My husband is driving me crazy..... - page 3

We got into an argument last night because of me being registered for A&P II for January. He thinks I should not take the course because I had such a tough time this fall. He thinks I should take... Read More

  1. by   jude11142
    Hi Deb,

    Follow your heart. If you always wanted to become a nurse, then go for it!!! I went back to school at the age of 40 and now at 43, I am in school for RN(I am an LPN). I do understand what you are saying as I used to be very undecisive. I would also start something, then not finish or I would decide upon what I wanted to do and then not follow through. During those times, I was going through alot of personal problems(divorce, health problems etc). It wasn't until I realized that I was in charge of my own future that I changed. I also met a wonderful man(now married to him) who supported my decisions. He has and still is behind me all the way. Sometimes, it even get alittle embarrassing because he is so proud that I went back to school to follow my dream of becoming a nurse that he beams as he tells others that I am a nurse. LOL, it's cute but as I said, I get embarrassed at times.
    You do need a support system though. So, whether it's your family or friends or this site, it is vital to have that support. I sincerely hope that your husband isn't so negative and isn't putting you down. I'm sorry if I am off-base here, don't mean no disrespect at all, but my first marriage was very verbally and then physically abusive and I see/hear some things that hit me wrong. I'll end those thoughts right now and get back to topic.

    You can do it if that's what you want. It's very hard work going back to school at 20 and even harder when you are older and have other responsibilities(children,husband, bills etc)but it can be done. It will also make you feel better about yourself as you learn new things, pass exams, meet new people. Good luck, and remember, be confident!!!

    JUDE
  2. by   majrn
    Good luck Deb, glad your husband apologized, I am sure he is feeling inadequate about being able to handle all of the things that you do at home and doing it as well as you. Keep your chin up, and focus on your goals. You will not be sorry that you kept on going. Nursing is very rewarding.
  3. by   Dr. Kate
    I'm going to stick my neck out and be something of a devil's advocate here.
    When I read your first post, I had a sense of concern on the part of your husband. Sometimes people like parents and spouses know us better than we think they do, or would like them to. It sounds as if your husband sees skills and talents in you that you may not be aware of or are dismissing. Since you're not 21, I'm going to presume you can handle honest discussion with a loved one. Ask him what makes him think you wouldn't make a nurse. Since you mentioned social work as an alternative, I think your husband may be seeing something in you you're missing. SW and nursing are very different, though they both are ways of working with and helping people.
    You might want to consider going to see a career counselor at you school. A good career counselor will help you look at the various alternatives in careers, help you ask the right questions of yourself and others, and generally assist in the clarification process. In other words, they guide you in doing a lot of hard work.
    I don't like to suggest that someone shouldn't go into nursing if that's what they think they want to do, but sometimes it's really not the right place for someone. (For example, my friend, the career counselor, was a nurse aid when I met her, wanted to be a nurse, and I was the one who told her she wasn't cut out to be a nurse. But, she's a great career counselor. Still works with and helps people.)

    Whatever you decide, don't let anyone else make you think you're less than what you know yourself to be. People only have as much power over you as you give to them.

    Good luck.
  4. by   LilgirlRN
    Follow your dream, it's yours not his.
  5. by   Vmommyx4_RN
    Originally posted by Sleepyeyes
    PS..... What he doesn't know, and you will soon learn, is that RN's ARE MANAGERS.

    once again, the public perception of nurses is a lil bit off the mark
    Thank you and Thank you. Who does he think is running things??? Not just in the medical field but in the home, are you not already a nurse and administrator full time at home???

    As a married mother of four, I say yes!!!!

    You are more than qualified and capable of being a nurse. And besides, grades are great, but I know some excellent nurses that struggled getting through school. Some classes are harder for each of us. Hold your head up and go girl go!!!!

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