married/engaged/involved students, how are you juggling your relationship w/ school?

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First semester for me was rough. Hubby didn't understand the rigors of nursing school and felt neglected. I was doing my very best but after clinical, studying, care plans, being mommy and getting ready for the next day, I was never in the mood for anything remotely romantic or sexual. That led to some infidelity on his part and although we're working through it, I'm afraid that this next year of school is going to be the same way. This semester I have two clinicals and longer hours so that means more work and time away. I'm also working weekends and he works nights throughout the week. He's also going back to school full time this semester. It sounds like a lot but we have bills to pay, goals to accomplish and a mouth to feed. I'm so afraid my dedication to nursing school is going to be the death of my relationship. I try my best to do lunch dates or spend what little time we have together but what if that's not enough?

How are you all making time for your significant other?

Specializes in Transitional Nursing.

Oh HELLLL no!! Sorry darlin but your hubby acted like a five letter word that starts with P and ends with k.....

Hubby and I know we wont see each other much when I am in NS. I dont thinl hell cheat on me while I'm hitting the books though. Imo your husband cheating is a whole nother problem than youb being in NS. So sorry I do wish you the best. Youre a better woman than I to be working through it.

I say, stay strong. If u are going to forgive, just never ever forget that when times got rough he got to running. Then ask your self, if he will cheat on you while your trying to better yourself for the sake of your family, then just imagine what else would give him an excuse to cheat on you for. At this point try to stay focused and keep telling yourself, "the time is going to go by regardless so I mine as well be doing something productive because if I let this man stress me out, I am not going to graduate. And if he does not care about that then I need too. When I graduate I will be a happier me".. A zibra does not change it's stripes. Trust me dear, i know where your coming from. But one man don't stop no show. :) Parden any spelling errors, I'm on my phone. Good luck with what ever you decide.

OK - I sense some blame-shifting here.... OP, you can accept responsibility for any problems with your marriage, but the infidelity is ALL HIM. Not your fault. There are a jillion different ways he could have reacted, but his choice was the one that was guaranteed to completely destroy your trust & cause you the most psychological damage. Don't accept any of the blame for his choice. You now know beyond a shadow of a doubt that he does not have your back & this will make nursing school very much more difficult for you unless you choose to completely detach from him.

At the very least, please seek some m counseling - don't just ignore and hope it goes away. It won't.

It might go away. Maybe he has truly repented and will be faithful from now on.

OP, do as others have suggested. Have a little talk with him, but don't make him feel more guilty than he might already. He'll resent that.

Do try to be there for each other as much as possible. You might hire a sitter 2 or 3 times per week so you and hub can be alone together. It will be well worth the price. Trade off babysitting with other families if $ is a problem.

Keep your troubles private. No one at school needs to know your personal biz.

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