years now). It was a prayer come true! Oh, also, if you're interested in a home child care situation some cities have referral services. You can try contacting the social services department in your city to find out.
  4. by   amybethf
    Have u decided what school u are going to? Check to see if they have child care there. I will be dropping off my 2.5 year old son at my school's child care. It costs $3.85 p hr. Most schools these days offer it.
    Good luck!
  5. by   momx4
    I have 4 children - ages 13-2. I am a fulltime nursing student. What I did to lighten my load was take care of all the pre-reqs and co-reqs that go along with the nursing program before I entered. That way I only had nursing classes to deal with and less time in the classroom. The other student were in school 5 days a week with Nursing 101,A/P1 and Micro,while I just had class 3 days. It has taken me longer to finish but I am glad I did it that way. Figure out what classes are to be taken and take night classes. I hope that helps!
  6. by   Eirene
    our son has cerebral palsy. i began school when he was 3 (he's 5 now), completing all of my pre-reqs first. since daycare was a huge issue because he is differently abled, i took evening classes so hubby could watch him at night.

    since starting the nursing program, we found a wonderful daycare that doesn't mind he's in a wheelchair at all. we had to do away with some things like cable tv, home phone, and shopping at the mall so we could pay for it.

    a lot of places give discounts for more than one child. you might also want to check into them. a few mom's whose children goes to the daycare have a subsidized plan according to their income. i think you apply for the under the job and family services in your county.

    like i tell my kids and my hubby... we just need to survive for the next year and a half. it'll all be worth it in the end.

    good luck!
  7. by   labcat01
    Quote from danibanani
    like i tell my kids and my hubby... we just need to survive for the next year and a half. it'll all be worth it in the end.

    good luck!
    yep, that is my mantra too! i'm not going to lie, it is really hard and expensive. my son is 2 and he goes to a great daycare from 8:30-3:00 while i'm in class/clinicals (my husband has to do his share of dropping off and picking up). i know where you are coming from because we don't have any family in the area either!

    every spare minute i have goes to studying and it has been hard on my family but it is worth it in my opinion. i just have to make it through the rest of flu season and i'm home free...because nursing school does not look to kindly on absences.

    have you thought about putting your child in a home daycare. they are usually less expensive than a daycare center?
    Last edit by labcat01 on Jan 1, '07
  8. by   Spidey's mom
    I waited until my youngest was in 1st grade to start nursing school. I did the pre-reqs slowly - fortunately I had gone to college after high school majoring in Social Work so I had general ed covered and just needed anatomy, physio and micro.

    I'm not a big fan of daycare. My family helped out a great deal.

    steph
  9. by   jov
    Quote from *bethany*
    i really don't want to put her in daycare full time (nor can we afford daycare..it's so expensive!!!). my husband works full time as well, so i can't count on him to help with child care. no relatives or friends either.
    if what you say above is absolutely true, that:
    1) you can't afford daycare
    2) your husband can't help
    3) you have no relatives or friends who can help

    then your only option is to wait until she is in k or 1st grade.
  10. by   ~Karen~n~AZ~
    I have always carried a full load at college and at home. I have two little monsters. My son is now ten and my daughter is three. I decided to start right after my daughter turned three months. It was pretty stressfully but well worth driving back and forth to the college four times a day to nurse her. I took almost a year off because I was worried that my youngest wasn't getting the attention her older brother had received. I also had to find a college that would accept me into a program ASAP. It was a nice break. My husband and I work together with my class schedule. He really gives a lot. I go to school during the day and he works at night. I take our son to school and pick him up and he watches our daughter during the day. We switch off a lot and barely see each other but its only temporary. This past semester I needed a setter for a few weeks. It cost us $40.00 for only one day a week, about 4-5 hours long. I have to admit that she was an awesome person and my daughter and son both loved going to her.

    I try to take each day as it comes and prepare the best I know how. I keep going because I am persistent and a little crazy at times.
  11. by   *Bethany*
    Thanks for sharing all of your stories and ideas.

    There's some good news. My husband's schedule at work is going to be changing in a matter of a couple of weeks, so that should really make things more flexible for us. It couldn't have happened at a better time!
  12. by   mimes7695
    Im a single mom of three kids and making the descion to go back to school was one of the hardest ones of my life! I had to cut my hours at work and move back in with my parents but due to thier small house not all of us could live there together so again i had to make probably THE hardest choice of my life and do what was best for my daugthers and we together made the descion for them to go live with thier dad in germany til i was out of school.

    My son still lives with me full time and finding daycare is deffinitly a challange. I was fortunate and found a great mom thru my daughters cheerleading who did daycare and she is wonderful for my son. My only issue now is that when she cancels on me at the last minute i dont have any back up sitters arranged...
  13. by   FNPhopeful
    Im a fulltime nursing student as well, just battled my first semester with a 2 and 5 yr old. It was hard for me because I have an hour commute each way, but my 5 yr old is in Kinder so that helped. My 2 yr old ended up loving preschool/daycare. Just find one you like, she'll probably love it!

    As for paying for it, just get a student loan for that expense. I had to get private student loans from Sallie Mae to pay for my gas/childcare/ and dont forget tons of expensive textbooks. There's just no way around it!

    You dont wanna be stressed out about having enough money, nursing school is hard enough! You can do it, it takes research on your part to find the right daycare and get a good loan.

    Good Luck!
  14. by   ontocrna
    I have a 5 year old in half day kindergarten (transportation and child care nightmare!) and a 2 year old at home. I took all my pre-reqs a few at a time over the last few years so all that was left was core nursing classes which takes about 2 1/2 days per week. On those days I pay someone 5$/hr. to be "me". She drives my kindergartener into school, picks her up, and so on. It costs more than daycare, but my kids don't catch daycare illnesses, they go places (we give her our car, our zoo card, our museum pass, or she has groceries and chores for her family to do). I live out in the country and we didn't have family that was healthy or young enough to help out either. I found this person at church by word of mouth. We discussed what I could afford and the extras ahead of time. We discussed the crazies of the schedule and my unavailability. She is me...doctor's apptmts., teacher chats, etc. for 2 1/2 days a week.

    Neither of my kids had ever had a babysitter before this ever!!! The key for my husband and I was to treat the sitter as part of the family so that she has a stake in the outcome of her care for our children. Every once in a while I do something special for her out of the blue so she feels appreciated. We invite her to big events...my daughter's x-mas pageant, birthday parties and so on. I take the time, that I don't have to chat with her for a half hour here or there about anything. This has worked for me and I am terribly phobic about giving my children to anyone else. I look at it like I gave my first child five years at home and my second two which is so much more than most kids ever get. And my two year old is still getting me so much more than most kids get even when I'm gone 2 1/2 days a week. I also have always said my kids come first and if my school is so interruptive to their well being, I can always work on that down the road but these years I cannot get back. I want more children and am trying to squeeze in the rest of this college stuff at age 36 so that I can grow my family. It is challenging but it can be done without any detriment to your family. My husband reminds me everyday that he is gone 40-50hrs. a week and the girls are still mesmerized by him and he still is extremely involved in their care...bedtime stories which he makes up about his princesses, bath time, getting dressed. It isn't the amount of time he spends; it's the quality of it.

    Lastly, I have a girlfriend who started me off on this journey. She has done what I am doing with a sitter and she has gone so far as to incorporate a mother of small children as her babysitter. She gives them the car, the carseats and this way a stay at home mom can make money to continue to stay at home but with her children too. Works awesome. Costs her 7$/hr. Sometimes it's at either house. It's like a paid play group and there are gadzooks of stay at home moms looking to make some money and still be able to be with their kids.

    Know another three families who use one sitter simultaneously because their kids are similar in age. 2$/kid, one car from one set of parents which rotates weekly, pick a house. Great big play group and cheap. And if you're doing it 2-3 days a weeks, your kids think your a saint. When do we get to go to so and so's house and play with their toys. Not stuck at home, sitter not in a rut, not too many kids, enough to make it cheap.

    Sorry so long...I just really struggled with this myself!

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