Maybe working isn't such a good idea for me

  1. I started working as a nurse's aide a couple of months ago. The job itself is fine, but my time committment to school will be increasing, plus I'm a stay-at-home mom by day. I only work one shift every other weekend--the minimum at my facility--which doesn't sound like a whole lot, but it is getting to be a lot. I know lots of moms go to school full time and work full time, and I hate to seem like I'm wimping out because I'm just PRN but it's starting to be too much. Especially because this summer I will have a 6-day committment to school every other week ("only" 3 days the other weeks). I like the facility I'm at and don't want to cloud my reputation with them--I may want to work there as an RN in a couple of years. And I want to have my foot in the door come hiring time. And I like getting some skills and people experience. I'm not sure what to do. I feel like I ought to stick with it.
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  2. 14 Comments

  3. by   bargainhound
    Sometimes you can stay on as a prn employee and just schedule work when you know you will be available. You may be able to just work one or two shifts a month and still stay on as their employee. You may even be able to go on a leave of absence. Some employers will work with you. It can't hurt to ask.
  4. by   dianacs
    I do just work the minimum of two shifts a month. So, cutting back would have to mean quitting. I thought about the LOA, but my school responsibilities aren't going to decrease any time soon. Plus, I've only been there a couple of months and probably wouldn't qualify for that. I wonder if there is some kind of 90-day rule where they don't hold it against you if it doesn't work out. I'll have to look into that.
  5. by   SingingNurse2
    Whatever you do, just be honest and up front - ask your supervisor what he/she thinks you should do. By putting the ball in their court it will show them that you are dependable and not just wimping out.
  6. by   susanmary
    Reread your post. Although you sound a bit conflicted, I believe that you want to quit your position. You're already balancing nursing school and motherhood -- it's not easy. If you hand in a professional letter of resignation, give at least 2 weeks' notice, and are up front -- you will not be burning bridges. You can always keep in touch with your contacts via email, etc. There is a nursing shortage -- they will want you back. It's hard to find balance with the demands on your life -- simplify as much as you can ... enjoy being a stay-at-home mom while you can ...
  7. by   Mimi Wheeze
    Yes! Exactly what susanmary said.
  8. by   marilynmom
    I agree. I am also a mother of 2 kids (4 yrs old and a 15 month old) and am in school full time and am a SAHM by day as well. I *was* working but also quit. I just am not organized enough and I didnt have to work so I choose not to at this time. Id rather focus on school right now.

    Im also planning on homeschooling my oldest this year to so there is no way I can work that all in without something else failing.

    Give them a 2 week notice and just let them know why you are quitting, you wont burn briges that way. And dont feel guilty about it either

    Marilyn
  9. by   RNIAM
    Give up the work. That seems to be what you want. Good luck in your decision whatever it might be.
  10. by   Nurse Ratched
    As long as you quit with appropriate notice and leave on good terms, I have no doubt you will be elgibile for rehire at that facility once you graduate, if that's still what you want then.

    Certainly if you don't have to work during school (and it certainly sounds like you have enough on your plate *besides* working) then don't. The aide experience is nice for a new nurse, but not necessary. Mgt just cares that new hires have a pulse and a license .
  11. by   Scavenger'sWife
    I agree with the other posters...I think you need to hand in a nice letter of resignation and with 2 weeks notice, to leave on good terms. With the nursing shortage, there should be no problem getting emplyment after school...besides, you may completely change your mind after school and want to work in a different place and a different position. If you stay at the ECF you are working now until you graduate, the place might put undue pressure on you to accept an RN position there, when you really might have other plans.

    I tried working while in school, and lasted 4 months. I was working in a doctors' office and just thought it wasn't worth it. I wanted to concentrate on my studies and get the best grades I could. I feel it is better to get good grades and learn all you can in school than to get "experience" by working. If you can afford to not work, then by golly, don't. Your kids need you more. (And I didn't even have kids at home...mine were grown ups. I really feel for the ones who have to balance kids with school...you have my admiration!!!)

    Good luck! Keep us posted.
  12. by   Angella Walker
    Relax and remember what is most important to you. I love being a wife and a mother to 5 children. When family life suffers due to outside influences, maybe you should decrease your credit hours. I am 28 and I would hate to miss out on the milestones my children attain or neglecting my dh. I have no problem reducing my credit hours for the sake of my family. I do work full time and attend school full time but if there is conflict, I don't feel guilty about reducing work or school hours. I determined my priorities prior to enrolling in school. Everything is relative. If it takes you 10 years to finish school....so what.
  13. by   dianacs
    Thank you all for your advice. I think I am going to give it at least one more month, which would then be the end of the semester (and only 3 more shifts). If I do leave, it needs to be on a high note. I worked 2 eves ago and it was horrible. I made SO MANY mistakes. Even though I'm still relatively new I should have known better about these things I messed up on. Really really stupid things too. My head was totally up my a**. I wish I could share it and get it off my chest, but you never know who reads these things. At the very least the nurses I worked with must have thought I was a total ditz. I know a bad day at work happens to everyone now and then but mine could have largely been avoided. Naturally, having had a bad day coupled with my feelings that I discussed in my original post makes me want to run far, far away and not look back. So, like I said, I'm going to hang in there so that if and when I do leave, my last impression (on me) will be a positive one.
  14. by   Mimi Wheeze
    Hang in there, diana. You can vent on here anytime you want. You will probably be much less stressed when you finally do resign.

    It's better to realize your limitations and do what is best for yourself and your family than to burn out and melt down.

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