Just wanted to say Hi new to the board

  1. Hey Everyone! I am new to the board just wanted to say hi to everyone! I am starting my pre req's this fall and hopefully will be in nursing school next fall. I am a mother and wife(of 2 kids count the husband that is 3, I should say). I am very nervous about starting because I do not know what to expect. I have wanted to be a nurse for a long time and I know that I can. I was just wondering tho, does anybody else or did anybody else feel this way at first? Also, did your husband in one sentence say, "I support you" but in the next sentence say, " You only think of yourself". I guess that is why I am so afraid because I think that he is not going to support me and help me with the kids and the things that I need to do. I would love to hear from anybody that has gone through this and what you did to overcome it. I have heard irfrom the time I was little. My parents are the same way they always found a way to be negative about everything I did. I was never good enough for them. Is there a way to overcome this.
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  3. by   RedSox33RN
    Your story sounds very similar to mine. I have been working on pre-req's for a few years, and really the only ones that have supported me 100% have been my parents. Now it is just my father, as my mother passed away suddenly about 7 months ago (which breaks my heart that she didn't live long enough to see me get into nursing school). My husband has been supportive *at times*, but there has been several times he's said stuff like "who will be here for the kids?" (we have 4, oldest is 13 and babysits for her 3 younger brothers, youngest is almost 8) and that I'm only becoming a nurse so I can "find myself a rich doctor" (gimme a little bit of credit here, wouldya?? I didn't speak to him for a week after THAT one!). Now he is changing his tune and has realized how hard I've worked, and that is finally paying off. It still hurts though - A LOT!

    Keeping working toward your dream! I've often thought that if I'd become a nurse from the moment I considered it, I would have been one for almost 14 years now. Nothing is going to stop me now! I hope you don't let anyone get you down or stand in your way.

    Welcome to the board!
  4. by   Altra
    Quote from RNBOUND
    Also, did your husband in one sentence say, "I support you" but in the next sentence say, " You only think of yourself".
    Boy, does this sound familiar ...

    Bottom line - you have to do this for yourself, not for someone else's approval. You will grow in ways that aren't even apparent to you right now.

    Best of luck to you, and welcome!
  5. by   TopCat1234
    i'm lucky - my husband is supportive, even if it puts us in the poorhouse.

    but i wanted to welcome you to allnurses!

    topcat
  6. by   ARmickie
    Quote from topcat1234
    i'm lucky - my husband is supportive, even if it puts us in the poorhouse.

    topcat
    lol.. ain't that the truth!

    my dh is very supportive right now, and he's actually the one pushing me the hardest. i can only hope his support doesn't start to waiver as school gets underway... good luck!
  7. by   P_RN
    Welcome to the family. My story is similar as are many others' here. It took me from1962 til 1974 to get my RN. It seemed like forever back then but now it seems like yesterday. I'm retired now but still enjoy seeing new nurses come along. Best wishes on achieving your goal.
  8. by   shel_wny
    Welcome! You are among many people just like yourself, including me.
    It's definitely scary to commit yourself like this and put so much on the line. My husband is completely supportive of whatever I do, but I understand that it's sooo much easier because we don't have kids that live with us. (He has 2 beautiful little girls who live with their mom.) I will continue to work full-time for as long as I possibly can and through the whole thing I hope. Child support needs to be paid and school needs to be paid for!

    I have only been hanging around here a short time but I've found everyone to be wonderful and completely supportive. Not a bad apple here, really. Enjoy and ask a whole bunch of questions. They never go unanswered.

    Shel
  9. by   agent
    WELCOME!

    Dont worry my wife isn't supportive either.. I think it comes with the territory.

    26 yr old male 2 boys < 3

    Class of 07 (Better Be!)

    If there's anything I can do to help let me know.
  10. by   Purple Hugs
    Hi and Welcome!


    I'm in the UK so things are a tad different study wise. I am looking at starting my first year in Sept then move onto a 3 year nursing course after that (fingers crossed).

    I also had a parent (lone) that compared me against others, and made comments etc against my intelligence. It's taken me years to realise that I have more of a brain than I thought.

    I am at 32, only now able with the support of my hubby to contemplate going to college / uni.

    I also, like you all, hope that the support lasts. One thing though, men just don't seem capable mostly of noticiing the jobs around the house that need doing. Even the basics like washing up etc!! Must be something genetic I think :chuckle .

    Good luck with your studies, try and talk to your spouse about how you feel. Thank him for his support and ask him for more when you feel it's lacking. I'm sure he want's you to be happy.
  11. by   manna
    Welcome!

    My husband is semi-supportive, but he lives on the other side of the state (because of his job), so there's not much he's going to be able to help out with during school (other than monetarily, but not much so even with that - he's not rich by any means, and it's expensive to support two households).

    I'm blessed, though, that I have a VERY supportive family (parents and grandparents) and church "family."

    I'm 27, and have 2 boys (5 and 2). Will be starting a BSN program full-time (and quitting my job) July 7th! Woohoo! :hatparty:
  12. by   Jen2
    Hello and welcome!!! I am single, but I have a lack of support also. My mom has been very unsupportive but I forced her to read Echo Heron's book Critical Care, and she now understands a little better the stressors that I go through. You will find your biggest support system to be your classmates, because they know what you are going through. Best of luck to you!
  13. by   Energizer Bunny
    My husband is supportive for now, but once fall hits and I am well and truly into the program...well, who knows?

    Welcome to All Nurses!
  14. by   mom and nurse
    Welcome RNBOUND and hello. I have a supportive family. My husband (and 5 teenagers). I've survived though the road's been a rough one. Take it one day at a time..... :hatparty:

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