Quote from sistermike
Thank you all for your input -- I think I was just so upset about the entire scenario that I needed some advice. I have decided not to write a letter to the dean. Thank you Crystal for your wonderful advice about empowerment. I never looked at the scenario that way! (BTW, I have to comment on the comment you made regarding shes not my girlfriend. Hopefully my original post didn't in any way imply there was anything more to our student-teacher relationship -- hell, shes married to a doctor and I'm gay... haha. I don't think anything would work out!
Again, thank you all for your wonderful advice!
I am glad you decided to back off. I had a professor that confided alot to me as well. I was horrified with the things she shared with me about the program director, who also hated my guts. But, I would not consider writing this letter and I never even thought about intervening for this professor that confided in me; either...not once. Nursing school
is a political gutter. You will see this for yourself. You may be an innocent bystander and get caught up in the mess and it is stressful enough to deal with this as a student trying to achieve a goal. This instructor got her stuff already, and somehow, I don't believe that she will have a hard time trying to find a job. But, YOU will have a hard time if you intervene...you can find yourself being blackballed by all of the instructors you have to work through to get YOUR license.
I had instructors from my Patient Care Associate program that I remained friends with. In fact, years later, they did come to me and asked for reference letters from me from the perspective of a student when they applied for positions in colleges. I wrote them gladly. But, do not place yourself in a political mess so early in your road to nursing. Believe me, you will have your own problems as time goes on and the last thing you need is a connection to controversy.