Hi! I wanted to bring something up that really surprised me & I'm not sure what to do about it. First of all, let me say that we have a number of males in our nursing program, and they are top-notch, fantastic, helpful, compassionate, and mature - I really enjoy having them around. This is in no way a comment on male nursing students. But here's what's going on.
A couple of the young male nursing students in my Master's (!) program think it's funny when our instructor talks about problems involving genitalia. They giggle in class and basically don't act like I would imagine someone studying medicine would act. Okay, okay, it may be unusual to hear an instructor speak frankly about the vasalva maneuver or imperforate anuses on newborns if one is not used to hearing about such things. But COME ON, we're in nursing school!
What's bothering me is that a couple of the guys have apparently been talking about me - I've had a couple of comments shouted to me across the cafeteria, and just recently one of them walked up to me after a big test and said, "Hey, X tells me you have an imperforate anus. Is this true?" Then he just stood there staring at me, I guess waiting for my response.
I'm just not sure how to respond to this kind of comment. I am a woman in my mid- to late- forties, and I guess I don't expect to be spoken to this way by a colleague. The two guys who are saying these things are younger than me, by the way - one is in his twenties, and one is in his thirties. As far as I know, I haven't said or done anything to make these guys mad, but I feel like I'm being picked on/harrassed. It's so immature and frankly embarrassing for me that I guess I've been too shocked to respond or do anything about it. How do you think I should handle this line of questioning? I want it to stop right now, and I certainly don't want to respond in a way that will just exacerbate this behavior. I feel like nursing school is stressful enough, and I just want to do my best, graduate, and become an awesome nurse.
Oct 14, '13
by Stephalump, RN
Quote from lorirn2b
You could respond with "I hear you ARE an imperforate anus." And walk away.
Hahahahahaaaaa! I would've said "Your mom's a perforated anus," or "Your face looks like a perforated anus" but I like yours better.
OP, you can go one of three ways. Complain to the higher ups, ignore it, or respond to your ridiculous hecklers.
I think complaining will make things worse (the blatant stupidity may stop, but animosity will fester.) Ignoring it isn't working. And you don't come across as the type to get yourself in on the joke to diffuse it.
So...what to do, what to do.
Last edit by Stephalump on Oct 14, '13