here you are just graduating from nursing school
and i'm wondering if you learned anything at all while you were in school? one of the first things you should have been taught was to base your assessment of situations on facts
, not conjecture, supposition, or gossip. gossip, no matter where it comes from, is not necessarily factual, nor it is a good source of assessment information when taken by itself. along with your education you must have had some psychology as well. while i'm not so sure you ever heard of a book called games people play: the basic handbook of transactional analysis
by eric berne, m.d., you might want to look for a copy of it in a library sometime and leaf through it. it tells about how people play little mind games with each other to get attention and sometimes unfair advantage over others. we all do it to some extent. some people do it for very cruel reasons and mostly to fulfill personal neediness. gossip is one way of playing these games. if you want to believe your "friend", who i am not so sure is such a great friend for telling you the things she did, then go ahead. however, i would sure hate to base my future career on someone else's assessment and judgment. it sounds more to me like she's doing some dysfunctional jealousy thing though.
if this is the way you make decisions in your life, then you've learned nothing in nursing school and about science. facts. gather all your facts first
. that's the first step of the nursing process (assessment). you haven't even met or interacted with these people yet and you have already jumped to a conclusion about them. do you think you are ready to manage patient care? i 'd have my doubts about the critical thinking abilities of any nurse who might be willing to let stupid gossip from a casual acquaintance rule an important decision in their life. you're going to be an rn, not a milquetoast! knowing this, i'd also be thinking about whether or not this person would be capable of making decisions about the care and managment of icu patients due to failure to gather enough pertinent data first.
loose lips sink ships.