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there's a nursing student in my lab group who is wishy washy. he talks to everyone in class but me. or if the teacher hands him some sheets to pass around to other students, he'll hand it to everyone except for me. don't understand why he's bullying me. never had a disagreement or said anything controversial or radical. its giving me a bit of anxiety

Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
he's not scared of me at all. not in the slightest. he does this all the time. he sits next to the teacher and she always hands him papers to pass to each of us individually and whenever its my turn to receive my paper I have to get up and get it from the instructor myself. he also talks to everyone in class but me. and he sometimes stares and giggles when I am messing up during lab

One of my favourite quotes....

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent"........ Eleanor RooseveltYou are not there for a popularity contest....ignore his behavior and get your education.

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This is not bullying, this is just a rude person. You are going to have to deal with people like this your whole life, so it is better to start getting experience now. My philosophy is to kill them with kindness. Go out of your way to be nice to him. If it gets really out of hand follow your school's chain of command. Good luck

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Immature people don't do well in nursing school...

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a year from now this guy and his weird behavior wont mean jack. you have bigger fish to fry!

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Specializes in Emergency Room.

I'm not excusing his behavior but there must have been an incident that triggered his behavior. Like others have said he's not bullying you he's simply ignoring you. Maybe he's shy or he just simply doesn't like you for whatever reason. It's life you have to get over it and it's not that serious. I have a couple of co workers that I can't stand and I try not to interact with them simply due to the fact that I don't want to be mean. If I don't like someone it's hard for me to be fake and nice to them. I need my job and benefits that come with it :)

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Specializes in PEDS.

i agree, he's totally acting childish. there are two girls in my lab who are 19-20 at best (straight out of HS when they started). if i'm having a conversation with someone about meeting up to study they snicker and roll their eyes. is this high school? are you above studying? GOOD LUCK! :bookworm: once i was working alone, while everyone else had pairs, so i asked them a quick question--they were less than friendly and laughed at me.

people like this are at a loss to themselves, especially in a med field. i'd say remind this dude firmly but friendly he forgot you, and don't let him do it twice. i think he knows you won't say anything so he's getting away with it. don't let this fool make you anxious.

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Your instructor is to blame! If she/he sees that this student is intentionally missing you and you have to go get the paper from him/her directly. They should be stopping that behavior. My program had a similar problem weak professors who let some stronger jerky students dominate their classrooms and cause chaos for the rest of us. they would "bully" the teacher even into accepting wrong answers to tests, when the policy said no discussing answers in class period. By the time we all got out of our program we were thankful we had just survived such a horrible environment where learning was not promoted but rather getting out as early as possible being left to figure it out on your own and allowing a few jerks to control the entire class. Thank god for google and youtube it helped me figure a lot out I didn't understand in my reading! The jerk in my class even managed to become a self appointed "VP of the class" HAHAHAHA we all laughed and were like what no one ever voted her for that. She kissed the instructors butt and was rude and aggressive to every other person in class unless you were up her butt too (which was only a select few) She single handedly caused great division in our classroom that was not a positive thing and our instructors did nothing to stop it. I remember having a conversation with one of the brightest best students (florence nightingale award winner at graduation) and we decided the "last lesson" to learn in the program was how to manage your way OUT successfully. Its like if you can survive nursing school you can survive the real world of nursing. I really wish these programs would figure out a way to teach students without making them run some crazy gauntlet of challenges feeling like they are just waiting to see you fall on your face. I even had one instructor say he was "the gate keeper" keeping bad nurses out of the field.. OMG Um no! you're suppose to teach these students who are PAYING YOU! help them toward success and let the NCLEX sort out who does and doesn't belong.! good luck to you and thank god I survived and am out. I remember thinking I just need to finish this I just need to finish this then I'll have my ASN and they can't take that away.

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Specializes in Adult Psych.

It sounds like he's just a classic jerk.

The above advice is best, to just say, "Whoever you missed me," make him notice you noticed that he left you out. So what if he doesn't talk to you, he sounds like someone you wouldn't want to talk to anyway, I wouldn't want to talk to a kid like that. If he'd giggling at you, well that's rude. Again, call him out. "Is there something you find funny?" "Do you think you can do better, prove it, here take over. No? I didn't think so." ect. These people never expect you to call them out or speak out openly. They step back immediately afterwards. If they don't, you take it up with the proff. Nursing school is not the place for juvenile teasing. The worst thing for you to do is to sit and be passive.

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I say this is the beginning of bullying between you and this guy. He's trying to measure how much he can push you, this is your time to "push" back. Be BRAVE, the next time he skips you before that paper gets handed out to the next person, say "hey, I need a paper." Period, and not a whisper, loud. LOUD. People may call you a wimp or a baby but reality is perception and the more anxious or scared you get he will know like a dog sniffing , he will pick up that scent. Plz give us an update, preferably how you called him out on that crap :D Good luck!

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
The worst thing for you to do is to sit and be passive.

THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!! :yes:

DON'T be passive, use the suggestions and keep learning :yes:

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Specializes in Med/Surg, LTACH, LTC, Home Health.

Just had a premonition! His future self must have put the mustache and tears on the sedated surgical patient that's trending now...

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
Just had a premonition! His future self must have put the mustache and tears on the sedated surgical patient that's trending now...

Oh my!!!! Karma...:wacky:

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