left crying!

  1. I dont know why but I left class crying today! We were doing health assesment and I didnt have a partner so I was just practicing on myself (lymp nodes) well the teacher made a HUGE deal out of it in class and that embarrased me so I quickly paired up with two other girls right next to me. Anyways the teacher then started telling me "what are you afraid of" I was pissed she was making such a scene she stopped the WHOLE class for this! I just said nothing and shot her a dirty look ( I know I shouldnt have but I was embarrased and pissed!) Anyway the rest of the class goes fine I do what we are supposed to do and everything. Well, I get up to leave at the end of class and the teacher came over and started talking to me. Keep in mind the WHOLE class is still there and have now crowded around my desk to see what she is going to say. She tells me I need to praticipate and do the "hands on" stuff blah blah blah and if I dont she will fail me! Its not like I didnt want to do it I just didnt want to make a big scene about not finding a partner that wasnt already paired up (we were only supposed to be in groups of two). She talked to me for about 5 minutes about how she would fail me and has failed people in the past and how am I going to make it as a nurse and all that. I was so embarrased! I didnt want to start crying in front of her or the class so I just shook my head ok and left quickly! One girl stopped me on the way out and told me how wrong she thought that was that the teacher would confront me like that and I just said Yeah and walked away with tears in my eyes. I am such a private person, but I DONT mind doing stuff in class!! I just couldnt find a partner, period! I left school crying in my car all the way home, and I dont even know why! I am sorry this is so long but I am just upset.
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  3. by   mariedoreen
    I am so sorry, that instructor was on a complete power trip. When instructors (or anyone in authority) tear you down in public for something that's not even an issue you have to recognize that it says far more about their faults, issues, and inabilities than it does yours. Your classmates recognized this fact and that's why one made a point to stop you and lend you some support. For crying out loud, all that instructor had to do was say "Julie, go ahead and join Stacie and Leslie since we don't have an even number today..." and move on. That instructor has major problems.
  4. by   Danianne
    I am so sad that happened to you. You were just following instructions. She should have talked to you privately. I am not really a good advice giver so I hope that the rest of your classes go fine and chin up. :flowersfo :flowersfo
  5. by   devi
    I don't really have any great advice or anything, tx2007. But I can empathize because I can so see that sort of thing happening to me. I think I might have ended up crying, too, in your position.
    :icon_hug:
    Sorry this happened to you. Your teacher was wrong to make it a scene for your classmates to overhear. If she was concerned, she should have spoken to you later in private when the rest of them were gone. Without the added embarrassment of the others watching, you could have probably been calm enough to explain why you supposedly weren't participating.
  6. by   tx2007
    Quote from mariedoreen
    I am so sorry, that instructor was on a complete power trip. When instructors (or anyone in authority) tear you down in public for something that's not even an issue you have to recognize that it says far more about their faults, issues, and inabilities than it does yours. Your classmates recognized this fact and that's why one made a point to stop you and lend you some support. For crying out loud, all that instructor had to do was say "Julie, go ahead and join Stacie and Leslie since we don't have an even number today..." and move on. That instructor has major problems.

    That makes sense but I felt like a complete idiot! I agree with you but I guess she wants me to stand on top of my desk and stop the class and yell "hey wait I need a partner!!!" LMAO I am trying not to let her get me down! I only have her one day a week this semester and then I wont see her again until fourth semester!! But then I will have her three days a week! YIKES!
  7. by   tx2007
    Quote from devi
    I don't really have any great advice or anything, tx2007. But I can empathize because I can so see that sort of thing happening to me. I think I might have ended up crying, too, in your position.
    :icon_hug:
    Sorry this happened to you. Your teacher was wrong to make it a scene for your classmates to overhear. If she was concerned, she should have spoken to you later in private when the rest of them were gone. Without the added embarrassment of the others watching, you could have probably been calm enough to explain why you supposedly weren't participating.

    I feel like now she has it out for me!! I really like all my other teachers and have NEVER had a problem so I guess thats another reason this bothers me so much!
  8. by   Shadelyn
    Wow. It really irritates me when people in positions of "respect" have no respect for others. I am certain that I would have reacted the same as you did. Just know that you are the bigger person and that no one ever has the right to speak to you like that especially over something so small. I wouldn't let her see that she got to you or that might just further the power trip that she is on. It is so hard to think of a reply to a situation like that on the spot, but if she does it again you might want to calmly suggest that this is not an appropriate time or place for the discussion, but you would be happy to meet with her about it another time. Good luck.
  9. by   smk1
    Quote from tx2007
    That makes sense but I felt like a complete idiot! I agree with you but I guess she wants me to stand on top of my desk and stop the class and yell "hey wait I need a partner!!!" LMAO I am trying not to let her get me down! I only have her one day a week this semester and then I wont see her again until fourth semester!! But then I will have her three days a week! YIKES!
    i am not in nursing school yet, but know that others have had similar experiences last year when i was in A&P. My advice is that you make it your mission to NOT let this woman fail you. KNOW YOUR STUFF inside and out, this woman will get off on failing you and anyone else. DON"T GIVE HER THE SATISFACTION! do what you have to to make sure you get through this "womans" class, and don't let her see you cry.
  10. by   tx2007
    Quote from SMK1
    i am not in nursing school yet, but know that others have had similar experiences last year when i was in A&P. My advice is that you make it your mission to NOT let this woman fail you. KNOW YOUR STUFF inside and out, this woman will get off on failing you and anyone else. DON"T GIVE HER THE SATISFACTION! do what you have to to make sure you get through this "womans" class, and don't let her see you cry.
    I have my first test with her next week and I really am trying to study and show her that I can do this and not let her know she bothered me on bit!
  11. by   tx2007
    Quote from Aleasha
    Wow. It really irritates me when people in positions of "respect" have no respect for others. I am certain that I would have reacted the same as you did. Just know that you are the bigger person and that no one ever has the right to speak to you like that especially over something so small. I wouldn't let her see that she got to you or that might just further the power trip that she is on. It is so hard to think of a reply to a situation like that on the spot, but if she does it again you might want to calmly suggest that this is not an appropriate time or place for the discussion, but you would be happy to meet with her about it another time. Good luck.

    I talked to some other people and they said this is what they do to try and "break us" so that wehn a Dr. yells at us we can handle it @@ WHATEVER I think I will take your advice and tell her its not the appropriate time and place next time!
  12. by   Jessy_RN
    I'm so sorry about this. I think the instructor was inapropriate to "single you out" that way. She talked to you, and you gave her an answer End of story! She kept it up and belittled you.

    You need to speak to her in private and let her know what happened and how you DON'T appreciate the way she talked to you and moreover that she didn't pull you aside and make a show. :angryfire

    Hope things get better.
  13. by   Mona Mona
    Wow. I'm so sorry that happened to you.:icon_hug:

    I'll have to toughen up also before nursing school, if this is what they do to "break us."

    Just "be all you can be" and show her that you are the better person, and will not let her get to you.

    Good Luck!
  14. by   tx2007
    You need to speak to her in private and let her know what happened and how you DON'T appreciate the way she talked to you and moreover that she didn't pull you aside and make a show. :angryfire



    I thought about going into her office tommorrow and talking to her about it, but I dont know if it will just make things worse?!? I don't want her to think she got the best of me, but at the same time it wasnt the right thing for her to do IMO. I dont know I think I will just let it blow over this time and if it happens again I will tell her I dont think it is appropriate and that it really hurt she should take people aside and talk to them and not make a "scene." :stone

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